Illinois 16yr old wanting to move out

[thawizanator]

Hi I'm a 16yr old female living in southern IL and i am wondering is it possible for me to just move in with my older brother if he agrees to provide a home and stuff for me? even if my mother doesn't aprove of this? and when i turn 17 in a couple months is there a law in our state that says a 17 yr old has to live at home until the age of 18?

Thanks,
Jennifer

 

[stealth2]

Mom is the boss of you until you're 18. If she doesn't agree that you can move out, you can't move out.

 

[thawizanator]

Mom is the boss of you until you're 18. If she doesn't agree that you can move out, you can't move out.

that is not entirely true cause i can go off and get imansipated at 17 with out any of my parents signatures,, and at the age of 16 i can do the same but they both have to sign papers stating that i can move out,, but i don't want to get imansipated don't want to have to pay the fees

 

[casa]

You can't even spell emancipation- and you don't want to spend any money on "fees", yet you think you can "go off and" file through the courts to ask a judge to legally emancipate you? Do you have a job, a place to live, transportation to prove you can take care of yourself? In order to be emancipated you have to demonstrate to the courts that you are as able as any ADULT to take care of yourself.

 

[nextwife]

... i can go off and get imansipated at 17 with out any of my parents signatures,, and at the age of 16

Betcha you CAN'T get EMANCIPATED at 17.

 

[LdiJ]

Betcha you CAN'T get EMANCIPATED at 17.

I see this all over the various boards I visit that deal with family law matters. Its a product of the internet and kids communicating with large numbers of other kids.

They hear that one kid (or even a handful) was able to get emancipated (but probably not the specific details of the case) and then every teenager in the world who is disatisfied with their "lot" suddenly wants to know about emancipation.

Some of their stories really are heartbreaking, and are apparently very true, but nevertheless there are very few states that allow emancipation over the objections of their parents....even if they CAN prove that they can support themselves.

I read of one poor 17 year old who wanted to be emancipated to prevent his parent from pissing away his inheritance from his other parent....which was going at a VERY fast rate. I really felt for that child.

 

[thawizanator]

see don't you jsut ****ing hate it when you come for help all you do is get yelled at and **** well you know what **** all your guys help i'm just gonna run away and when the cops come to get me i will go home but soon as they leave i'm gone again ,, and i'll never stop that like as if DCFS will do anything with me cause i will be 17 and i don't think they would wnat to spend the time and money tryin to put me in foster care and just ****ing away tax payer money for nothing cause if i get put in a foster home i'll just ****ing leave there to so its a lose lose situation

 

[stealth2]

And *that*, dear child, is why you won't be emancipated. So they'll just put you in juvie until you're 18. Enjoy!

 

[Reyna7]

Why Do YOu Want To Leave

see don't you jsut ****ing hate it when you come for help all you do is get yelled at and **** well you know what **** all your guys help i'm just gonna run away and when the cops come to get me i will go home but soon as they leave i'm gone again ,, and i'll never stop that like as if DCFS will do anything with me cause i will be 17 and i don't think they would wnat to spend the time and money tryin to put me in foster care and just ****ing away tax payer money for nothing cause if i get put in a foster home i'll just ****ing leave there to so its a lose lose situation

Why do you want to move out so badly? Is there something going on at home?

 

[thawizanator]

So they'll just put you in juvie until you're 18. Enjoy!

and thats if they find me see

 

[thawizanator]

Why do you want to move out so badly? Is there something going on at home?

well lets see here everyone in my family my 3 other twins (i'm a quad) and the two older twins and then the two younger singels, ( thats 8kids from my mom) when me and the other tree of us quads where younger and my mom and dad wehre still together we were always forced to stay in our rooms until it was time to eat and when it was time to eat we had to wait for everyone else to eat and be finuised then we got to eat and the same with the tv and everythign ,, we were never allowed to go out side and then when i was around 10 or 11 my mom and dad divorced and now she is married to this ******* who is a puppet master and my mom is a puppet expecially when my mom is on her Med.s for her headaces and B.S. he';ll put **** into her head and she will believe every word of it even if my other brohters and sisters tells her different,,, and so now for some odd reason in the past 7 months ,, i'm the only one getting in trouble all i do is sit in my room and watch tv and or sleep cause i'm not allowed to go anywhere with out my mom and Ron stuck up my ass its like they gotta know when i'm going to have a bou-movement and then they basicaly tell me when to eat sleep ****, wipe my ass and what not but yea the touble thing,, like my Ex. boyfriend noticed it and started to say stuff cause it was wrong like when mky youngest sitser,, lets say she would break something and i woudl be in bed sleeping guess who gets in trouble,,, damn it would be me,, no matter who does what happens every day i get yelled at and put down,,, my oldest brother brought to my attention the other day that my mom hasn't said one damkn good thing about me in almost for ever,, never at all its always yelling and screaming,, and when someone would be doing the dishes and pull the trash out from under the sink it would stink ,,in front of my boyfriend and everyone in the house my mom woudl walk by and be like damn jennifer you stink like ****,, go change your underwear or somethign like that ,, she always does stuff to upset me even in public she does it,, its like i'm living a real live nightmare and there is only 2 ways to end it.

 

[stealth2]

and thats if they find me see

Yes, you're so bright that you'll hide yourself brilliantly.

 

[Jessakay]

Dah-ling

I am considering emancipation myself, and I must say that my research into the matter seems to show that you must prove yourself to be mature enough, and rational enough to handle yourself out there.

Although it is perfectly understandable for you to want out of your current situation, cursing and railing at others on the forum will not help you with this, although it may serve to vent your frustrations.

Try speaking to your mother about the situation, without your step-father. Be respectful, and non-confrontational. Or rather, don't be aggressively so. If you are calm, collected, and mature about the situation, you are much more likely to receive the Court's cooperation. It will also help later on when you join the work-force. (No Boss likes to be mouthed off to )

Good luck, I hope you get happier in the near future. And remember that at least you have people who love you Keep your nose clean.

 

[AnswerMeNOW]

Wow...OP...you must be the only child to have had it so "rough" during childhood. I really think you're the only child who's mom has told you 'no' -- or yelled at you for being a moron.

We'll look for you on Springer. Or the news. Or a poster in the Post Office. Or on "America's Most Wanted."

 

[lolalaloca13]

You know that people like you,that can only make this girl's nightmare a joke, are the reason why the world is so cold and doesn't care anymore. I came here fo help too, months back, and all I got for so called "advice" was a bunch of closed minded so called "adults" tell me that I was too young to make any rational decision on my own. Never mind the abuse that countless youth go through just because some morons decided to have children that they couldn't or wouldn't care for. I feel for you truely thawizanator...I am going through a similar dilemma. I need to emancipated in order to attend school because my parents filed a missing person's report just to spite me. They knew that I wouldn't be allowed to attend school if there was one out for me, so they took away the only thing I was ever truely passionate about, my education. I've been on my own since the age of 14, and I am 16 now. Although it is difficult to get emancipated, I wouldn't give up if I were you. You are 17 and don't have long until the current law automatically emancipates you at 18. I haven't been found and neither will you if you are smart. Finish high school whatever you do and go on to college to prove to your parents and anyone else who had no faith in you and only hindered your success that they don't control the outcome of your destiny. I live in Chicago and am starting a chapter of the NYRA here. Please feel free to come and join, just let me know (lolalaloca13 -at-hotmail.com). If you're just looking for a safe place to shelter yourself from the abuse at home until you turn 18, remember it's harder to be found in a big city.Whatever your choice just remember that there are still people who care in the world. If you need someone to talk to I'm here (again...lolalaloca13-at-hotmail.com) or you can visit the forums at youthrights.org or asfar.org. Good Luck.