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[lonelyandsad]

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i dont blame her for being upset-the father and his gf dont know these people they bring in,for all they know,they could be child molesters.or they could give drugs or booze to the kids.if they want to do that fine,but not with the kids around,let them do it when the kids arent there.i sure as hell wouldnt allow it around my kids.what kind of example are they setting for the kids? the father isnt a good role model.

 

[Rebecca21904]

In response to IAAL's comment about the stepmother trying to replace the mother...

Shaking head... why do stepmom's do this? Isn't there a way the mom and the stepmom can co-exist. The mom feels threatened by the stepmom and the stepmom feels threatened by the mom. It is really lame. Since my ex remarried, I honestly have tried to coparent with him. Anytime we get along at all... talk like normal people, the stepmom gets upset it seems. She doesn't want us to get along because in her perfect world, she would prefer it if I didn't exist. Just an observation. I approached my ex about us all going to counseling, what the heck, I would go. Maybe we could all learn how to get along and do what is really in the best interest of the children of divorce and that is typically to have strong relationships with the people (mom and dad) who decided to get married and bring them into the world. Seems like when things go bad and people divorce, they lose sight of what they saw in their ex to begin with. I know my ex loves his children and I would never restrict contact, always supportive of his relationships with our children. I feel that I chose him to be the father of not one, but TWO children. Obviously he was good enough to father them then, I have to trust that the person I chose to have children with wouldn't put our children in harm's way. Just my thoughts...

And that is coming from a scorned woman, lol. My ex and his new wife treat me like I have the plague... lol.