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My youngest daughters father has continually been asking me to have more visitation with our daughter. I continue to remind him that he has parenting time that he does not currently excersize. He is supposed to have every other weekend fri evening - Sunday evening and every wednessday overnight. He has not picked our daughter up for his midweek parenting time for almost 3 years, and regularly gives up holiday parenting time.
Additionally he is not currently providing a bedroom for our daughter as agreed upon in our order (by recomendation of the special advocate when our agreement was orignally made) because he has chosen to allow his home to go into forclosure to move in with his gf.
While I am not against him having more parenting time I 1) think he should follow the agreement we already have in place. and 2) He lives over 25 miles from our home / our daughters school making his trip to work over 35 miles. I KNOW he will end up giving up any additional time which requires him to deliver her to school in the morning. 3) I know he has no intention of moving any closer to us because his gf (who he's living with) is not allowed per her custody order to move our of the school ditrict her children attend school in. So I'm not against it, but not so much for it given the circumstances. Additionally, I mostly think he wants this increase in parenting time because we are going through a modifcation of child support. He knows if he has her more overnights, his CS goes down.
If he motions the court for more parenting time, given that he has not used the parenting time he already has, is a judge likely to increase his parenting time?
Would he need a change in circumstances to request a change in parenting time?
If he continues to ask, and I continue to say that I wont entertain the idea because he doesn't follow the current order will that look bad for me if he does request more parenting time in court?
Additionally, to my knowledge, he and the gf are planning on moving soon because her lease will be up. Because our orders state that he is to provide a seperate bedroom for our daughter if he does not once they move how long must/should I wait before bringing his non compliance to the courts attention?
I know some will think this petty of me, but please bear in mind that he has chosen to not take our daughter back to his home where she is provided a bedroom since maybe October last year. (I imagine the forclosure proccess is getting close to complete, he does still have access to the home however, last I knew at least). Our daughter sleeps on a couch at the gf's house where her dog has urinated, she is not provided blankets or pillows and comes home sick nearly everytime she visits with him since she's been staying at the gf's house. My only conclusion to the illness when she returns is that she's sleeping/living in unclean conditions. I have honestly just sucked up my pride in regards to the sleeping arrangements (soiled couch and no blankets/pillows was something new she told me this last last visit), bite my tongue, and know that eventually as she gets older, things like the above wont go over very well with her. I DO NOT want to take away parenting time with dad, I just think given the circumstances it should not increase.
Any advice? Thanks.What is the name of your state?
My youngest daughters father has continually been asking me to have more visitation with our daughter. I continue to remind him that he has parenting time that he does not currently excersize. He is supposed to have every other weekend fri evening - Sunday evening and every wednessday overnight. He has not picked our daughter up for his midweek parenting time for almost 3 years, and regularly gives up holiday parenting time.
Additionally he is not currently providing a bedroom for our daughter as agreed upon in our order (by recomendation of the special advocate when our agreement was orignally made) because he has chosen to allow his home to go into forclosure to move in with his gf.
While I am not against him having more parenting time I 1) think he should follow the agreement we already have in place. and 2) He lives over 25 miles from our home / our daughters school making his trip to work over 35 miles. I KNOW he will end up giving up any additional time which requires him to deliver her to school in the morning. 3) I know he has no intention of moving any closer to us because his gf (who he's living with) is not allowed per her custody order to move our of the school ditrict her children attend school in. So I'm not against it, but not so much for it given the circumstances. Additionally, I mostly think he wants this increase in parenting time because we are going through a modifcation of child support. He knows if he has her more overnights, his CS goes down.
If he motions the court for more parenting time, given that he has not used the parenting time he already has, is a judge likely to increase his parenting time?
Would he need a change in circumstances to request a change in parenting time?
If he continues to ask, and I continue to say that I wont entertain the idea because he doesn't follow the current order will that look bad for me if he does request more parenting time in court?
Additionally, to my knowledge, he and the gf are planning on moving soon because her lease will be up. Because our orders state that he is to provide a seperate bedroom for our daughter if he does not once they move how long must/should I wait before bringing his non compliance to the courts attention?
I know some will think this petty of me, but please bear in mind that he has chosen to not take our daughter back to his home where she is provided a bedroom since maybe October last year. (I imagine the forclosure proccess is getting close to complete, he does still have access to the home however, last I knew at least). Our daughter sleeps on a couch at the gf's house where her dog has urinated, she is not provided blankets or pillows and comes home sick nearly everytime she visits with him since she's been staying at the gf's house. My only conclusion to the illness when she returns is that she's sleeping/living in unclean conditions. I have honestly just sucked up my pride in regards to the sleeping arrangements (soiled couch and no blankets/pillows was something new she told me this last last visit), bite my tongue, and know that eventually as she gets older, things like the above wont go over very well with her. I DO NOT want to take away parenting time with dad, I just think given the circumstances it should not increase.
Any advice? Thanks.What is the name of your state?
