Is it even worth it to report arrearages if they pay occasionally?

[maryjo]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FLORIDA


If my ex is behind in his child support, and I report it to child support enforcement through the department of revenue....will they go after him if he is occassionally making payments?

He has paid about 5 times in the last 5 months, although three of those months he made no payments at all. He is going around telling people he is caught up on his child support. Showed up in a truck he just bought, has an Android he flaunts to his son. And yet...cant seem to pay his child support.

I am considering going back to the DOR to report it but I dont know if I am wasting my time since he has paid, just not like he is supposed to.

He is supposed to be paying 98 dollars a week. He is more than 1700 dollars behind just from the last few months, that isnt including what he was already behind when he was given the order to pay 25 dollars a month towards his back child support and I forgave half his arrearages last summer.

Is it even worth my time to bother with this? I am just so tired of playing these games with him. He keeps telling me he has no money, has even hinted at me giving him gas money to go back and forth to school and work on!!! At Christmas, after telling me and our son that he had no money to buy him gifts with, I used the very last little bit of my money to buy gifts for him to give our son. Then when our son came home from there, he told me they had all kinds of gifts for him. None of them were the ones I had bought, although they gave him those too. He quit his job saying he couldnt go to school and work at the same time. To TRADE school! He is going on the GI Bill. He swore he would pay his child support out of that. Then he said they screwed him out of his money and he still couldnt pay. He then got a part time job but still says he cant pay his child support.

I am just tired of him thinking this is no big deal and he can get away with it. But I dont know if they will even bother with him since he does pay....just nowhere near when he is supposed to or what he is supposed to. Do they go by how much they are behind or how far behind in payments they are?

 

[mistoffolees]

If you go to CSE, they'll take the money directly from his paycheck so that you get paid EVERY time, not just when he feels like it. AND, they'll take additional money until he's caught up.

Call your local CSE for information.

I'd also suggest that you stop covering up for him. He's an adult and should manage his own finances. As much as possible, you should endeavor to live off of your own income so that you're not severely hurt if you don't get his money.

 

[maryjo]

His child support was coming directly out of his paycheck until he quit his full time job. Somehow he has managed to have this part time job and not have to pay it. Probably because he isnt making enough to cover his child support. I am not exactly sure.

I have been living without his child support. I work a more than full time job and until recently was working a part time job as well. I am still waiting to find out if I have been fired from my part time job, although it was nothing I did wrong and, in fact, I might possibly have a discrimination case against them.

I recently gave up my health insurance and put my son on Florida Kid Care to save me over 300 a month. I also recently paid off a bill that was costing me 104 dollars a month.

We live at the basic levels. No cable, nothing name brand, nothing bought that we dont absolutely have to have. I shop as cheaply as I can and often go without eating to make sure my son has what he needs. I work for a non-profit organization that, while I ADORE my job, it obviously doesnt pay very well. My supervisor was trying to get me a raise but I assume it didnt go through since she told me that a few months ago and nothing has changed on my pay stub.

I can, and have, lived without the child support. It isnt going to break me. It would, however, just make breathing a little easier. But if not, I will still make it. I have spent years letting him get away with this to make my life easier. But now he seems to just be blatantly flaunting in our faces the things he is buying instead of paying his child support. He is very angry and jealous that I have my own place now instead of living with my parents and that I have a decent car. Since I got the car a year ago he has been doing whatever he can to not pay child support. He is telling everyone we live in a dump. We absolutely do NOT live in a dump. Its an old house but its very cute and clean in a really nice neighborhood. He lives in his girlfriend's trailer on her parent's property, down a dirt road in the middle of woods in a tiny little town. Until this past week he was driving a POS car after having his other vehiles re-po'ed for non payment. I work very hard and have come a long way since he literally threw us (me and our then 6 year old son) out of his grandparent's house. He has never had anything that was his own, that he achieved on his own. I have a great job that I love, I have my own place, my own car, and I am happy. And he cant stand that!! LOL!!!

 

[mistoffolees]

His child support was coming directly out of his paycheck until he quit his full time job. Somehow he has managed to have this part time job and not have to pay it. Probably because he isnt making enough to cover his child support. I am not exactly sure.

I have been living without his child support. I work a more than full time job and until recently was working a part time job as well. I am still waiting to find out if I have been fired from my part time job, although it was nothing I did wrong and, in fact, I might possibly have a discrimination case against them.

I recently gave up my health insurance and put my son on Florida Kid Care to save me over 300 a month. I also recently paid off a bill that was costing me 104 dollars a month.

We live at the basic levels. No cable, nothing name brand, nothing bought that we dont absolutely have to have. I shop as cheaply as I can and often go without eating to make sure my son has what he needs. I work for a non-profit organization that, while I ADORE my job, it obviously doesnt pay very well. My supervisor was trying to get me a raise but I assume it didnt go through since she told me that a few months ago and nothing has changed on my pay stub.

I can, and have, lived without the child support. It isnt going to break me. It would, however, just make breathing a little easier. But if not, I will still make it. I have spent years letting him get away with this to make my life easier. But now he seems to just be blatantly flaunting in our faces the things he is buying instead of paying his child support. He is very angry and jealous that I have my own place now instead of living with my parents and that I have a decent car. Since I got the car a year ago he has been doing whatever he can to not pay child support. He is telling everyone we live in a dump. We absolutely do NOT live in a dump. Its an old house but its very cute and clean in a really nice neighborhood. He lives in his girlfriend's trailer on her parent's property, down a dirt road in the middle of woods in a tiny little town. Until this past week he was driving a POS car after having his other vehiles re-po'ed for non payment. I work very hard and have come a long way since he literally threw us (me and our then 6 year old son) out of his grandparent's house. He has never had anything that was his own, that he achieved on his own. I have a great job that I love, I have my own place, my own car, and I am happy. And he cant stand that!! LOL!!!

Good job.

I would report him to CSE, anyway. Tell them where he's working. Eventually, he'll likely have a full time job. If not, at least they'll be able to go after his tax refund (if any). They'll also be able to threaten to take away his driver's license - which may be what it makes for him to work full time.

 

[meanyjack]

His child support was coming directly out of his paycheck until he quit his full time job. Somehow he has managed to have this part time job and not have to pay it. Probably because he isnt making enough to cover his child support. I am not exactly sure.

Most likely it's because his name hasn't come across in that new hire search (or whatever it's called) yet. CSEA probably doesn't know the previous garnishment is no longer applicable. So, as instructed, notify them and have them run his name. If it pops up, then a new garnishment order will be sent to his (reportedly) new employer.

Now, only a certain percentage of each check can be legally garnished, but he is still on the hook for the ordered monthly amount.