I just lost everything

[AnonUserName]

You need a lawyer. That is the only way you are going to be able to fix this at this point.

This is the best advice. Yes lawyers are expensive and it can be a financial struggle but you need to get an attorney.

 

[Ladyback1]

This is the best advice. Yes lawyers are expensive and it can be a financial struggle but you need to get an attorney.

If the OP wants to get visitation with his child, that is.

Or if the OP wants to bemoan how awful the Ex is and how unfair the judge was/is--he can just continue as he has been.

 

[CJane]

Yanno, *I have pretty severe Generalized Anxiety Disorder coupled with PTSD and Chronic Insomnia. It's a rather vicious circle. And when I realized that my medical issues were affecting my parenting? I did something about it. I went to therapy, and I found a physician who could treat the physical ailments with medication once the therapy had gone as far as it could go. Yeah, it ticks me off to be 'dependent' on medication to function like "normal" people do all day long. But not nearly as much as it would tick me off to know that because *I thought I was "fine" (even though all of the evidence pointed to the contrary), and knew more about what I needed to do to preserve a relationship with my children than a judge did, I didn't get to see my kids anymore.

Face up to the choices you've made dude. This is no one's fault except your own.

 

[Antigone*]

This is the best advice. Yes lawyers are expensive and it can be a financial struggle but you need to get an attorney.

While I wholeheartedly agree with this advice an attorney won't help until the OP gets into therapy.

The OP's statement that his visitation was revoked because he did not exercise visitation is completely untrue. His state of mind seems to be the one and only issue here. Until such time that he gets mentally healthy visitation won't happen.

 

[gam]

OP you lost out in court because you were in contempt and because of that contempt, that is all the court had to deal with. Your voice is lost because your in default of the court, they do not have to listen to your show cause against your ex. Your contempt was for something your court takes seriously(as they should), you were ordered into therapy, you did not go(they don't care about your excuses), you lost your voice in court because of this.

I've seen this happen numerous times in several different Mi courts before many different Judges. A party files a show cause, the other party is found in contempt and that is it, no chance to argue against it and those cases were all for something not as serious as not going to court ordered therapy. If as you claim the therapy part was never mentioned and just appeared in your order that was mailed, you failed to do anything at the time about it. You still had a couple options, one would be to file to have the Judge reconsider that portion that just appeared in the order, you could have also gotten transcripts of the hearings to that point. Those transcripts would either prove it should not have been in the order, or proved to you that yes it was ordered, you just somehow missed that. You could have also appealed that order and had a higher court review all that had gone on.

You did nothing and then you just ignored that portion of the order, that is contempt. To bad as they slapped you hard for that contempt and you lost your parenting time for now. Your only chance now is to get your butt back into therapy, get a lawyer and file down the road after you have been going on a regular basis to therapy for your parenting time back. You gave your ex the ammo to fry you in court and the blame is on you and only you.

 

[CJane]

Your only chance now is to get your butt back into therapy,

And actually WORK the therapy. You don't show up, the therapist says "Do you have anything you need to talk about?", you say "Nope" and that's it. That's not how therapy works. And if you want ANYONE to take you seriously, you need to make therapy EFFECTIVE. And find a medical doctor or psychiatrist that can help you with the body chemistry end of things. If you're having panic attacks that are so severe you lose consciousness, you NEED meds.

 

[Suni]

While I wholeheartedly agree with this advice an attorney won't help until the OP gets into therapy.

The OP's statement that his visitation was revoked because he did not exercise visitation is completely untrue. His state of mind seems to be the one and only issue here. Until such time that he gets mentally healthy visitation won't happen.

I just want to set the record straight here. I did not state that my parenting was revoked because I didn't exercise my visitation. My ex claimed that I didn't, and that is the reason she went to the courts.

 

[Ladyback1]

I just want to set the record straight here. I did not state that my parenting was revoked because I didn't exercise my visitation. My ex claimed that I didn't, and that is the reason she went to the courts.

Forgot which personality was in charge of this thread??

Of course, multiple personalities could explain the need for therapy!

 

[stealth2]

Forgot which personality was in charge of this thread??

Of course, multiple personalities could explain the need for therapy!

Get with the program, girl.

 

[Ohiogal]

I just want to set the record straight here. I did not state that my parenting was revoked because I didn't exercise my visitation. My ex claimed that I didn't, and that is the reason she went to the courts.

Yet in your thread Suni, you are female and wanting to divorce your husband. Let's just say this: you are a liar regardless of who you are posting as.

 

[Suni]

Yet in your thread Suni, you are female and wanting to divorce your husband. Let's just say this: you are a liar regardless of who you are posting as.

Read my previous comment please.

 

[gam]

Well if I was you I would find a new spot to get your legal advice from. First regular posters here are not EVER going to trust you as we have no clue what is going on and who is who. 2nd, your soon to be ex-husband, ya know the one you called all those lovely names in one of your posts after this one is Bi-polar, and when he does come on back(cause mr bunch of excuses will be back), he will see your threads and he will continue to come read here to see what your up to. If he truly is Bi-polar and not on his meds, I would not want to be pissing him off. You never when going through a divorce or any battle in family law, let the other side see your cards, posting here you will let him see them.

Just in case you are one in the same person, you need some help, seek it, come over to my county and stop into my work we can help you out with your little issues!

 

[Ladyback1]

Hey, Suni? When did you give the STBX your phone?
Yes, it matters.

 

[quincy]

Read my previous comment please.

Suni, this is not the first time you have forgotten who you were (reminder: landlord/tenant thread).

Seriously, take some troll classes or something. You really really suck at this.

 

[Suni]

Suni, this is not the first time you have forgotten who you were (reminder: landlord/tenant thread).

Seriously, take some troll classes or something. You really really suck at this.

What? I don't think I've ever posted in that thread.