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[lostinthoughts]

What is the name of your state?AZ
My ex and I have agreed that I could move out of state with our children, providign the courts ok it, of course. Only thing is he wants to have them move back with him after one year, he wants them to live with him one year, me the next. What I want to know is if a judge would ok this?? I do not think that it is a good idea, but its what he is going to try for.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state?AZ
My ex and I have agreed that I could move out of state with our children, providign the courts ok it, of course. Only thing is he wants to have them move back with him after one year, he wants them to live with him one year, me the next. What I want to know is if a judge would ok this?? I do not think that it is a good idea, but its what he is going to try for.

In my opinion its an incredibly BAD idea. They would have to start over every year at a new school, to make new friends etc. As they get older they will absolutely DESPISE that. Plus it really gives them very little stability. As an alternative, try to come up with a schedule that gives dad as much parenting time as possible....or even consider not making the move.

Unfortunately, despite the fact that I think its a bad idea....and its likely that most judges would also see it as a bad idea, there are some judges out there who have made orders like that.

 

[lostinthoughts]

i agree it would be a bad idea for them to move back and forth. I feel it would be best for them to live with me until he is done with school, with him having all summer, and long breaks during the school year, so he has as much time with the kids as possible. He is goign to try and go to law school, that is going to take alot of his time. I think that when he is done (in about 5 years, unless he changes his mind about law school) we could discuss having the kids spend more time with him, perhaps live with him for a while? Obviously this is not what I would prefer. I want my kids to live with me, but in all fairness he is their parent. I am trygin to find a way that we can both move on with our lives and our children can both be substantially involved in both our lives, seeing both parents as often as possible, even if we live in different states.

 

[LdiJ]

i agree it would be a bad idea for them to move back and forth. I feel it would be best for them to live with me until he is done with school, with him having all summer, and long breaks during the school year, so he has as much time with the kids as possible. He is goign to try and go to law school, that is going to take alot of his time. I think that when he is done (in about 5 years, unless he changes his mind about law school) we could discuss having the kids spend more time with him, perhaps live with him for a while? Obviously this is not what I would prefer. I want my kids to live with me, but in all fairness he is their parent. I am trygin to find a way that we can both move on with our lives and our children can both be substantially involved in both our lives, seeing both parents as often as possible, even if we live in different states.

If he truly plans to go to law school then he is not being realistic about having them live with him every other year. Its sounds like he would be going to school part time and working and law school is incredibly demanding.
You really need to talk to him seriously. Summers and school breaks would be much more realistic for him.

 

[VeronicaGia]

What is the name of your state?AZ
My ex and I have agreed that I could move out of state with our children, providign the courts ok it, of course. Only thing is he wants to have them move back with him after one year, he wants them to live with him one year, me the next. What I want to know is if a judge would ok this?? I do not think that it is a good idea, but its what he is going to try for.

Then you are simply going to have to hash this out in court. No one can tell you what a judge will decide, but if this move creates a hardship on the other parent, realize you may be solely responsible for all costs associated with visitation, if the court lets you move with the kids.