He's trying to take my baby!

[17andfeelalone]

What is the name of your state? Texas
When I was barely 15, I was raped by a 19 year old man. As a result of the rape I became pregnant! It was reported to the police and the detective who was on the case turned out to be great friends with my assaulter. So therefore, the paperwork ended up getting "messed up" or something like that and the case ended up being "no billed." So, I was stalked by this man my entire pregnancy and about the first year of my baby's life. Then his parents (who are jerks anyways) decided to bankroll him to sew me for child custody. Before this, he never wanted to have anything to do with the baby. All he wanted to do was threaten mine and my dad's lives. So, all of a sudden he grows an interest for the child, and ends up taking me to court. He gets supervised visits and only paid child support a few times. Many many times during these visits (with me as the supervisor) he tries to use his "scare tactics" on me (that is his weapon against me is fear) telling me he is going to take my baby and I will never see her again and never even know if she is ok. So, then one day he really did try to take her, telling me I had to do exactly what he said or he would dissapear with her forever. So I told him I would do whatever he wanted and I finally got her back from him, and then stopped taking her to visitation as advised by an attorney. So, eventually he takes me back to court because his mommy and daddy pretty much make him, and gets "unsupervised." So, she starts going for those and he constantly is not there with her for me to pick her up and I had to search for them several times. Then the last day he saw her before I stopped taking her again, he said he was leaving with her and he was "tired of all my crap" and was yelling at me and my dad as the baby was screaming and crying. Then he tried to put her in a toddler seat with no belt (which he has been told before that she is way to little for those kinds of seats(she was only 19 months old) and I told him that she would crawl out of it and if he got in a wreck she would die. And he looked at me right in the eyes and said "So...I don't care!" So, then he left her in the hot car and went over to start yelling at my dad again. And all the windows in the car were down, he was a good 45 feet from the car, and she started to climb out. I said to him at least 3 times that she was crawling out the window and he didn't need to leave her in there. He just told me to shut up and ignored her. So then I went over to keep her from falling out. I started to open the door and he turned around and started yelling at me telling me not to touch his car and making threats. I opened it anyway and he came running as fast as he could and slammed the car door into me. Then he grabbed the baby and went back over to start yelling at my dad again. I was in tears and called the police to tell them what was going on. I was also pregnant at the time of that (I got married 6 months ago and should be 5 months pregnant now) but soon after had an awful miscarriage. This man has a criminal history including drugs, underage drinking and driving, attempting to die in the hail of police bullets, attempting to pull a gun on an officer, and many other things. He does not pay court ordered child support and only wants to take my baby to hurt me. He doesn't care about my daughter, he has shaken her and she's gone to the hospital for it, he's bruised her, and she went for that too, and he's done other things. He has a pending assault case against him for the car door thing. And he keeps calling now threatening to take me back to court if I don't start taking her to him again. I know if I take her now he will dissapear with her. I don't know what to do. I'm only 17 now and I'm scared for my baby...my most precious treasure. PLEASE HELP

 

[lonelyandsad]

this guy is nuts

damm this guy sounds like bad news.when he theatened you and your dad,did anyone else hear him?if not its your word against his.when he shook your daughter,were criminal charges filed?was he prosecuted for raping you? he should have been.id talk to a lawyer and try to get his parental rights terminated,your daughter doesnt need to be around this pyscho.tell your lawayer about his threats,his abuse of both you and your daughter.if you were my daughter,he wouldnt come anywhere near you,i dont care if he was the father or not,id blow his damm head off.

 

[17andfeelalone]

Tell me about it

No he was not prosecuted for anything. He just got let off. This was back when all of that stuff went down in Haltom City, TX police department (if you are familiar with that) I had to go through them because that's where it happened. The shaking thing got CPS involved. But he said it was my fault and got away with that too. I honestly think this man has satanic powers! Not joking!!! He has gotten away with everything! Eeri huh?!

 

[17andfeelalone]

Thank you so much for your advice!

OP...you NEED to see about getting a lawyer. Use those who offer a free consultation to your advantage. THIS IS A RAPE CASE. For the most part, the boy can scream "it was consensual" all he wants (regardless if it was or not), but because you were 15 and he was 19, in most states, that is statutory rape.

He can NOT "take the baby" away from you. If he does, that is kidnapping. This guy is a moron. Do NOT let him bully you around -- you have rights! I would highly suggest you get audio recordings of what he is saying and pictures as well (of child not being properly secured, etc).

I am assuming DNA has officially been established. Am I correct? Is there court-order child support as well? What about a visitation order?

Have you tried calling the prosecutor? Hell, even report this to TV stations that have those investigative reporters. They love corruption like police department doing crap like this.

I can't afford a lawyer and my parents can't either(they are still paying off the last one who did absolutely nothing for me!) Yes, it WAS statutory but the police refuse to accept it as that, even though it is what the law says! Yes, paternity was established, and there is court ordered child support that he refuses to pay, and there is a visitation order (they are just temporary though, if that makes any difference) Thank you for the TV station suggestion, I will definetly try that! Do you know if I can possibly re-file the rape charges when I turn 18? Thank you sooo much once again for your advice!

 

[Gracie3787]

What is the name of your state? Texas
When I was barely 15, I was raped by a 19 year old man. As a result of the rape I became pregnant! It was reported to the police and the detective who was on the case turned out to be great friends with my assaulter. So therefore, the paperwork ended up getting "messed up" or something like that and the case ended up being "no billed." So, I was stalked by this man my entire pregnancy and about the first year of my baby's life. Then his parents (who are jerks anyways) decided to bankroll him to sew me for child custody. Before this, he never wanted to have anything to do with the baby. All he wanted to do was threaten mine and my dad's lives. So, all of a sudden he grows an interest for the child, and ends up taking me to court. He gets supervised visits and only paid child support a few times. Many many times during these visits (with me as the supervisor) he tries to use his "scare tactics" on me (that is his weapon against me is fear) telling me he is going to take my baby and I will never see her again and never even know if she is ok. So, then one day he really did try to take her, telling me I had to do exactly what he said or he would dissapear with her forever. So I told him I would do whatever he wanted and I finally got her back from him, and then stopped taking her to visitation as advised by an attorney. So, eventually he takes me back to court because his mommy and daddy pretty much make him, and gets "unsupervised." So, she starts going for those and he constantly is not there with her for me to pick her up and I had to search for them several times. Then the last day he saw her before I stopped taking her again, he said he was leaving with her and he was "tired of all my crap" and was yelling at me and my dad as the baby was screaming and crying. Then he tried to put her in a toddler seat with no belt (which he has been told before that she is way to little for those kinds of seats(she was only 19 months old) and I told him that she would crawl out of it and if he got in a wreck she would die. And he looked at me right in the eyes and said "So...I don't care!" So, then he left her in the hot car and went over to start yelling at my dad again. And all the windows in the car were down, he was a good 45 feet from the car, and she started to climb out. I said to him at least 3 times that she was crawling out the window and he didn't need to leave her in there. He just told me to shut up and ignored her. So then I went over to keep her from falling out. I started to open the door and he turned around and started yelling at me telling me not to touch his car and making threats. I opened it anyway and he came running as fast as he could and slammed the car door into me. Then he grabbed the baby and went back over to start yelling at my dad again. I was in tears and called the police to tell them what was going on. I was also pregnant at the time of that (I got married 6 months ago and should be 5 months pregnant now) but soon after had an awful miscarriage. This man has a criminal history including drugs, underage drinking and driving, attempting to die in the hail of police bullets, attempting to pull a gun on an officer, and many other things. He does not pay court ordered child support and only wants to take my baby to hurt me. He doesn't care about my daughter, he has shaken her and she's gone to the hospital for it, he's bruised her, and she went for that too, and he's done other things. He has a pending assault case against him for the car door thing. And he keeps calling now threatening to take me back to court if I don't start taking her to him again. I know if I take her now he will dissapear with her. I don't know what to do. I'm only 17 now and I'm scared for my baby...my most precious treasure. PLEASE HELP

First- Your child's Father is a dangerous, maniacal criminal, who has all of the authorities with power in his pocket.

With that said- I want to make sure that everyone understand that my advice is based on what you have written , the PROBABLE danger to your child, and the UNUSUAL, EXTREME circumstances:

Do not give him any more chances to hurt or steal your child, you need to forget about the CS, assault case, etc. You and your husband should move to another state, I know, that will put you in possible contempt of the visitation order, BUT- they can't do anything unless they can find you.

I know that this is extreme, but the most important thing here is your child's safety- if the authorities have refused to care, then it is up to you to do whatever you need to do to protect your child from harm. I know that there are groups that assist CP's with this, but I don't know of how to find them because they work outside the law, so to speak. Maybe someone else will know and be able to PM to you.
Good luck, you and your baby are in my prayers.
Gracie

 

[SINCITY89103]

gracie

I know your best intensions were displayed here, but I totally disagree. If she does that she could find herself in court which she has stated already that she doesn't have the money for. Defintely would be at a great disadvantage. I would look into a court appointed attourney and take this guy to court, or you never know a sympathetic attourney could do it pro-bono. Running is never the answer, eventually it will catch up to you and when it does you'll be out of breath, not at as strong as you could be when you know it's coming and are prepared. Everything has a paper trial espeacially with children. With today's technology it's not if he would find her it's when.

just my opinion

 

[17andfeelalone]

Your advice is greatly appreciated

First- Your child's Father is a dangerous, maniacal criminal, who has all of the authorities with power in his pocket.

With that said- I want to make sure that everyone understand that my advice is based on what you have written , the PROBABLE danger to your child, and the UNUSUAL, EXTREME circumstances:

Do not give him any more chances to hurt or steal your child, you need to forget about the CS, assault case, etc. You and your husband should move to another state, I know, that will put you in possible contempt of the visitation order, BUT- they can't do anything unless they can find you.

I know that this is extreme, but the most important thing here is your child's safety- if the authorities have refused to care, then it is up to you to do whatever you need to do to protect your child from harm. I know that there are groups that assist CP's with this, but I don't know of how to find them because they work outside the law, so to speak. Maybe someone else will know and be able to PM to you.
Good luck, you and your baby are in my prayers.
Gracie

Do you really think I could pull it off? I've concidered that before but in fear of getting caught, decided not to. Thank you so much for your prayers. God Bless you!

 

[SINCITY89103]

Running is not the answer

You must not have paid much attention to my previous post. Maybe it's because I'm a fighter, but I think running is NEVER the answer. If this guy is a threat then by all means FIGHT BACK , but run and it WILL eventually catch up to you someway or another. This may be a personal preference, but I would never allow myself to live in fear. Also the lieing and sheltered life of your child will surely influence her personality, and leaves alot of explaining and fabricating on your part. Trust is invaluable, but lost easliy. Watch Enough starring Jennifer Lopez, maybe this will give you the courage and insight needed. With todays technology, you CAN NOT HIDE anyway. I can find anyone and all the dirt on them with software sold on the web for under a hundred bucks.

 

[FLFamof5]

Just another idea....

If you have family in a different state.. nothing states that you can't go visit that relative for a little while right? At least until he goes to court for the charges that you filed with the car incident. Possibly since he has priors then he will do some time.

But... doesn't seem that you can be held in contempt for a nice vacation

 

[Jillian483]

You know in english class I read this case about a young boy that was raped by his older babysitter and she got pregnant. Not only did she get sole custody but this poor (i think now 17 year old) kid has to pay her child support even though she raped him.

 

[hayley"s mom]

And even though running sounds tempting, I wanted to do it myself....When
they catch up to you there is always the possibility that your baby could go to psycho dad! Remember how your rape case went, if his family has influence its probably a bad idea. But I'm on your side and I'm praying for you.....Good luck

 

[LdiJ]

And even though running sounds tempting, I wanted to do it myself....When
they catch up to you there is always the possibility that your baby could go to psycho dad! Remember how your rape case went, if his family has influence its probably a bad idea. But I'm on your side and I'm praying for you.....Good luck

Sometimes getting jurisdiction established somewhere else can take away the "undue influence" that might be present in a specific court....sometimes a battered women's shelter can give the best advise on how to make that possible...even if the case doesn't meat the classic scenario of a "battered woman".