Interfering w/ Custody

[StampGirl]

Thanks, StampGirl. I'm out. I'm going to drown myself in pudding. Unless the llamas got it. or the loons.

Save some for meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ha ha

 

[stepmom04]

Sad but she won't know how it goes. She will be out in the hallway sharing a bench with my Ex's wife and the countless others who refuse to allow their spouses to grow up and actually communicate and parent their children together.

That is funny.

Actually I'm usually allowed to stay in court. Occasionally they will close the court, but I see the copy of all of the orders. I'll let you know, but it's like 4 months away. lol

Other than the stupid hearing thing next month. But there is no testimony or anything. It's just so the judge can tell her to fill it out better. Which is stupid...her attorney should have read the damn directions. lol

 

[StampGirl]

I'm saying it....you are probably right. I should let him handle it. I talked him to something ..and it was a mistake...working out something for her summer visitation. It is not working out, but I felt sorry for the kids..and I knew it was the only way they could see her.

She lives with her boyfriend...(the one they can't see), she lied to the judge and said she had rented an apartment for the summer....and didn't. She asked if she could get them everyday for a few hours until boyfriend got home. My husband agreed. Now our lives are completely out of whack, she says she's going to come..rarely does. Doesn't call. Comes and goes as she pleases. It really sucks for everyone...expect maybe her. *slap me in the face....I've got to stop feeling sorry for her...everytime...I get screwed!*

Its ok. We all learn sometime.

Don't let her come and go as she pleases. You both allow her to do it. Stop.

I used to let my Ex do whatever he wanted. Learned quick that was letting him walk all over me. NOW.... he sees the kids when he is supposed to and if he chooses to not do it, well no skin off my nose. Thats his choice and the kids have come to realize at very young ages (6-12yrs) that their Dad isn't the most wonderful thing on the planet. Oh they know he loves them to pieces, thats not the issue. Just prefers work and his wife to them. That was set forth by his ACTIONS not my words.

 

[stepmom04]

Its ok. We all learn sometime.

Don't let her come and go as she pleases. You both allow her to do it. Stop.

I used to let my Ex do whatever he wanted. Learned quick that was letting him walk all over me. NOW.... he sees the kids when he is supposed to and if he chooses to not do it, well no skin off my nose. Thats his choice and the kids have come to realize at very young ages (6-12yrs) that their Dad isn't the most wonderful thing on the planet. Oh they know he loves them to pieces, thats not the issue. Just prefers work and his wife to them. That was set forth by his ACTIONS not my words.

I hate that. That's what she does. The 10 year old told her that too...he's tired of her choosing men over him. He knows, that I'd choose him over my husband any day...he's not even really my son. But he knows...he comes before my husband. lol

 

[StampGirl]

That is funny.

Actually I'm usually allowed to stay in court. Occasionally they will close the court, but I see the copy of all of the orders. I'll let you know, but it's like 4 months away. lol

Other than the stupid hearing thing next month. But there is no testimony or anything. It's just so the judge can tell her to fill it out better. Which is stupid...her attorney should have read the damn directions. lol

NO offense but I take great joy in tossing my Ex's wife out of the courtroom. So does our judge and mediator.

You are lucky. Most steps dont get to stay. Personally? I would rather stay home. I refuse to attend court with my husband, not that he has ever been in court. They agreed to everything out of court and have a great relationship, now that he answers the phone

 

[StampGirl]

I hate that. That's what she does. The 10 year old told her that too...he's tired of her choosing men over him. He knows, that I'd choose him over my husband any day...he's not even really my son. But he knows...he comes before my husband. lol

See?? Kids know. They are smart. My stepson knows I love him, even if I make him clear his plate from the table and also ask he treat me with respect.

Believe me its hard beign a step when your spouse has custody. I think its different than than being the step married to the NCP. But thats my opinion.

 

[stepmom04]

I think we have a pretty understanding judge for the most part. My husband doesn't think so, because he never punishes her as serious as we think he should, but we pretty much always win..just not always get everything we want.

The thing with the grandmother, actually stemmed from things she did to me too. THe judge's exact words was...the hatred you have for dad and stepmother is scary and I don't think it's in the best interest of the kids to be around someone that hates those people that much. He gets it for the most part.