ihavequestions8

[mistoffolees]

I believe that we DO end up with trolls here. The motivation would be disgruntled former members who got a shellacking here previously and want to strike back.

I guess that provides a motive that I hadn't considered.

 

[Just Blue]

I guess that provides a motive that I hadn't considered.

I can't count the amount of times (in my 5 years here) that a nitwit that has been banned has come back and "trolled".

 

[Proserpina]

I believe that we DO end up with trolls here. The motivation would be disgruntled former members who got a shellacking here previously and want to strike back.

That's very true. We have even been the topic of discussion on at least one other forum (not related to law) where there was an entire thread dedicated to discussing the intent to "bring out the trolls" here every once in awhile.

 

[Just Blue]

That's very true. We have even been the topic of discussion on at least one other forum (not related to law) where there was an entire thread dedicated to discussing the intent to "bring out the trolls" here every once in awhile.

Please share...

 

[LdiJ]

That's very true. We have even been the topic of discussion on at least one other forum (not related to law) where there was an entire thread dedicated to discussing the intent to "bring out the trolls" here every once in awhile.

I am also pretty sure that there are some people out there, maybe even law students, who like to use this forum as entertainment...kinda like prank phone calls, but prank posts instead.

 

[WittyUserName]

Please share...

I second that.

 

[Proserpina]

Check your pms.

I'm very hesitant - for good reason - to elaborate publicly.

 

[stealth2]

Where's MY pm?

 

[LdiJ]

Where's MY pm?

I didn't get one either.

 

[ihavequestions8]

I didn't say I wasn't a legal stranger to her and I'm not acting as though I'm her mother. However, I can call her "my" daughter if I want to, as long as I'm not saying that in front of her. Anyway, thanks for the advice, those of you that do seem to care about our daughter's well-being.

 

[Proserpina]

I didn't say I wasn't a legal stranger to her and I'm not acting as though I'm her mother. However, I can call her "my" daughter if I want to, as long as I'm not saying that in front of her. Anyway, thanks for the advice, those of you that do seem to care about our daughter's well-being.

This proves a point.


Unfortunately for you, not the one YOU were trying to make.

 

[ihavequestions8]

I'm sorry?

 

[mistoffolees]

I'm sorry?

I guess you need to have it spelled out.

When you call the child "my daughter", you are overstepping your legal and moral bounds. She is NOT your daughter. The child only has one mother - and it's not you.

Perhaps if you'd stop trying to pretend that she's your daughter, her mother wouldn't have as much trouble with you.

 

[futuredust]

I owe some of you an apology and thanks for good advice. And futuredust, I am sorry you are torn up over my post. That hurts my heart. When I posted I was extremely upset and was in denial, because my little boy did something so harmful. He's my baby, you know? I nursed him, changed him, took him to the park to play, wiped his tears. And now this. We have decided to let our daughter live with her mother and to continue a relationship with her while our son is at his grandparent's house every weekend. Thank you for your insight while I had none.

I am not going to argue with you about your improper use of "our daughter", I, as a step parent know you feel she is yours too, even though she is not and you really shouldn't refer to her as yours.. You would know that if another woman was calling your son, her son.

I hope you are sincere in your statements, and get the proper help for both of these children. They deserve everyones dedicated attention, love and assistance to get through this. It is not going to happen in a couple therapy sessions or even a couple of months. Get yourself some therapy as well, you just found out the child you nurtured and loved with your very being committed a horrible act- can't be easy. But own your responsibility to not only your son, but to any past or (possible) future victims. Work hard to resolve this now so that you can look back knowing you did all that was humanly possible for him and then some.. Intensive therapy and the refusal to slip into denial or allow him to slip into denial may be what saves him and others much pain and suffering in the future.

It is also my hope that you at least copied down the great resources that another poster took the time to research and post to you. The majority of those that post here do so not for the parents of these children, but for the children that are in the middle of these situations. Realize none of this is about you, this is about the children involved, in this case your son and your step-daughter. And also realize the term "step-daughter" does not mean you love her less or care about her less.. it means you recognize she has a mother who obviously is concerned about her child and loves her; and that you can respect the child and her mother by knowing your own place in the situation.