Help Mom in trouble

[aimeezepeda2004]

big cat 50 he is orginally from az and me from va since he was in military az is his home state. but not mine only time i went to az was to visit his family with him.. so I never lived in az.. I also want to put this out there when he first filed for divorce he filed for divorce without children I replied to that with respond about there is 2 children involved. In which he had to amend with children. So right now I see that he is doing all he can to lessen his responbility. Please understand that I am trying to do what rights for my not keep them from thier father but also thier is alot of childish games being played from his end that not in girls best interest.. When the oldest ask when could she see him he would mommy said I cant which I never said.. He stated he bought her a dog but she'd have to come to az to see.. and mommy won't let you.. When I first posted this I didn't expect alot of people to respond I'm glad they did but also thanks big cat 50 for answering my question hopefully the information I just gave will help..

 

[Badhead]

Thanks, Stealth2. I realize what you are saying and know the options.

These are emotional issues, however, and I can see lots of pain in some of these posts. In response to the pain and emotion, I'll see honest answers, I'm sure; however, they're given in almost a cruel way. Just to the point. No acknowledgment of the person. In fact, there is more "ripping" of people than support. Then, perhaps, this isn't really a "support" forum either.



Badhead

 

[aimeezepeda2004]

badhead
I would be a lier to say they were no pain involved. but I realize to the people here post what they feel with no punches pulled. I accept the posting as what they truely are people posting what they feel I realize to maybe something in my post hits a nerve to some or maybe they or a friend might be going through it.. I do want to thank you for your geniue concern its refreashing. Also Gonwin and Mb have the same feelings as you about looking a closer with a little emotion. thanks guys

 

[MBMom]

Aimee - I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. I also understand why you would wonder if a Judge will consider things that do have to do with more emotion (or moral) aspects rather than ONLY what is legal. I asked the same kind of questions because frankly, I do believe that to a point those things should be considered. However, you'll learn from this website that the advice, albeit sometimes harsh, can actually help you. If you anticipate a difficult battle coming up, which it seems as though you will, you will be thankful that some handed it to you plain and simple instead of held your hand through it all telling you how sorry they are. Personally, I want to be aware of every possible aspect so I know of what I may possibly expect.

Good Luck!

 

[ili]

Let's deal with moral issues as well as legal.

Some of you would be very unhappy with the judge who told a family member
that the Lord would bless him if he did the right thing. I happened to love
that response. Why can't we be caring in our responses and yes, MORAL?
Some of the questioners have been thru so much they're almost to the end
of their ropes. I have a family member I have cautioned about getting on
this forum because she is so sad anyway about the situation she is in and
doesn't need such uncaring responses.

 

[stealth2]

Then, perhaps, this isn't really a "support" forum either.

Ding Ding Ding! You win! That's exactly the point - this is NOT a support forum. This is one for legal info. That's it. If you're looking for a support forum, check out divorcecare for in person support or divorceinfo.com for online support. But not this. It's not the intent behind the site.

 

[MBMom]

Some of you would be very unhappy with the judge who told a family member
that the Lord would bless him if he did the right thing. I happened to love
that response. Why can't we be caring in our responses and yes, MORAL?
Some of the questioners have been thru so much they're almost to the end
of their ropes. I have a family member I have cautioned about getting on
this forum because she is so sad anyway about the situation she is in and
doesn't need such uncaring responses.

As much as I agree that most of the people on this forum need some support because of all the sh*t they're going through, I also agree that this is a LEGAL forum. When I first came here, I certainly expected people to automatically sympathize with me and say things that would only make me feel better. BOY was I wrong. Nevertheless, I read tons and tons of stories and realized I'M ONE IN A MILLION. Needing support? Then GO to Dear Abby. I've hired a new attorney because all my first attorney did was sit on his lazy *ss and tell me how I'd win, I'm such a good mom, no questions asked, no hearing preperation, no advice, just "You're a good person, of course you'll win...I'm so sorry about what you're going through..." blah blah blah. Support and holding hands is what friends and family are for. Nowhere on this site does it say it offers moral and emotional support. There are millions of different websites, if I wanted someone to sit around and hold my hand, I'm smart enough to know that I'd need to find that some place else.

And frankly, if I DID come here looking for simply legal advice and not emotional support, I'd be pissed if that's all I got.

However, I do agree with some that some comments can be made in a much more polite way, but then again, that's just one more thing that helps me prepare for court. My ex's attorney is the biggest *ss, and I'd rather be toughened up beforehand.

 

[Gonwin]

MBMom

I totally agree with what you're saying...

It's good to tell the OP the truth about what may happen in her situation so she will be prepared. It's okay to give straight legal advice (without any warm fuzzies), BUT, to be cruel and critical is in no way helping people who are already in a lot of pain.