humm...

[Isiah]

and also..

Since the custody change, we have been doing what ever it takes to make sure their son and her see each other. I do not believe that being verbally abused by her all the time (including him being verbally abused) is very healthy. She is rude and expects my husband to kiss her ass. If she doesn't get her way she threatens court. So let me ask you?? Who is the one that is "really" being petty?

 

[CJane]

She is rude and expects my husband to kiss her ass. If she doesn't get her way she threatens court.

That's not abuse. It's not illegal to be a b*tch... which is probably a good thing, or I'd be in jail.

BUT - as the CP or the spouse of a CP, you often have to take the high road. In this case, if transporting the child does not create a hardship for dad (and I mean a REAL hardship, not just him having to see his ex) then he should do the transportation in order to facilitate the relationship. He can choose not to speak to her, not to engage in her drama, etc. But he cannot choose not to let the son visit.

 

[Isiah]

he never said she couldn't see him. He just said he didn't want to do all the driving if she was going to be a demanding bitch. It is impossible not to talk to her. Like I said every time we turn around she wants him dropped off or picked up at different locations. He also told her that if she wanted to come and get him feel free. We have even offered more parenting time, if she would like to come and get him. I don't think not doing all of the driving is denying visitation. Oh and also he has to speak to her. Otherwise she puts their son in the middle. I know a judge wouldn't say that putting a child in the middle is acceptable.

 

[CJane]

he never said she couldn't see him. He just said he didn't want to do all the driving if she was going to be a demanding bitch. It is impossible not to talk to her. Like I said every time we turn around she wants him dropped off or picked up at different locations.

Well, if dad wants to be a hard ass about it, he can tell mom that the order states that pick up/drop off is to be at the gas station at X time, and that's where the child will be.

If he wants to facilitate a relationship between the child and his mother, he'll make it easy on the CHILD even when that also makes it easy on the mother.

The exchange point for my kids is at a gas station 3 miles from the ex's house and 35 miles from mine. I'm the CP, but I agreed to do that amount of driving when the judge suggested that the pick up be moved closer to halfway between houses. Why? Because it allows the kids to spend more of their dad's weekend with him at his house. I drive 70 miles round trip to pick them up every other week because it's better for THEM.

Oh and also he has to speak to her. Otherwise she puts their son in the middle. I know a judge wouldn't say that putting a child in the middle is acceptable.

He does not. My ex and I have shared custody - not quite 50/50 but darned close. I haven't spoken to him in nearly 2 months, and the kids haven't been put in the middle. We communicate through voice mails or letters.