Interesting Situation

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

The purpose of child support is to provide for the needs of the child. The needs of the child are not limited to direct expenses for food, clothing, school and entertainment. Child support is also to be used for housing, utilities, transportation, and other indirect expenses related to the day-to-day care and well-being of the child.

Source: Child Support

Bonding her ex out of jail does not qualify as supporting my children.
Neither is buying herself a coach bag.

I'm not an idiot. So don't treat me like one. I've been fighting my ex for custody for my children for over 3 years. I've done very extensive research on my case and what can and cannot be done. I've been doing this all without a lawyer. I've got more than what most fathers can wish for in my case.

My children's mother is a dead beat. She just gave birth to her 5th kid in 6 years. 2 of the children are mine and the rest all have different fathers. Education level is 8th grade for her and been on assistance almost half her life. She has realized she can live for free just by popping out kid after kid.

Although I am the only father in the picture out of 5 of her kids. I'm the only one paying support because i'm the only one who is fighting to make sure my children have a good life. So pass your bull crap onto somebody else.

Eat your own crumpet and enjoy my reading.

It certainly did matter to you about her education when you made, not one, but TWO children. That isn't a change of circumstances.

Geez, you sound like my X. Throw everything out and hope it sticks. Well, it does - on HIM.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Accountings. New Guideline 9
authorizes the trial court to require
a parent that is receiving child
support payments to provide an
accounting of how those funds are
spent. However, the Guidelines
provide that this should be required
only upon a showing of reasonable
cause that child support is not
being used for the support of the
child. Further, accountings may be
ordered only on a prospective basis:
“An accounting may not be ordered
as to support payments previously
paid.”

http://indianalawblog.com/documents/new_guidelines.pdf

 

[jowen82]

As for the rest of your diatribe - I hate to break this to you, but you're also likely not going to change custody.

3 years of fighting? And no custody yet? It might be time to face reality.

Breakdown
Year 1. I had every other weekend with my children

Year 2. I went from every other weekend with my children to every weekend plus 1-2 days during the week.

Year 3. I went from every weekend and 1-2 days a week to 1 week straight at a time. I would have my kids for 1 whole week and then she would have them for 1 whole week.

Going on Year 4. I'm fighting to get my children out of that household of 10 people 3 bedroom house on assistance with her boyfriend being in and out of jail for possession of marijuana. I want FULL custody. I've worked my way from almost nothing to where I am at now. I've done very well for myself without a lawyer. Some lawyers can barely get what i've got.

One thing I hate is people thinking they know everything when they barely know anything. You make assumptions before you find the facts.

I know in court you must prove a substantial or continuous change to award change of custody. Each time I bring her to court I keep doing so that's why I keep getting more and more custody/visitation with them everytime. I know how to file the proper paperwork.

 

[jowen82]

It certainly did matter to you about her education when you made, not one, but TWO children. That isn't a change of circumstances.

Geez, you sound like my X. Throw everything out and hope it sticks. Well, it does - on HIM.

For your information she lied to me when we were together. She told me she did have her diploma. Come find out after we split because of constant fighting and me realizing she is not the smartest bunch of apples that she lied and only had an 8th grade education.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

For your information she lied to me when we were together. She told me she did have her diploma. Come find out after we split because of constant fighting and me realizing she is not the smartest bunch of apples that she lied and only had an 8th grade education.

But it took you TWO children to figure that out? Heck, we exchanged our college diplomas BEFORE we went any further.

 

[Proserpina]

Look. We get that you hate Mom and are pissed at yourself for making a lousy choice.

We really do understand that.

But the bottom line is, you're tilting at windmills.

You really do need to focus. Because your bitterness and anger are going to hurt your kids.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

She just gave birth to her 5th kid in 6 years.

Maybe she used the support for one of the OTHER children to bail out the BF, IF she bailed him out.

Regardless, the courts will NOT give YOU the information about someone else's bail source. It is NOT.YOUR.BUSINESS.

 

[CJane]

Indiana has a VERY liberal deviation for time spent with the kids. If Dad has true 50/50, then I sincerely doubt he's really paying that much in child support. Certainly not enough to support Mom and her 6 kids.

Also? She's been on state aid for 10+ years? He's been fighting for custody for 3 years. So either he didn't give a crap for the first 7 years after they split, or she was on aid while she was with him as well.

 

[Just Blue]

For your information she lied to me when we were together. She told me she did have her diploma. Come find out after we split because of constant fighting and me realizing she is not the smartest bunch of apples that she lied and only had an 8th grade education.

Apples are not "smart". Nor do they come in a "bunch". PECK. Apples come in peck.

And if it takes you 2+ years to figure out that the person you are procreating with is ignorant, well...!that does little to "buff your chrome".

 

[LdiJ]

Well lets see here the things I can prove.

#1 Her mother pays mortgage, utilities

#2 The government pays food stamps, and medicaid

#3 She has all the clothes she's gotten for the kids given to her by her other family members.

So having to pay her support should dang well goto buying my children NEW clothes, shoes, school supplies.

And your remarks about filing something in court and it not going anywhere. If you haven't noticed that I am doing this in the state of Indiana. If any of you realized that then you would see that the state of Indiana DOES allow having the non-custodial parent to request how the money is spent. If the money is mis-used ie not for the children in anyway then it could be grounds for eliminating support or change of custody.

Like i've said before i've done my research. I was just here asking for your input not some of your bull crap. How can you give advice in law if you don't know anything about it yourselves? Amazing!

I am in Indiana. You are not going to get a judge to force mom to give you an accounting of how child support is spent unless your children are clearly not being fed, clothed and housed.

Your children clearly ARE being fed, clothed and housed, and therefore you will not get a judge to give you what you want. That is simply legal reality.