I won!

[wtk8j]

IF that was the way of it, then why did she admonish him for continuously bringing false accusations to the attention of the court?

and, even if thats the way of it, I'm still happy. This is for the best interest of my daughter.

I am not saying he never falsly accused you of something and I would say the judge seen that as wll,however I do not think th eruling was based solely on one sides behavior ,rather a combination. I am glad however the judge ruled in your favor as far as the contempt goes . As for being in the best interest of your daughter ,I am not so sure that would be true. My husband and his ex can't communicate both for there own reasons and it is really hard on my sd.

 

[xKellyx]

I am not saying he never falsly accused you of something and I would say the judge seen that as wll,however I do not think th eruling was based solely on one sides behavior ,rather a combination. I am glad however the judge ruled in your favor as far as the contempt goes . As for being in the best interest of your daughter ,I am not so sure that would be true. My husband and his ex can't communicate both for there own reasons and it is really hard on my sd.

My daughter is 3, and yes I am very worried about her, I'm not sure I like the idea of some strange watching my child until my ex comes to get her, BUT, every thing I do, and I will admit I'm not perfect, but I'm not bad, has been completly misconstrued and put into some motion for the court. The emotional stress on me is affecting my entire family. I've never actually fought with my ex, but I have fought with his wife after she intervenes when I'm trying to tell him something. He actually got on the stand today and said I fought with him about band aids! The only thing I've ever said to him about band aids is that she is allergic to them, and we didn't even have any problems going on then. So, this order cuts out any chances of him being able to misconstrue my intentions and communication, and give me and my family a better emotional well being, which in turn affects my daughter positively.

 

[wtk8j]

My daughter is 3, and yes I am very worried about her, I'm not sure I like the idea of some strange watching my child until my ex comes to get her, BUT, every thing I do, and I will admit I'm not perfect, but I'm not bad, has been completly misconstrued and put into some motion for the court. The emotional stress on me is affecting my entire family. I've never actually fought with my ex, but I have fought with his wife after she intervenes when I'm trying to tell him something. He actually got on the stand today and said I fought with him about band aids! The only thing I've ever said to him about band aids is that she is allergic to them, and we didn't even have any problems going on then. So, this order cuts out any chances of him being able to misconstrue my intentions and communication, and give me and my family a better emotional well being, which in turn affects my daughter positively.

I can understand situations like this can be stressfull,believe me the case I am involved in goes far beyond what you are dealing with. I also


agree that sm shouldn't act in a manor which inhibits positive contact between you and dad but my question would be how do you plan to to go about informing dad of important issues concerning your daughter now and what happens when she is older and begins to understand what is going on between her mom and dad? Believe me there are plenty of reasons that my husband would rather not deal with his ex and they are far worse than what you could imagine ,but when there is a need for communication we grin and bear it for the childs sake and then take what ever may come.

 

[xKellyx]

I can understand situations like this can be stressfull,believe me the case I am involved in goes far beyond what you are dealing with. I also


agree that sm shouldn't act in a manor which inhibits positive contact between you and dad but my question would be how do you plan to to go about informing dad of important issues concerning your daughter now and what happens when she is older and begins to understand what is going on between her mom and dad? Believe me there are plenty of reasons that my husband would rather not deal with his ex and they are far worse than what you could imagine ,but when there is a need for communication we grin and bear it for the childs sake and then take what ever may come.

I have 2 ways in which I can inform dad, I can write through my daughter's attorney who will in turn give it to his attorney or, at the exchange times I can write a note, the exchange center will make a copy of the note and make sure it is acceptable, and then they will give him the note when he recieves our child.

I've also kept his mother informed of everything, and I'm sure she lets him know whats going on if he wants to know.

Hopefully, when she is older this won't be necessary, but for right now it is court ordered and there isn't anything I can do to change it.

Again, I have never fought with my ex since we have been to court. I've tried to communicate positively to him, and it just didn't work. I am still willing to communicate with him if he decides to show interest, but there is nothing more I can do.

 

[Ohiogal]

I just "love it" when I see people on here claiming "they won!" in cases like this (that was sarcasm by the way).

Both of you acted like you were 10.

No one has any legal right to harass anyone. Each state has statutes that addresses harassment.

So, "you won". To quote Adam Sandler: "whoop-dee-freaking-doo."

The thing is, it's not the parents who win or lose at these bullsh*t games, like yours.

Why?

Because it's not about YOU. It's not about him either.

It's about the g-ddamn kids.

While parents like you two keep acting like kids on an elementary school playground, it's the children that are ultimately affected.

Something BOTH of you seemed to forget about because you were too busy acting like immature jackasses.

And if you think for a minute they don't know what's going on, you're clueless.

Like I tell my ex: just because it's held in juvenile court doesn't mean that's how you're supposed to act.

So, neither of you "won." Hopefully both of you will grow the hell up.

Or maybe your kids will beat both of you to the punch on that one.

[rant mode off]

APPLAUSE! BRAVO! BRAVO! STANDING OVATION!
I saw -- I WON! And I was wondering if that meant the child(ren) lost?

 

[Ohiogal]

IF that was the way of it, then why did she admonish him for continuously bringing false accusations to the attention of the court?

and, even if thats the way of it, I'm still happy. This is for the best interest of my daughter.

It is never in the best interest of a child when the child's parents act like children and are concerned about what is best for them. Your "I WON!" says quite a bit. Because what did your child win? Visitation in some sort of center?
HOw sad.

 

[xKellyx]

It is never in the best interest of a child when the child's parents act like children and are concerned about what is best for them. Your "I WON!" says quite a bit. Because what did your child win? Visitation in some sort of center?
HOw sad.

you assume that i fought with my ex, the truth is that we haven't had even one fight.

she doesn't get supervised visitation, that would mean he was unfit as a parent, she is only exchanged at a center, this is to keep his wife from screaming at me when I try to let her husband know something about his daughter.

my child wins all around, because now her dad has to pick her up for visitation or pay big fees, and she doesn't have to witness her mother being yelled at by her stepmother.

 

[TiBooPo]

Okay!

"So, in turn I probably won't be needing this site anymore"



Good Bye Already!