grandparent's rights

[ili]

What is the name of your state? Tennessee
My daughter and son-in-law have been denied access to their
grandson. He is a loving 4 yr. old who is very confused I'm sure
as to why he isn't seeing his grandparents or great-grandparents.
His dad has custody and we have helped him in any way we could
with money, tools, etc. Maybe we have done too much. Thru an
attorney they are going to be able to see him once a week. Any
similar experiences? Perhaps his newest wife is jealous of the
relationship they had (a close family) or perhaps its an attack from
satan. These are hard times. Will we ever get a relationship back
with this grandson? Maybe when the drama and any chance to
get property are gone this woman will be gone? That's what
people tell us.

 

[Boxcarbill]

"Maybe when the drama and any chance to get property are gone this woman will be gone? That's what people tell us."

So long as this attitude persists against your grandson's wife, the relationships will only continue the downward spiral. [Don't lay this on the devil. God created lawyers so that people wouldn't blame the devil for everything.]

 

[nextwife]

" God created lawyers so that people wouldn't blame the devil for everything."

Hadn't heard that one. Thanks, BCB.

 

[ili]

Sorry you don't like my attitude. I am speaking about a person
who will not let her husband speak to anyone in the family alone.
She is treating her husband like a puppet. All we wanted was
contact with the grandson of my daughter and son-in-law. People
who know her say this woman did her ex-husband the same way.
She left him taking everything and he's now trying to pick up the
pieces of his life. Sorry if we're bitter. Her husband was a great
person and he now resorts to having his dad arrested for
stepping on his property (property his parents gave him and on
which his dad erected no trespassing signs for him to keep ex-
wives out). This young man hated a liar more then anything and
now he is one. He told me off when I went to his house one
day. He claims I went up the hill to his porch ranting and raving.
I was just trying to get my breath and couldn't speak until I got up there and he refused to let me speak and says I called his
wife something that isn't in my vocabulary. My husband of almost
half a century says if I said that word it must be true because he
has never heard me use that language. Yes, I believe its the end times and Satan is alive and active. Now I'll get off my soap
box. Thanks for caring enough to respond.

 

[aprilsmom]

What is the name of your state? Tennessee
My daughter and son-in-law have been denied access to their
grandson. He is a loving 4 yr. old who is very confused I'm sure
as to why he isn't seeing his grandparents or great-grandparents.
His dad has custody and we have helped him in any way we could
with money, tools, etc. Maybe we have done too much. Thru an
attorney they are going to be able to see him once a week. Any
similar experiences? Perhaps his newest wife is jealous of the
relationship they had (a close family) or perhaps its an attack from
satan. These are hard times. Will we ever get a relationship back
with this grandson? Maybe when the drama and any chance to
get property are gone this woman will be gone? That's what
people tell us.

That is so sad, my daughters bio-dad is deceased, I allow her to spend as much time with his family as they want. I believe that grandparents are very important in a childs life.

 

[ili]

Thank you so much. There are good people out there. This little
boy has had too many losses in his life and is confused. His dad
went from a loving father to a strict disciplinarian and his mom
sees him only on weekends. We are so anxious to again be a
big part of his life. God bless you.

 

[Kim328]

I am so sorry to hear that your son-in-law is excluding you from your grandson's life.

The same situation happened with my children and my family in FL. The new girlfriend (then became wife) was very jealous of my family, how much they had helped my ex-husband after we got divorced, and the affinity the children have toward them. I believe she had my ex cut my family off from the children because she felt that that would help her establish her position as the "Mom" and perhaps win over the children's affection and dependence on her instead. Unfortunately, it backfired on her. The children began to resent her and my ex for keeping them from my family. My ex still does not get it.

Are there grandparent rights in TN? You could consult some family law attorneys in your state to find out what your options are or if you have any. In FL, all attorneys informed my family that grandparents do not have rights. Perhaps your daughter could bring your grandson over to visit with you when she has visitation? I don't know what your daughter's situation is or how she figures in.

I DO know that my opinion is that CHILDREN have rights. It is your grandson's right to have all of his family members involved in his life. Unless your ex son-in-law can prove that your family is detrimental to your grandson, then it is in your grandson's "best interest" to have all of the moral support from his WHOLE family.

Furthermore, I feel that there is such a stereo-type in the world regarding divorced single mothers and how they are spiteful to their ex-husbands by trying to exclude them from the childrens' lives. In many cases, this may be true. But what about the reverse? Many men that take custody of their children tend to engage in the exact same behavior. That tends to be complicated by the women they become involved with trying to control everyone. Whew!

Why can't everyone just be civil for the children? They are the ones that are truly hurt in all of these terrible battles.

Sorry for the soapbox. It just seems that in my personal experiences that gender discrimination still abounds in the 21st century.

 

[Boxcarbill]

I am so sorry to hear that your son-in-law is excluding you from your grandson's life.

The same situation happened with my children and my family in FL. The new girlfriend (then became wife) was very jealous of my family, how much they had helped my ex-husband after we got divorced, and the affinity the children have toward them. I believe she had my ex cut my family off from the children because she felt that that would help her establish her position as the "Mom" and perhaps win over the children's affection and dependence on her instead. Unfortunately, it backfired on her. The children began to resent her and my ex for keeping them from my family. My ex still does not get it.

Are there grandparent rights in TN? You could consult some family law attorneys in your state to find out what your options are or if you have any. In FL, all attorneys informed my family that grandparents do not have rights. Perhaps your daughter could bring your grandson over to visit with you when she has visitation? I don't know what your daughter's situation is or how she figures in.

I DO know that my opinion is that CHILDREN have rights. It is your grandson's right to have all of his family members involved in his life. Unless your ex son-in-law can prove that your family is detrimental to your grandson, then it is in your grandson's "best interest" to have all of the moral support from his WHOLE family.

Furthermore, I feel that there is such a stereo-type in the world regarding divorced single mothers and how they are spiteful to their ex-husbands by trying to exclude them from the childrens' lives. In many cases, this may be true. But what about the reverse? Many men that take custody of their children tend to engage in the exact same behavior. That tends to be complicated by the women they become involved with trying to control everyone. Whew!

Why can't everyone just be civil for the children? They are the ones that are truly hurt in all of these terrible battles.

Sorry for the soapbox. It just seems that in my personal experiences that gender discrimination still abounds in the 21st century.

The following quote is taken from the original poster's post. "Thru an attorney they are going to be able to see him once a week."

 

[Kim328]

Sorry for not reading thoroughly. I suppose they are not being completely cut out then.

 

[ili]

Kim, Thank you. It isn't my son-in-law who is excluding us from
our grandson's life but our grandson is excluding us from our
great-grandson's life. He is also excluding his parents from their
grandson's life and my daughter kept him from the time he was
6 weeks old until this third marriage except for brief tries with
baby sitters. They will be seeing him one day a week now and
we will be included although great-gandparents really have no
rights. This 4 year old loves us all and we were suddenly excluded from his life. I know that has hurt him. Please keep
us all in your prayers. We see the boy Thursday.