help im am going to be held in contempt

[jez51]

Juliecat

If your handicapped son is 100 per cent disabled with no chance of ever taking care of himself, then there's a good chance your ex will be ordered to pay CS for the duration of your son's life. Your ex has probably been told this by his attorney. Your Ex is wrong for filing contempt on the visitation and for not using his visitation, just as you were wrong for filing the tax years you weren't entitled to. For the years you can't claim your son as a dependent you can still put him on your tax return for EIC, if you qualify. I do understand everything you are saying, but it doesn't matter when it comes to court orders.
I wish you luck and hope everything works out for you!

 

[JulietCat]

If his current wife's ex is the one who is in jail for molestation, it would indicate that she wasn't charged with anything - so that's completely moot.

The rest? You said a judge has effectively told you to sign the waiver or go to jail. It's now your choice.

No it is not completely moot, she is no longer allowed to have any children in her custody, and was on probation.

 

[JulietCat]

Re: Juliecat

If your handicapped son is 100 per cent disabled with no chance of ever taking care of himself, then there's a good chance your ex will be ordered to pay CS for the duration of your son's life. Your ex has probably been told this by his attorney. Your Ex is wrong for filing contempt on the visitation and for not using his visitation, just as you were wrong for filing the tax years you weren't entitled to. For the years you can't claim your son as a dependent you can still put him on your tax return for EIC, if you qualify. I do understand everything you are saying, but it doesn't matter when it comes to court orders.
I wish you luck and hope everything works out for you!

To have him pay support for my son and the rest of his life, i would probally need an attorney for this as well as all of the testing done and doctors evaluations and school records, can i really do this? never knew this, if it is true, i would get a laywer to go through with it. I will check into it. thank you so much!!

 

[CaliCat]

I know in California that if a parent has visitation and doesn't take it, then that parent is liable for child-care costs. Perhaps there is a similar law where you are?

$60 a week is nothing. $240 for a disabled child. I know a man who is ordered to pay $3100 a month for two children when his total, before-tax pay is $2500. Just goes to show how messed p the system is.

 

[TiredoftheGames]

If you have a court order that says that he has the right to claim the kids, the only thing a court is going to look at is another order that says he doesn't. As we've personally heard it stated ' The court is not concerned with a personal agreement between the two of you that is in conflict with the court's order. If you want to change an order, you should petition the court to modify it's order.' This was after we had taken physical custody of my fiance's son after he had been put out of his mother's home. The police located him and turned him over to his father. His mother had physical custody of him. When the petition for modification was heard one year after its filing, the court initially did not want to modify the amount of support required while the father had custody and mother provided no support and had no visitation. When my fiance said that he felt it was not fair that he should be required to pay her support for a child she didn't see for a year, let alone provide support for, the judge responded 'This is not a court of feelings'. In the end she made the adjustment, but it was because she saw it fit to do so, not because he thought is was fair. As angry as you are, and I can see that you're angry, the court doesn't respond to your anger - just it's orders.

I share all of this only to encourage you to preserve your freedom so that your kids get to keep their mom at home. You can't help them in jail. Your refusal to cooperate with the court will only land you in jail, not your ex. He will go on with his merry life and his merry wife while you deal with jail and all of its pain and the suffering of your children and husband while they don't have you. I understand your frustration with the situation, but hope that you won't shoot yourself in the foot trying to get back at your ex. Your refusal will not cause him pain - only you. Please put your anger in perspective. The court is more concerned with the law and not your feelings. It's a hard lesson learned, but you need to get it before you hurt YOURSELF. If you believe in God, you're going to have to let Him punish your ex for what he's done or not done. If you don't believe in God, then let the universe exercise its own divine karma. In this situation, you can't punish him for being vendictive.

This is only my opinion, and my words of heartfelt advice. That and 2 cents will get you nothing, but I hope you hear me