confused mother said:
What is the name of your state?california
can my mother take my son away from me if i move out of state? i'm married and have a 5 yr. old son. the bio father hasn't been a part of child's life since child was born, and also wants nothing to do with child. he has no legal documentation saying he is the father. my boyfriend wants to move with me and my son. i dont want to leave my mother, but where we will be moving to is way cheaper, the schools are way better, and the environment , i think would be better for my son. my mom threatend me, saying if i move away from her she will try to take my son away from me. can my mother do this?
Since you started three different threads and give conflicting "facts" and even claim first to be married and then make reference to your boyfriend, therefore I don't believe anything you say re the bio dad, your reasons for moving seem suspect and there may very likely be something your mother can do to get custody.
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=296173
confused mother said:
What is the name of your state? California
I have a 5 year old son, who my mother says can't move out of state with me. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, soon to be married. He wants to move back to Oregon with me and my son. I want to, but i'm afraid. My sons father denied him when i was pregnant. Saying the child wasn't his. He has no proof stating he is the father. Example:no name on birth certificate, and no other documentation with him saying he is the father. My mother says if i move out of state, he could file kidnapping charges against me. Is this true? Can I still move or do I need his permission?
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=296236
confused mother said:
What is the name of your state? california
my son is a junior. will i be able to change his middle and last name without the consent of the father. he hasn't been a part of the child's life since the child was born, and want's nothing to do with me or my son. for those not fully understanding my question, let me explain a little more. my son is 5 years old. his bio father wants nothing to do with me or my son. he has no legal documentation what so ever in any way linking him to my son. therfore my question is, can i change his middle and last name if the bio father is not leagally documented the father and doesn't have any contact with child, nor has he been in child's life ever since birth? the reason my son is a junior is because when i was pregnant the bio father of my son threatend my life if the child wasn't named after him, regardless of if he wanted nothing at all to do with child.
Now until you come back and tell the truth and what is going on the only advice I am going to give you is, since you want to stay near your mother, you need to put your child's best interest ahead of any control your boyfrined has over you and your child's future. If there is any domestic violence it is possible for your mother to get custody.
Please answer these questions.
How old are you?
How old were you when you got pregnant?
How old was the biodad when you got pregnant?
Was the biodad at the hospital? Did he sign any papers?
Did you apply for state aid or medi-cal or wic?
Do you know where the biodad is?
Do you work?
Why do you believe moving to Oregon with your boyfriend is going to be so much better for your child than staying in California where the child is in a stable environment if you really want to remain near your mother?
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confused mother said:
What is the name of your state? ca
first of all i missed typing a word in my last question. we will soon be getting married. i am 21 yrs. old. i was 15 when i had my son. the father was not even around during my pregnancy. he threatened that if the child is his to give him his name or he would hurt me or my son. i got a restraining order in case he ever tried to come around. yes i do think living with my boyfriend would be better. my son loves him, amd he loves my son. i want to stay with my mother because she always says that if i leave her she will make my life a living hell, by trying to take my son away from me. i work 2 jobs(1 at home the other at a buisness). i am the only one financially supporting my son at this time. my boyfriend,or excuse me, fiancee is also helping a great deal. i call him my boyfriend because we are not yet married. i don't really use the term fiancee. basically i want to know if it is o.k to move with my son. my mother is always saying that i can't. regardless of if his father has no parental rights. i just want whats best for my son. my mother is very controlling, and wants my son to live with her. i don't. she lets him do whatever he wants, whenever he wants. we always argue because i tell her he is my son and i want him raised properly. please forgive me for the misunderstanding. can i move or not? what should i do?
confused mother said:
thank you. i didn't know how to add a post to my thread. i appreciate it!!!
i didn't know how to do that. i do now, so it won't happen again.
