I can't believe it!-Please help!

[stealth2]

Indiana-The ONLY thing out of what you listed is my ex has taken me to court claiming that I refused visitation.That was NOT TRUE at all,anytime that he didn't get the child was when he didn't call or show up,but he took me to court over it,and won-all in all I have been charged w/ contempt 2 or 3 times.Which also just blows my mind! It is totally not true,he had no proof to even back up his lies,and I had no proof to back up my innocense.-The judge decided to believe my ex though EVERYTIME!
To answer your other statement-no there is NOTHING else to this...
Thank-You for your reply

This is a very hard lesson to learn, I'm afraid. After the FIRST time he claimed contempt, you should have made a point to document everything involving visitation, contact, etc. Unfortunately, some people DO claim contempt when it's untrue. It's not something one expects, but if it happens once you have to assume it will happen again. As a case in point... about 2 years ago, my ex started making noises to his lawyer that I interfered with phone contact. Not true, but since we had no set time for him to call, there were times when it would be a day or two before he could get the kids on the phone. At that point, I started emailing him after every time he DID talk to the kids, as well as every time he couldn't reach them to let him know when they'd be available. That went on for close to a year - we finally got an order specifying phone contact - and I figured that with the order we'd be set, so I stopped emailing him. Big mistake. He stopped calling them back in February. And doncha know - in July he hit me with a contempt charge for denying phone contact. Once we're back onto the school year schedule, you can bet those emails will start back up. He can piss and moan all he wants (and he did piss & moan about the weekly emails), but I refuse to be set up again.

The problem now is that you likely do not have a legal case for appeal. He claimed contempt several times, and you didn't refute it. I don't see a legal error, which is what you need to file an appeal. I'm sorry.

 

[freeride]

wow

speakin of HiGher places,sounds like u'r IN NEED of a hicktown,showdown- heres a choice foryaa' uncle viinnyy OR uncle samm NAa Seriouslyy' readn ALL this SOMthin' NOT rite,maybe some major MEMBERS here can give you INsite,some are lawyers,but it sounds they sayn u lost full,primary not got even joint? ugh CAUSE over history of years of being taken to court by the NCP for Denied visits true or not JUST THE SUBJECT MATTER shezzzz then ALL FULL,SOLE,PRIMARY CP's BETTER WAKE UP

 

[nextwife]

speakin of HiGher places,sounds like u'r IN NEED of a hicktown,showdown- heres a choice foryaa' uncle viinnyy OR uncle samm NAa Seriouslyy' readn ALL this SOMthin' NOT rite,maybe some major MEMBERS here can give you INsite,some are lawyers,but it sounds they sayn u lost full,primary not got even joint? ugh CAUSE over history of years of being taken to court by the NCP for Denied visits true or not JUST THE SUBJECT MATTER shezzzz then ALL FULL,SOLE,PRIMARY CP's BETTER WAKE UP

Would you please repeat that, this time in English?

 

[freeride]

how about this

it sounds like the comments here are saying you lost, FULL custody,primary custody AND not even got joint custody with him as primary? BECAUSE over the history of like 5 years of being taken to court by your ex-the NCP- for Denied visits- proven true or not JUST THE MERE SUBJECT MATTER ,,subject being that of denied visits... then ALLS I was saying is that the FULL,SOLE,PRIMARY CP's BETTER WAKE UP... is this better

 

[stealth2]

Sweetheart - take some time before you hit submit. Your two posts are practically unintelligible.

 

[ili]

Sorry about your pain

It looks to me like your lawyer should be more assertive and firm in finding
out exactly what happened, etc. If she is as confused as you maybe you
need to change lawyers. We did. Good luck in your battle. I know you
miss your daughter.

 

[freeride]

custody hearing

update,this has now been filed with the court of appeals,to reverse trial courts order,this custody hearing was not based on law ,it was a personal issue with the local judge,,,now waiting on ex to file his applee. brief

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Something is seriously wrong here.
OP doesn't think they have done anything wrong, doesn't know why they lost custody, how many times they were charged with contempt, nor learned from experience how to avoid a second or third contempt charge and this is with an attorney and the ex not having an attorney???

I suspect that having 5 children 6 and under keeps you pretty busy, but not so busy as to overlook the issues that lead to loosing custody. I would be concerned about retaining custody of your 4 remaining children, even if you are married, if neglect of some sort was determined. You are leaving too much out of your story for any real advice other than to be honest with us and for you to get what help you need to care for your remaining children.

 

[casa]

to: freeride

Well I'd like to say this is atrocious (legal situation you are in) but I am learning the hard way that vindictive Xs can cause considerable grief and legal entanglements!

In my case I have no criminal record, no problems with drugs/alcohol or parenting. I am sole legal/physical of oldest child as single mom for years before I remarried and had second child. After divorce from youngest's father I have been going back to court on a continual basis.
He has made numerous false CPS complaints~ even though none were true and the cases were closed and labeled "unfounded" the sheer volume of the calls to CPS (some anonymously- yeah right! ) make the judge rip open the case and my life on an ongoing basis.

I've had Family Court Services more than once~ they all cleared me and advised I keep custody.
My child has seen court appointed therapist, private therapist etcetera~ all saying she is fine.
There was even minor's attorney appointed~ Same outcome.
Here I am still in the system and court fighting to keep custody! Everytime father says something negative about me, the system needs to check it out.

I even have record of my parenting with oldest child, but the courts won't hear it because the case is about only the youngest

Oh yeah, thousands of dollars later, numerous hearings, drug testing, psychological testing, CPS, attorneys all around ~ and it still does not stop!

All you can do is hang in there and keep doing the best you can for your children. Show up to court, read & prepare yourself. Everytime there is an allegation volunteer to disprove it any way you can. Document, document, document. If you don't agree with decisions, appeal them.

It's draining and horrible but people who know how to manipulate the system and are determined to make your life Hell~ Will continue to do so. (My attorney said based on his observations of my X, I can plan on going through this until she is 18 years old or a judge finally connects the dots and says "Enough is Enough!")

Good luck to you

 

[freeride]

another update

this was taken to the indiana court of appeals,they REVERSED EVERYTHING that this small town judge granted to this NCP loser..THIS court of appeals made a record decision i may add,and to ALL of you with your doubts more to this story,, this story was TOTALLY based on personal views of this small town judge,,nothing more,,the judge simply didnt like the CP's attitude at the court hearings! so he played GOD,he made this child go live in another county,go to a differant school,leave her brothers and sisters,to live with yes,her bio.father that has no job,no money,no car,almost 30years old and still lives at his own mothers home-THANKS TO INDIANA UPPER COURT SYSTEM THAT GOES BY LAW,no personal judgement we have her back-full,sole,custody!!

 

[TNBSMommy]

You are the same one who posted all this...

speakin of HiGher places,sounds like u'r IN NEED of a hicktown,showdown- heres a choice foryaa' uncle viinnyy OR uncle samm NAa Seriouslyy' readn ALL this SOMthin' NOT rite,maybe some major MEMBERS here can give you INsite,some are lawyers,but it sounds they sayn u lost full,primary not got even joint? ugh CAUSE over history of years of being taken to court by the NCP for Denied visits true or not JUST THE SUBJECT MATTER shezzzz then ALL FULL,SOLE,PRIMARY CP's BETTER WAKE UP

it sounds like the comments here are saying you lost, FULL custody,primary custody AND not even got joint custody with him as primary? BECAUSE over the history of like 5 years of being taken to court by your ex-the NCP- for Denied visits- proven true or not JUST THE MERE SUBJECT MATTER ,,subject being that of denied visits... then ALLS I was saying is that the FULL,SOLE,PRIMARY CP's BETTER WAKE UP... is this better

I am confused on how you say "we" have her back... and yet in the postings I quoted, you sound totally against CP's...(well, what I could understand out of the posts anyway... are you the OP? Or the husband of the OP? I guess, congratulations on getting the child back, since you said,"we" but I'm still a bit confused...