Here's the problem. We cannot offer "legal advice" per se. We can give general information and perhaps what to expect - but that's honestly about as far as we can take it. If the situation is complex, advising you to find an attorney is really the only advice we can give.
There are other avenues; if there's a law school close you may be able to get help there (students may advise under the supervision of attorneys). Legal aid generally can't deal with complex issues and most have a relatively narrow list of the types of cases they can deal with. There may be charitable organizations who can help out, too.
Maybe you cant OFFER legal advice per se, but how about saying maybe you should READ this? or that? Give someone a direction to go, simply spoutning the same tired phrase over and over again, when a LOGICAL person knows that solution is not possible, is purely crazy and actually seems mean.