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[incite]

What is the name of your state? Ohio
This is somewhat unique i think. Due to my ex spouse not meeting any child support obligations to me,(22,000), and my being laid off after 9\11, My two children and I became homeless and destitute in Colorado. For my Children's welfare I signed a living arrangement whitch placed my daughter with her paternal grandmother in Ohio, and my son with his father in illinois. We all agreed that in return for forgiving my ex's arrearages, no support would be asked of me-visitation was freely given and the children would be allowed to return to me when i was more stable. I had a previous support order for our oldest son,who passed away last Year, and have a history of sorts with csea.
Now last year I got a letter saying the state was pursueing support from me for the other two. I wrote a letter explaining our agreement and included a copy of the cort order. I also advised the csea that my son was moving in with me shortly. No response-I called the day of my hearing as outlined in the initial letter and was told my case numbers did not exist and there were no hearings. I was sent to voicemail. Shortly thereafter I recieved court documents ordering me to pay, I did not show for court in there eyes. My son had been living with me since before the court hearing. I called csea - a bit after the documents were mailed because all this new stuff was sent to my sister's house in spite of my address being on file for over a year with them. I was told I had to write an appeal letter because my origianal letter could not be used at the time of the hearing(?????) I wrote another letter with my current address, the fact that my son is residing with me and detailing the original agreement,as well as stating my daughter could also come home.
I recieved the courts adoption of findings ordering me to begin payments as of Jan 31-It went to my sisters address--they have treated me as if I have not even attempted communication with them-and suddenly all my mail concerning my eldest son is going to my sisters!! I am just getting a life together and this is threatening to cave it all in again><Help

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Ohio
This is somewhat unique i think. Due to my ex spouse not meeting any child support obligations to me,(22,000), and my being laid off after 9\11, My two children and I became homeless and destitute in Colorado. For my Children's welfare I signed a living arrangement whitch placed my daughter with her paternal grandmother in Ohio, and my son with his father in illinois. We all agreed that in return for forgiving my ex's arrearages, no support would be asked of me-visitation was freely given and the children would be allowed to return to me when i was more stable. I had a previous support order for our oldest son,who passed away last Year, and have a history of sorts with csea.
Now last year I got a letter saying the state was pursueing support from me for the other two. I wrote a letter explaining our agreement and included a copy of the cort order. I also advised the csea that my son was moving in with me shortly. No response-I called the day of my hearing as outlined in the initial letter and was told my case numbers did not exist and there were no hearings. I was sent to voicemail. Shortly thereafter I recieved court documents ordering me to pay, I did not show for court in there eyes. My son had been living with me since before the court hearing. I called csea - a bit after the documents were mailed because all this new stuff was sent to my sister's house in spite of my address being on file for over a year with them. I was told I had to write an appeal letter because my origianal letter could not be used at the time of the hearing(?????) I wrote another letter with my current address, the fact that my son is residing with me and detailing the original agreement,as well as stating my daughter could also come home.
I recieved the courts adoption of findings ordering me to begin payments as of Jan 31-It went to my sisters address--they have treated me as if I have not even attempted communication with them-and suddenly all my mail concerning my eldest son is going to my sisters!! I am just getting a life together and this is threatening to cave it all in again><Help

Were there actual orders, signed by a judge, that outlined your agreements to waive his arrearages, he and grandma waive child support, for them to have temporary custody and for the kids to come back to you when you were more stable? Are you providing the csea with a copy of those orders? Have you officially filed to have custody returned to you if there were official orders?

Csea wouldn't be going after you for child support unless one or the other them (or both) filed for child support....or unless one or the other (or both) of them went on state aid of some sort. Therefore they both have an obligation to honor any orders that were made as well. You would have some recourse against them if they do not assist with resolving these issues.

It honestly may be necessary for you to get an attorney to assist you with resolving this. Its very difficult to do with out one. At a minimum you may need to get this back in front of the judge.

 

[incite]

Yes I have sent the original court documents to csea. No I have not filed for custdy-I never gave that up-only gave the them the right to register them in school and authorize medical needs. my son is now 18 and beyond child support any how--my daughter is being bought by grandma to stay as she has a Chevy blazer and the support checks are given to her.(necessity for support was not there else I never would have to agreed to this). I am not financially stable-recently employed, no credit, no assets, i am able to make basic necessitys-whichj means no qualification for free or sliding fees from attourneys. I have danced with the social services and agencys most of my adult life-my eldest had muscular dystrophy, the father of my kids is abusive and accepts no responsibility to any one. And honestly, I'm seriously stressed out and exhausted. The lack of acknowledgement of any correspondence is bothering me greatly-i feel like i'm being set up

 

[LdiJ]

Yes I have sent the original court documents to csea. No I have not filed for custdy-I never gave that up-only gave the them the right to register them in school and authorize medical needs. my son is now 18 and beyond child support any how--my daughter is being bought by grandma to stay as she has a Chevy blazer and the support checks are given to her.(necessity for support was not there else I never would have to agreed to this)

Well...I suggest that you tell your ex that if he doesn't assist you in getting the child support order(s) dropped, that you will take him back to court on the issue of the 22,000 in arrearages. You had a "contract" of sorts. They aren't honoring their end.

Then I think that you should file contempt of court against both of them for not honoring the agreement...and in addition I think that you should sue grandma at least for the amount of money that is being collected as support

However....before doing anything get yourself a consult with an attorney. Let the attorney review the paperwork and give you an opinion.

 

[incite]

I am not financially stable-recently employed, no credit, no assets, i am able to make basic necessitys-whichj means no qualification for free or sliding fees from attourneys. I have danced with the social services and agencys most of my adult life-my eldest had muscular dystrophy, the father of my kids is abusive and accepts no responsibility to any one. And honestly, I'm seriously stressed out and exhausted. The lack of acknowledgement of any correspondence is bothering me greatly-i feel like i'm being set up

 

[kat1963]

Simply put, under Federal Law a parent can not sign away the child's right to support. So the agreement that you signed was only temporary & could be overturned at any time...and it sounds like it was (as per their findings). Did you send your letters certified? If not then you have no proof of anything. If they have you paying for the son that lives with you & is now 18, then you need to get it before a judge. It's probably as simple as filing a motion to amend & review..That’s if it's not too late. But you aren't going to get anywhere unless you move on it. The forms are usually available on your state or county website, the court house or your local law library. You are probably going to be on the hook no matter what for the daughter though unless Mommy signs the forms to stop support again. The courts don't care if you live in a box or even if you have a box to live in...kind of puts child support in a whole new perspective now doesn't it?
KAT