Guardianship of Child Under 18

[micbur]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? GA

Have a question....here is some background information.

In 2003 we adopted two boys...they were brothers from our ex-sister-in-laws first marriage. She married my wiles brother and had two more children with him. In 2001 she ran off and they eventually divorced. In order to keep the 4 children together we asked her to give us guardianship of the two boys from her first marriage which she did.. My wiles brother had no legal right to care for them....the bio-dad had his parental rights taken away....and the mother at the time did not/could not care for 4 children. Again...in 2003 we officially adopted them....she never showed up in court to object.

In Jan 2009 the older boy decided he did not want to live by our rules and we granted guardianship to his bio-dad. In the next few months we found out that the boy was no longer living with the bio-dad but had move out and was living with the paternal grandmother. We were not notified about this change. Now we recently found out that the boy has moved out of state and is living with his bio-mother in Kentucky. Again we have not been notified by the courts of this. Is it legal for...for the guardian to allow the child to live somewhere else? We are still the boys parents and had only given the bio-dad guardianship. has the bio-dad and/or bio-mother broken any laws related to guardianship? We are very upset about this.....

 

[ecmst12]

So basically, you gave guardianship of your child to someone else and then forgot about him? No visits, no regular contact?

 

[micbur]

I have no idea how you read that into my posting.

But we have tried to have regular contact with him since January....phone calls, text message and social networking sites (myspace & facebook)...this past october we visited the area and spent the day as together. The person to have no contact with him or his brother has been his mother who took all four children and placed them in seperate places when she decided to leave my wifes brother. She never showed up at the courthouse the day of the adoption and she had been notified and you want to say that we abandoned him!!

We gave guardianship to the bio-logical father after we gave our son a choice....quit smoking (under age and especially in the house as he almost caught his room on fire!!) or have to arrange different living arrangements. His response was "Sorry I just enjoy smoking too much". Called his bio-dad (whos parental right had been taken away years earlier by the mother) asking if he could take his son. His response was let me call you back in about an hour!!!

We did not abondon out son....he abandoned us and his brother for what he thought was greener pastures. 2 months later he was not living with the bio-dad but with the grandmother.....then I heard he was not living with her. Where are the courts that is suppose to be checking up in the childs well-fair?

I would not be here on this site asking these questions if we did not care!! How dare you insinuate this!!!

 

[Isis1]

I have no idea how you read that into my posting.

But we have tried to have regular contact with him since January....phone calls, text message and social networking sites (myspace & facebook)...this past october we visited the area and spent the day as together. The person to have no contact with him or his brother has been his mother who took all four children and placed them in seperate places when she decided to leave my wifes brother. She never showed up at the courthouse the day of the adoption and she had been notified and you want to say that we abandoned him!!

We gave guardianship to the bio-logical father after we gave our son a choice....quit smoking (under age and especially in the house as he almost caught his room on fire!!) or have to arrange different living arrangements. His response was "Sorry I just enjoy smoking too much". Called his bio-dad (whos parental right had been taken away years earlier by the mother) asking if he could take his son. His response was let me call you back in about an hour!!!

We did not abondon out son....he abandoned us and his brother for what he thought was greener pastures. 2 months later he was not living with the bio-dad but with the grandmother.....then I heard he was not living with her. Where are the courts that is suppose to be checking up in the childs well-fair?

I would not be here on this site asking these questions if we did not care!! How dare you insinuate this!!!

you're kidding right?

as the legal guardian, it was YOU there were supposed to looking out for the child's best interest.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

I have no idea how you read that into my posting.

But we have tried to have regular contact with him since January....phone calls, text message and social networking sites (myspace & facebook)...this past october we visited the area and spent the day as together. The person to have no contact with him or his brother has been his mother who took all four children and placed them in seperate places when she decided to leave my wifes brother. She never showed up at the courthouse the day of the adoption and she had been notified and you want to say that we abandoned him!!

We gave guardianship to the bio-logical father after we gave our son a choice....quit smoking (under age and especially in the house as he almost caught his room on fire!!) or have to arrange different living arrangements. His response was "Sorry I just enjoy smoking too much". Called his bio-dad (whos parental right had been taken away years earlier by the mother) asking if he could take his son. His response was let me call you back in about an hour!!!

We did not abondon out son....he abandoned us and his brother for what he thought was greener pastures. 2 months later he was not living with the bio-dad but with the grandmother.....then I heard he was not living with her. Where are the courts that is suppose to be checking up in the childs well-fair?

I would not be here on this site asking these questions if we did not care!! How dare you insinuate this!!!

Maybe the posters feel that way because when you caught your child smoking (which is typical teenage experimenting) you sent him away. A child can NOT abandon his parents. Instead of doing everything else in your power you sent him away. That was your problem. How dare you! He was smoking a ciggarette for christ's sake! Not killing people, robbing banks, molesting children. Hes your child legally since guardianship was voluntary go down to the court house file to cancel the guardianship and go get your child. Legally, you are the only ones with rights this child. Now start acting like a parent. Sheesh!

 

[micbur]

Look....I not going to rehash all 8 years...there is more than just the smoking (he has been caught smoking 5 other times and physically assalted my wife (his adpoted mother). The police were going to take him away but we asked them to just scare him.

I posted this to ask a simple question about the guardian and if they have the right to let the boy go live with the mother?

Did not realize in order to get an answer I was going to have give a full case history as to reasons for the guardianship. That is not the point and no bearing. My question is can the guardian legally let the boy live with the mother without notifying us (he has our telephone number and email)

Do not preach to us as you have not lived our lives....not asking for approval from anyone...just answer ther legal question I posted!!

 

[Isis1]

Look....I not going to rehash all 8 years...there is more than just the smoking (he has been caught smoking 5 other times and physically assalted my wife (his adpoted mother). The police were going to take him away but we asked them to just scare him.

I posted this to ask a simple question about the guardian and if they have the right to let the boy go live with the mother?

Did not realize in order to get an answer I was going to have give a full case history as to reasons for the guardianship. That is not the point and no bearing. My question is can the guardian legally let the boy live with the mother without notifying us (he has our telephone number and email)

Do not preach to us as you have not lived our lives....not asking for approval from anyone...just answer ther legal question I posted!!

telling someone WHAT to do, doesn't help your cause. revoke the guardianship, GO GET YOUR CHILD!!!!

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

Look....I not going to rehash all 8 years...there is more than just the smoking (he has been caught smoking 5 other times and physically assalted my wife (his adpoted mother). The police were going to take him away but we asked them to just scare him.

I posted this to ask a simple question about the guardian and if they have the right to let the boy go live with the mother?

Did not realize in order to get an answer I was going to have give a full case history as to reasons for the guardianship. That is not the point and no bearing. My question is can the guardian legally let the boy live with the mother without notifying us (he has our telephone number and email)

Do not preach to us as you have not lived our lives....not asking for approval from anyone...just answer ther legal question I posted!!

I know I did answer your question. Do you want me to state it again?
Ok here it goes.

Go to court file to terminate the guardianship, since it was voluntary it should be no issue at all. Then go pick up your child yes your child not your adopted child but your CHILD and bring him home.

That is your legal answer.

NON LEGAL RESPONSE:
You should have let the police arrest him if he assaulted his MOM (not adopted mom) tried a little tough love instead of shipping him off. Parenting is tough, there is little rewards during teenage years but its what you signed up for when you because his PARENTS. Now start acting like one.

One more thing. You state on here how he is your adopted child and you are his adopted parents all over the place. Well maybe the child is acting out because you made him feel like the poor adopted child instead of just your child.

 

[ecmst12]

You sent your child to live with a legal stranger because you didn't like what he was doing. That is not how a PARENT reacts. And you didn't see him at all between January and October? Holy crap. You never should have adopted this kid if you didn't want to be PARENTS.