I found out I hAve daughter that, I new nothing about

[Claye]

Alabama

I found out that I have a daughter. She contacted me on Facebook. She is now fourteen years old. She lives an hour away from me. Her adopted mother let's her see me but her adopted dad not so much yet. Do I have any rights to her if her adopted dad finds out she is talking to me and ends it. Me and my daughter have been in contact for six months now. Her adopted mother drops her off with me so we can get to know each other. I didn't know she even existed. Her biological mother gave her up. Another guy was on the birth certificate as the father he signed his rights away but he was not the father I am as the dna test shows. It was an closed adoption. Can I call her biological mother and let her know that she is mine and not the guy she said the father was. Without my daughters adoptive patents getting in trouble. My daughter tried to get in touch with her biological mother but she threatened to sue her adopted parents.

 

[Proserpina]

Alabama

I found out that I have a daughter. She contacted me on Facebook. She is now fourteen years old. She lives an hour away from me. Her adopted mother let's her see me but her adopted dad not so much yet. Do I have any rights to her if her adopted dad finds out she is talking to me and ends it. Me and my daughter have been in contact for six months now. Her adopted mother drops her off with me so we can get to know each other. I didn't know she even existed. Her biological mother gave her up. Another guy was on the birth certificate as the father he signed his rights away but he was not the father I am as the dna test shows. It was an closed adoption. Can I call her biological mother and let her know that she is mine and not the guy she said the father was. Without my daughters adoptive patents getting in trouble. My daughter tried to get in touch with her biological mother but she threatened to sue her adopted parents.

You are what's known as a legal stranger. You have no rights or obligations, at all. She's not your daughter.

 

[wavehopper27]

You have no more legal rights to her than I do.

 

[TheGeekess]

Alabama

I found out that I have a daughter. She contacted me on Facebook. She is now fourteen years old. She lives an hour away from me. Her adopted mother let's her see me but her adopted dad not so much yet. Do I have any rights to her if her adopted dad finds out she is talking to me and ends it. Me and my daughter have been in contact for six months now. Her adopted mother drops her off with me so we can get to know each other. I didn't know she even existed. Her biological mother gave her up. Another guy was on the birth certificate as the father he signed his rights away but he was not the father I am as the dna test shows. It was an closed adoption. Can I call her biological mother and let her know that she is mine and not the guy she said the father was. Without my daughters adoptive patents getting in trouble. My daughter tried to get in touch with her biological mother but she threatened to sue her adopted parents.

All you and Bio Mom are now are DONORS. You have no rights/obligations to this child. If her Dad find out what's going on (and doesn't agree with Mom), you could be in a world of trouble. I suggest letting 14YO know that when she reaches the age of 19 (majority in Bama) then she can contact you.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

If your state recognizes a bio dad coming forth to attempt to cancel and adoption after 14 years based on faulty testimony you may have standing for a long and lengthy battle. that said, you appear to have the best of both worlds. A daughter and no liability to support her. As long as she knows she can contact you at 18, it makes more sense to maintain the status quo than go though a 2 year court battle to prove you are dad and try to nullify the adoption, when the case could drag on until she is 18 anyway.

 

[LdiJ]

If your state recognizes a bio dad coming forth to attempt to cancel and adoption after 14 years based on faulty testimony you may have standing for a long and lengthy battle. that said, you appear to have the best of both worlds. A daughter and no liability to support her. As long as she knows she can contact you at 18, it makes more sense to maintain the status quo than go though a 2 year court battle to prove you are dad and try to nullify the adoption, when the case could drag on until she is 18 anyway.

Even remotely suggesting that an adoption could be nullified after 14 years is extremely irresponsible.

 

[TheGeekess]

If your state recognizes a bio dad coming forth to attempt to cancel and adoption after 14 years based on faulty testimony you may have standing for a long and lengthy battle. that said, you appear to have the best of both worlds. A daughter and no liability to support her. As long as she knows she can contact you at 18, it makes more sense to maintain the status quo than go though a 2 year court battle to prove you are dad and try to nullify the adoption, when the case could drag on until she is 18 anyway.

Once again, age of majority in Alabama is 19, not 18.