information overload, please help

[jamiewilhelm]

What is the name of your state? kansas
I am currenlty seeking to get a divorce and have a few questions. I have been married since 1994, however, we have been seperate for 6 years. Our divorce is most definitely uncontested, we are friends. I have 5 children, however only 2 are his. One I had when he and I got married, the next 2 are his. The 2 after this, were born after he and I seperated and are most definitely not his. The 4th one I have a paternity test for, however the last child I do not. His father and I are currently together, but I understand that legally my husband is responsible for this, when we divorce, how do I change this? Will I have to get a paternity test, or can both men just sign paternity affidavits? How long will it take for us to finalize divorce in this situation? We both agree to everything, child support, visitation, everything and we do not have any assets or bills to seperate, just no fighting period. Can you guide me as where to start?

 

[bulldogg70]

Is there any question as to one of the last not being his???? Anyway, if you both agree and make your own agreements, and it is in accordance with Kan. statute there should not be a problem at all. You should only acknowledge the children you both know are yours in common and that is it. You can make a bigger issue out of it, if you really want, but a joint agreement which you both understand is not going to arouse the court.

 

[jamiewilhelm]

There is no question as to who my last 2 children belong to, and they are not his. I don't want a huge issue at all, I just want for him to not be held responsible, long story short, my 3 yr old, the last, was obviously born while we are still married, which technically makes him responsible, thats not necessary and I want to know how to fix that no issues, he and I are friends, we just can't be married. I want whats best for everyone involved. MY 3 yr old father is very much in the picture, I want him to be responsible(which he is) does all that make sense?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Your husband is legally responsible until he files a petition for paternity and is proven not to be the father of the child. At that time, or concurrently, your boyfriend can (and should) also file a petition for paternity because, as of this moment, he has no legal rights to the child should something happen to you.