I stopped father from visiting child

[kurtp]

TEXAS.

I recently stopped the father of my som from visiting him. his girlfriend kicked him out because she says he is doing drugs and he now has nowhere to live. he also is over $8000.00 behind in child support. although I dont want to be in contempt for not letting him visit I dont want my son around a drug addict with out a home. is there something I can file in court to get this looked at? and not be in contempt until a judge investigates?
I figure once he is in court they can also do something about the child support he owes. any advice or forms to file will be appreciated.
thank you

 

[Chelle0511]

TEXAS.

I recently stopped the father of my som from visiting him. his girlfriend kicked him out because she says he is doing drugs and he now has nowhere to live. he also is over $8000.00 behind in child support. although I dont want to be in contempt for not letting him visit I dont want my son around a drug addict with out a home. is there something I can file in court to get this looked at? and not be in contempt until a judge investigates?
I figure once he is in court they can also do something about the child support he owes. any advice or forms to file will be appreciated.
thank you

~First of all when you go to court over visitation the judge will not address the issue of support. This is a totally different subject!
Now, this guy is the father of your child and has every right to see him/her. Do you know this g/f of his? How do you know that she is not lying out of spite. I hope he holds you contempt!
If the $8000.00 is a big deal, then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

 

[snostar]

You can file for a modification if there has been a change of circumstance and you have proof of such change. Judges do not investigate. You can request a GAL to represent the best interest of your child. For support, you will have to file separately for contempt.

 

[kurtp]

~First of all when you go to court over visitation the judge will not address the issue of support. This is a totally different subject!
Now, this guy is the father of your child and has every right to see him/her. Do you know this g/f of his? How do you know that she is not lying out of spite. I hope he holds you contempt!
If the $8000.00 is a big deal, then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

wow! your real bright!! first, I do want him to visit but he doesnt show up but once a month and never calls and when he does its from a different place.
he lives in halfway houses and cant hold a job. to me that sounds like someone not mentaly stable. you put out **** advice. and as far as the child support, I have done something, the courts cant seem to locate him because he does not have a job and moves frequently. you must not have children because if you do and would put them in that kind of enviroment you are a bad parent.

 

[snostar]

Why do people so often focus on the negative instead of the positve??

 

[Chelle0511]

wow! your real bright!! first, I do want him to visit but he doesnt show up but once a month and never calls and when he does its from a different place.
he lives in halfway houses and cant hold a job. to me that sounds like someone not mentaly stable. you put out **** advice. and as far as the child support, I have done something, the courts cant seem to locate him because he does not have a job and moves frequently. you must not have children because if you do and would put them in that kind of enviroment you are a bad parent.

~First of all let me tell you that when you want a honest response around here you must give ALL details. Second of all, as a matter of fact I do have a child. A child that sees her father everyday of the year...because I chose to have a child with a man that I knew that I would spend the rest of my life with. So, in conclusion... next time think about things like that before bringing an innocent child into the world with a man that is not fit for the job of "father". As Stealth will tell ya... "He's good enough to spread your legs for, but not good enough to be the father of your child"!

 

[stepmom&mom]

Kurtp~

You are confusing your personal feeling with the law. Your claim that the father is doing drugs is hearsay unless you have solid proof. You can't just walk into a court and make an emotional claim because you "feel it is in the best interest of the child" and expect for a judge to even give your request a second look. You wanted an honest answer, I presume, and not a sugar-coated response.

 

[tigger22472]

You need to file for an emergency hearing before you continue to deny visitation. You can't just continue to deny visitation and not do something about it. If you file for the emergency hearing AND you have proof of these alligations you are more then likely not going to be in trouble for THIS incident but again if you continue to deny without proof that the child is in harm and without a court order you are risking not only being held in contempt but you may even eventually lose custody.

 

[BL]

Do you want to write here the exact wording of his visitation rights and schedules ?

The fact is he could chose not to utilize his visitations ( if they aren't restricted or conditioned ) , and then 2 months later show up to utilize the visit .

Under unrestricted orders , he would have that right , and you would be required to obey the orders .

As was explained , you would file a modification Petition , and have to Prove his drug usage/abuse .

Get a GAL involved .

Lacking any proof of danger to the child , or restrictions on his visitation rights , if you disobey the orders , you would technically be in contempt .

How old is this child .

 

[kurtp]

You need to file for an emergency hearing before you continue to deny visitation. You can't just continue to deny visitation and not do something about it. If you file for the emergency hearing AND you have proof of these alligations you are more then likely not going to be in trouble for THIS incident but again if you continue to deny without proof that the child is in harm and without a court order you are risking not only being held in contempt but you may even eventually lose custody.

thank you, thats what I was getting at. I understand that as of now I am in contempt. I just wanted to know what to file so I can get him in court and make sure he has a place to live and is mentaly competent to watch my son. honestly, I dont think he will show up for court.

thanks

 

[kurtp]

Kurtp~

You are confusing your personal feeling with the law. Your claim that the father is doing drugs is hearsay unless you have solid proof. You can't just walk into a court and make an emotional claim because you "feel it is in the best interest of the child" and expect for a judge to even give your request a second look. You wanted an honest answer, I presume, and not a sugar-coated response.

thank you for your reply

 

[singlemomof4]

youre in contempt deal with it

cant the father come over to your house to see the child? at least then he'd still be exercising his visitation rights,and you could see how he acts.without a court order,you had no right to deny him his visitation,and his probs with his gf are none of your business.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

~First of all let me tell you that when you want a honest response around here you must give ALL details. Second of all, as a matter of fact I do have a child. A child that sees her father everyday of the year...because I chose to have a child with a man that I knew that I would spend the rest of my life with. So, in conclusion... next time think about things like that before bringing an innocent child into the world with a man that is not fit for the job of "father". As Stealth will tell ya... "He's good enough to spread your legs for, but not good enough to be the father of your child"!

OP, read some of Chelle"s threads, what you will find is a vindictive woman who hasn't a clue as what to do in her case, BTW she is interfering in her fiance's custody case and has no standing, the child to which she refers, is an infant and she and the father are not even married, she has no idea at this point how long they will be together. These are the facts, check it out. She is right about giving all the facts, something she failed to do.

 

[stealth2]

As Stealth will tell ya... "He's good enough to spread your legs for, but not good enough to be the father of your child"!

I don't think I've ever put it that way. That's BB.

 

[Chelle0511]

OP, read some of Chelle"s threads, what you will find is a vindictive woman who hasn't a clue as what to do in her case, BTW she is interfering in her fiance's custody case and has no standing, the child to which she refers, is an infant and she and the father are not even married, she has no idea at this point how long they will be together. These are the facts, check it out. She is right about giving all the facts, something she failed to do.

~Thanks! By the way vindictive I am not! As far as not knowing what to do in our case, when I first came here... no I did not! That must be why I ask questions on a legal board... ya think?? I've learned alot thanks to some. As far as not being married, no we are not... that part you do have correct. Ask me in 11 days and the answer will be different. Not that my life is any concern of yours but I will be married in exactly 16 days! Watch out Jamacia here we come! So tell me why it is that you say that I have no idea at this point how long we will be together. Know what, in a way I guess you are right... till death do us part, and that day I do not know!