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How to Prep for Court?
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huntingguy
Active Member
I am an idiot. Didn't cross my mind, was trying to remember everything else.
I had offered her to choose two different days to have our son instead.
We will see what she says. I text back and said I would never want to take your court ordered days and our son will be ready Sunday at 3pm for your to pick up. See you then.
TigerD
Senior Member
This is why you need a lawyer.
Be smart.
stealth2
Under the Radar Member
Honestly? Sweeten the pot - offer three or four days.
huntingguy
Active Member
So as i was pulling into my driveway this afternoon my son was getting into his mother's car. I called her and our son answered and said he was staying there tonight because he was going to the Dells on her days. I told him no he wasn't going to the Dells he was going to be with his mother instead. The mom grabbed the phone and said, "Haha motherf* you are such a hypocrite, he is 14 if he wants to choose to come by me he can and no he isn't going to the Dells because he is not missing school." I stated there is a court order now and she responded with "F*** you" and hung up.
I emailed her lawyer letting him know what has occurred. Not sure what else to do.
stealth2
Under the Radar Member
Huh?
Ohiogal
Queen Bee
What did you state to her attorney? Did you state she was VIOLATING the court order and you would pursue contempt unless he was able to go to the Dells?
Zigner
Senior Member, Non-Attorney
I believe that the court order gives the child to the mom during the time that the OP has the trip scheduled for.
LdiJ
Senior Member
You have to take some responsibility for this debacle too. You did not make things clear to your son when the court orders came about.
stealth2
Under the Radar Member
If it's Mom's time, she is allowed to let him spend time at the Dells or Timbuktu, should she so desire.
huntingguy
Active Member
The trip is not until this Sunday. Her court ordered days are Sunday and Monday overnight drop off Tuesday morning.
Yesterday afternoon (tuesday), I was pulling up to my house and our son was getting in the mom's car. Her time ended Tuesday morning. I called her as she took off and she handed the phone to our son. I asked him where he was going and he said he was staying by his moms since he thought we were going to the Dells Sunday. I informed him Dells was no longer an option as it was his time to spend with this mother. His mother grabbed the phone from him and pretty much yelled obscenities stating you are right he isnt going to the dells eff you and he can choose to stay by me if he wants just like you said months ago. I stated there was now an order for set days and she said eff you and hung up the phone.
She is violating the court order. I had text her and said I was not going to be taking her time from her and our son would be ready at the normal scheduled time Sunday.
Our son was under the assumption he was going based on whatever conversation he had with his mother which I am unsure of but she made it abundantly clear he would not be going to the Dells, which I am fine with because yes it is court ordered time with her. I should have mentioned it when we went to court.
Yesterday afternoon (tuesday), I was pulling up to my house and our son was getting in the mom's car. Her time ended Tuesday morning. I called her as she took off and she handed the phone to our son. I asked him where he was going and he said he was staying by his moms since he thought we were going to the Dells Sunday. I informed him Dells was no longer an option as it was his time to spend with this mother. His mother grabbed the phone from him and pretty much yelled obscenities stating you are right he isnt going to the dells eff you and he can choose to stay by me if he wants just like you said months ago. I stated there was now an order for set days and she said eff you and hung up the phone.
She is violating the court order. I had text her and said I was not going to be taking her time from her and our son would be ready at the normal scheduled time Sunday.
Our son was under the assumption he was going based on whatever conversation he had with his mother which I am unsure of but she made it abundantly clear he would not be going to the Dells, which I am fine with because yes it is court ordered time with her. I should have mentioned it when we went to court.
commentator
Senior Member
You guys are both treating your son terribly. Which a judge may observe and decide the same thing I am. How can you make this situation a win for your son? That should be your priority and this is what will play well in court. If you BOTH were to try to make this a priority, so much the better. Not to mention that it is the better thing to do. You picked his mother for him, he didn't have a choice in the matter. Now he should not be pulled back and forth like this, and everything YOU do to accommodate the mother's time so it will be easier for him is going to look good for you in court. Just because someone screams at you or curses at you doesn't mean you have to scream back or fail to try to work with them.
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huntingguy
Active Member
I am not arguing or upset about the fact that our son isn't going to the Dells. I take blame that I did not mention it in court. He should spend time with his mother. Our son will understand and there will be tons of other days for us to do lots of things. Also we had not even planned on leaving until after he was picked up.
My concern is her violating the court order the day after it was ordered. Her picking our son up and keeping him overnight without consulting me first and it not being her court ordered day. His mother is not messed up for not letting him go at all. But violating the court order, yes.
That would be like me saying eff you I am taking him to the Dells anyway and taking him on her scheduled time. I would never do that because it is her scheduled time.
My concern is her violating the court order the day after it was ordered. Her picking our son up and keeping him overnight without consulting me first and it not being her court ordered day. His mother is not messed up for not letting him go at all. But violating the court order, yes.
That would be like me saying eff you I am taking him to the Dells anyway and taking him on her scheduled time. I would never do that because it is her scheduled time.
stealth2
Under the Radar Member
I see a few possible situations here. When there was talk of swapping days so kiddo could go on the trip, were these the days you offered? Mom could have rethought her position and is doing nothing more than yanking your chain. You'll find out on Sunday. If she still refuses to allow him to go on the trip, you could file against her for contempt. I'd likely just document to present to the court when you go for permanent orders.
It also seems that kiddo will be missing school if he goes on that trip. I may or may not be cool with that (were he my child), depending on his overall attendance, grades, etc. That's really something that you should have discussed with Mom, order or not (and I speak as a divorced parent who did pull my kids from school on occasion...), before planning the trip.
It also seems that kiddo will be missing school if he goes on that trip. I may or may not be cool with that (were he my child), depending on his overall attendance, grades, etc. That's really something that you should have discussed with Mom, order or not (and I speak as a divorced parent who did pull my kids from school on occasion...), before planning the trip.