I'm back. Let me tell you how court went.

[iicummins]

What is the name of your state? Mississippi

I know yall are pissed at me, BUT, let me tell you how things went!! We went to court on Dec. 20th for emergency temporary visitation for Christmas. The ex-wife and my son were at the judges bench. Ex-wife was going on and on about how horrible my son was--and wanting to terminate his parental rights. Judge had read everything that has gone on in son's absence--grandmother paying for everything the child and mother needed in father's absence-- a suitcase full of receipts for clothes, life insurance for the child, a Coverdell school policy-- over $20,000 dollars spent for the child and mother. Everything that "I thought" would keep an on-going open avenue for things to be okay when my son came home.

This ex-wife stood in front of that judge and lied over and over. HE CALLED ME TO HIS BENCH. He asked me about what had been going on in the child's life and when I started telling him, the ex told a lie!@@ That is when I came unglued and told him and her EXACTLY what has happened in his and her life. I mean she lied to him!!! I could not believe it! I know that we were not sworn in, but when you are in a court of law, you tell the truth. HE SAW THRU HER!! SHE LIED AND HE KNEW IT!!

Well, we got the child for the whole week of Christmas and visitation every other weekend.

I know that it is hard to get the "full" story from these forums and that yall give the best advice that you can BUT------ I have another problem---

During the process of this hearing---she presented "mail" that my son had written to me as evidence that she did not think he was a "good person". The mail had nothing to do with the case, and the judge dismissed it. My question is-- she stole this mail from my mail box-- I have never read this mail. This is a federal offense. How do I press charges?

 

[tazbug]

Call usps

You should first call the United States Post Office in your area and file a formal complaint and request that an investigation takes place. Since she presented it in court , you will have proof that she had posession of it without your consent. Then you can proceed with formal charges, and have her prosicuted for it. Good Luck.

 

[kidoday]

You can press charges, but I doubt it will be easy since you don't have acutal proof, other than seeing those letters, that she stole them.

I was once told by IAAl, lock your mail box and you won't have a problem of someone stealing your mail.

 

[LdiJ]

During the process of this hearing---she presented "mail" that my son had written to me as evidence that she did not think he was a "good person". The mail had nothing to do with the case, and the judge dismissed it. My question is-- she stole this mail from my mail box-- I have never read this mail. This is a federal offense. How do I press charges?

Is it in your grandchild's best interest for his grandmother to attempt to send his mother to jail? How will your grandchild feel about you in the future if you do that? Please think about that carefully.

 

[iicummins]

I'm back. Let me tell you how court went.

Mississippi. No I would never press charges against her. I would like to threaten her and make her believe I would, but no, I would never do that. It just makes me mad that she had the gall to do that and think that was her "ace in the hole" to win and it had absolutely no bearing on the case what so ever. The whole thing is a mess-- she knew from the day she gave birth to this child that we were going to get her child support. The problem is---she thought it was going to be a "verbal agreement" between us. I did not know this until AFTER we had gotten a lawyer and the papers were drawn. She wanted everything to be in her control--- NO VISITATION ORDER-- NOTHING ORDERED BY A JUDGE. I thought the whole thing had to be done legally and I tried to talk to her and change the 'visitation schedule' just like she wanted it. She goes to her lawyer-- tells her unbelievable lies-- and her lawyer advises her not to let us see the child.

To make it short and sweet -- The 2 lawyers get together---they discuss the case---her lawyer tries to reason with her---she will not reason----we go to court with HER lawyer TRYING to advise her to agree to the visitation---she does not---lies to the judge--- WE GET VISITATION. All this money spent and we are right back to 'square one'. Right where we were in the beginning. A mess!!!

I go get the child for our first visit---a wonderful exchange---you would think nothing ever happened. The child had a wonderful visit with his dad. It was great. Ha!@ Hope it continues.

It's a shame--but, when you look at the questions, responses, reply's, etc. on this forum---VISITATION --This is the problem and hopefully it will be solved eventually (along with the child support!!!!!) I am a strong advocate for that.