immediate help please

[cloud3]

What is the name of your state?texas.im not married but i am living with the father of my child. we are going to go our seperate ways and he wants a letter stating i relief him of his parental rights so i won't get him for child support. i am fine with that and if he doesn't want to have anny rights well that's is his problem and he is fine with that. can it be done with a notarized letter ,is there a certain format to be followed??

 

[brisgirl825]

That's not how it works. He can't terminate his parental rights unlesss you have a husband that will adopt the child.
Tell him to get a job bc he's responsible for that child whether he wants to be or not.

Sarah

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Tell him to kiss your ass.

 

[brisgirl825]

There ya go again, SadSarah. Spewing your bias once again.

Did the OP indicate that the guy did NOT have a job? NO!

You clearly have issues with men. Before you can tell people to "get a job" and that such, practice what you preach and GET PROFESSIONAL HELP!!

One thing the OP did not indicate is what she wants/feels in this case. She very much *might* want to have nothing else to do with this guy...including HIM in the child's life. That is IF they both agree amongst themselves. And that is HER choice & his if he agrees.

But, the OP needs to know that if she gets state assistance or if she decides to marry in the future AND her hubby intends to adopt this child, then they will have to establish paternity (since they were never married). Until (if) these scenarios happen, they could not have to be involved in the system. The OP should also know that a letter, notarized or not, has no effect on the system and means nothing.

It doesn't matter what she feels. If he is the father, he can't just sign a piece of paper saying he doesn't want any rights. If that's how it worked, every dead beat would do it and these kids would all be on welfare.
An adoption must take place and right now she has no husband willing to take dads rights and responsibilities.

Sarah

 

[brisgirl825]

I know that how it works...IF they even decide to go through the system. THAT is my point!
She might not want this guy to be part of her or the child's life (that is IF he feels the same way).

They can literally go their separate ways and never go through the system of paternity & child support. That is until she runs into a situation like public assistance or adoption by a future husband. Of course, there's other scenarios as well.

Point is -- neither of them have to go through the system if they wish to go their separate ways and never speak/see each other again. There are many people out there who don't go through the system and want nothing to do with each other or their offspring. Unfortunately.

Ok I understand your point now. I'm not sure how well a single parent can care for their child financially, w/o cs. I was working but not offered insurance through my job, and had to get my kids on medicaid. My ex wasn't paying support and daycare was outrageous.
Kids are expensive and it's very difficult for a parent to do it by themselves. I think that OP should think long and hard before trying to go it alone.

Sarah

 

[haiku]

Ok I understand your point now. I'm not sure how well a single parent can care for their child financially, w/o cs. I was working but not offered insurance through my job, and had to get my kids on medicaid. My ex wasn't paying support and daycare was outrageous.
Kids are expensive and it's very difficult for a parent to do it by themselves. I think that OP should think long and hard before trying to go it alone.

Sarah

by making sure they are financially stable and can take care of themselves, before they have children..........

 

[stepmom&mom]

Technically speaking, if paternity has no been established, your boyfriend has not legal obligation nor rights to the child. Therefore, you don't need to sign anything if you guys agree. However, in the future, if he or you request a paternity test, then that would change the situation. That being said, a signed piece of paper between him and you would not suffice. You would need to get married and your spouse would have to adopt the kid. Otherwise, your boyfriend is responsible.