grandparents....again

[christinaylor]

What is the name of your state? ga

My son's father has not called and initiated his visitation since August. Since December, his grandparents have called and asked if our son could come visit them on several occasions, which I allowed. The court agreement states that the father and I meet halfway for visitations. I called the grandparents and offered them a 4 day visit this weekend, since school will be out and we are moving cross country in a few weeks. I told her that we were extremely busy with the move and that I could not meet her halfway. She claims that our son sees his father while he visits their house, therefore he is excercising his visitation, and I have to meet her halfway. Is this the case? Doesn't the father bear the responsibility for calling to arrange his visitation and not having his mother do it for him? Am I in contempt for not meeting her halfway?

 

[WyattJ]

nothing to do with dad

She is the one asking for the visit not the dad....so I would guess that this has nothing to do with mom and dad or any court orders. So if she wants to see him and your are busy let her come and get him, if she throws her fit oh well move on!

I live in the same town with ex and his parents. One example: Dad calls the other day and asked to have son for hockey game..I told him we already have plans maybe next time. Which I have before we just had plans this time. I found out the next day that it was grandma that wanted our son to take him to the game cuz she got the tickets. I told dad next time just have grandma call and ask cuz when you call and ask it makes me think that you are actually going to do something with him.

There have been times grandma would call or our son would call here and ask to spend time with each other w/out visitation papes and what not. NO PROBLEM and you are more then welcome to come and get him. This time I don't know why she went through her son.

 

[christinaylor]

bump

 

[dixygrl04]

I have just been going thru similar situation, and I live in Tn and grandparents, step-parents, etc have no rights, legally. I have been thru your same situation in the past, my ex had no contact for actually 9 mo, well his parents would call and ask for him to visit with them, which I would allow. But, sometimes later on during that period, his dad would be there, or call, etc. Even at thanksgiving and xmas that year, the dad never called for visit, his family called. Then I had him p/u for cs, and we started going to court, and he tried for custody and even lied on the stand saying I would refuse him to speak to our son, etc on the phone, and he said he came to my house forp/u and I would not be home, or my mother would send him to my house, we would not be there, etc, it was all a total lie, and I could not believe he sat there and cried and lied under oath like that. 1 time during that time I refused him, but he had been living out of state, had no contact, etc, I did not know what was going on, and he never p/u the phone to call me and set up an arrangement. I didn't know what to expect. Now, my ex is supposedly working out of the country and I told him I didn't see the need for our son to come for visit every other wkend with him out of the country, well he nearly insisted on my son coming anyway, to bond with his sisters, etc, which I told him, anytime the stepmom wants to call and p/u for awhile, that would be fine, well they finally agreed I guess, I contacted an attorney and he told me that as long as his dad was out of the country, there was no reason for him to go and step-parents or grandparents, etc have no rights, I was concerned I would be in contempt, due to the visitation order, here while back, my ex was wking over the road and knew he may not be in on visit and I asked then, for him to just see my son when he was home, etc of course, his reply was the same as this time, my attorney at the time, told me I had to let my son go, even if his dad wasn't there because he had the order, etc, but I really wasn't going for it, but I will be seeking a new attorney for future use. I always let my son visit with his grandparents because they were gone alot and he enjoyed it.

 

[christinaylor]

Bump again. Good morning.