Help, I want to save my American Friend

[Jetski]

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Outside the US - Philippines

Hi, I have an American friend who is married to a greedy Filipina (here in the Philippines) but wants to annul his marriage to her in the Philippines (they married in church). He is currently in a relationship with another woman (a much better choice, not interested in his money or status), and the wife threatens to sue for concubinage (the man and his lover are living together) if he does not apply for a US visa for her (Form I-130). He already provides financial support for her and their baby son (already a US citizen) through a mutual, non-lawyer mediated agreement. My question is, if he applies for a US visa for her, despite them being estranged (not living together), would this affect the processing of the annulment here? Can he apply for her visa despite the breakdown of their relationship? I really have no American lawyer to ask advice from here, and I want to help my friend, who like so many men here in the Philippines, suffer in the hands of opportunist Filipinas who marry American men simply for their money and the chance to go to the US. Thanks so much!

 

[BethM]

I want to help my friend, who like so many men here in the Philippines, suffer in the hands of opportunist Filipinas who marry American men simply for their money and the chance to go to the US. Thanks so much!

You have to be kidding!! When he married her and produced a child with her was he viewing her as an "opportunistic Filipino?" Now that he has tired of her, found himself someone new he wants to dump her and leave her with his child to raise?

Tell him this...there is nothing he can do. He chose to marry her he will have to live by the laws of the state he married her in. He is committing adultry she has every right to sue him and should if he refuses to stand by the agreement he had with her.

So, legally he can't apply for a visa for a woman he is also attempting to have his marriage to annulled.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?

Outside the US - Philippines

Hi, I have an American friend who is married to a greedy Filipina (here in the Philippines) but wants to annul his marriage to her in the Philippines (they married in church). He is currently in a relationship with another woman (a much better choice, not interested in his money or status), and the wife threatens to sue for concubinage (the man and his lover are living together) if he does not apply for a US visa for her (Form I-130). He already provides financial support for her and their baby son (already a US citizen) through a mutual, non-lawyer mediated agreement. My question is, if he applies for a US visa for her, despite them being estranged (not living together), would this affect the processing of the annulment here? Can he apply for her visa despite the breakdown of their relationship? I really have no American lawyer to ask advice from here, and I want to help my friend, who like so many men here in the Philippines, suffer in the hands of opportunist Filipinas who marry American men simply for their money and the chance to go to the US. Thanks so much!

The annulment is based on the laws in the Philippines and we know nothing about that here.

However, in order to get a visa for her they have to have a real marriage and one that the US would recognize as one that intends to be permanent. He might get the visa...but if they don't stay married and together until she gets permanent residence status (takes several years these days) she won't get to stay in the US anyway...so it would be a totally wasted effort.

 

[Jetski]

Hi Beth ... Thanks for the Reply!

You have to be kidding!! When he married her and produced a child with her was he viewing her as an "opportunistic Filipino?" Now that he has tired of her, found himself someone new he wants to dump her and leave her with his child to raise?

My fault, haven't really expounded on this well enough. My friend met the woman on the Internet, chatted for six months, came here then married her (Yes, he was crazy). He posed her a question though before the big day, told her he wanted to live in the Philippines (won't bring her to the US in other words), would that be fine? Girl said ok so he married her (after she passed his 'test'). Anyhow, girl got pregnant (not exactly planned), then she went cold turkey on the guy. She actually wanted to break the marriage off (twice if I remember right). Relationship turns cold, more like a farce. Then comes a new romance for this guy. Wife is not in love anymore but ego was wounded. So she wants to salvage her self-worth and literally tries to milk the American dry. I guess that's it in a nutshell. Hey, thanks for the reply! I really appreciate it!

 

[Jetski]

Hey, Thanks LdiJ

The annulment is based on the laws in the Philippines and we know nothing about that here.

However, in order to get a visa for her they have to have a real marriage and one that the US would recognize as one that intends to be permanent. He might get the visa...but if they don't stay married and together until she gets permanent residence status (takes several years these days) she won't get to stay in the US anyway...so it would be a totally wasted effort.

hey, thanks for the reply, I really appreciate it! Can I just ask one last thing? What if they wait until the wife gets permanent residence status to annul the marriage ... would that work? Also, if that does work and the woman gets to stay in the US, would filing an annulment IN the Philippines prove harder to process? Thanks much ...

 

[LdiJ]

hey, thanks for the reply, I really appreciate it! Can I just ask one last thing? What if they wait until the wife gets permanent residence status to annul the marriage ... would that work? Also, if that does work and the woman gets to stay in the US, would filing an annulment IN the Philippines prove harder to process? Thanks much ...

You don't understand....they would have to be living together as man and wife, in the US. If they would actually be willing to live that kind of farce I suppose it would work. However then they would have to get divorced in the US.