is it just me?

[fire1ss]

What is the name of your state?
More than half of the threads in this topic refer to age limit questions regarding sex. Most of them are age gaps of 4 or more years! The times they are a changin' I guess.

 

[Miss Smith]

Well color me Rose and stick me in a vase

I think it is all those Hormones. They think they have problems, the fellow I have an eye on is 40 years younger than me. I think I need to take more of those pink pills though, I do not think I have a hormone in my body anymore.

If you people were smart, I would invest in Norelco, or Schick or Gillette ( I prefer Gillette), Because I am getting whiskers on my chin to rival that wizard that used to live next door in 1983.

pss pss pss, here kitty kitty kitty.

 

[Happy Trails]

What is the name of your state?
More than half of the threads in this topic refer to age limit questions regarding sex. Most of them are age gaps of 4 or more years! The times they are a changin' I guess.

It is pretty sad.

Couple of articles I found interesting. Perhaps if our youth would read them they would start to understand why these laws are in place. There are so many other things they should be focusing on.

http://www.agi-usa.org/pubs/journals/2903097.html
http://mbhs.bergtraum.k12.ny.us/cybereng/nyt/teen-pre.htm

 

[AHA]

What is the name of your state?
More than half of the threads in this topic refer to age limit questions regarding sex. Most of them are age gaps of 4 or more years! The times they are a changin' I guess.

It's not surprising. Kids aren't being raised right nowadays, so they have no "right or wrong" thoughts happening in their little minds, just selfish thoughts of what they want regardless of legality.
My kids are sure a hell going to be raised to not be selfish, irresponsible idiots that have sex left right and center with whoever they come across.

 

[Wolflmg]

It's not surprising. Kids aren't being raised right nowadays, so they have no "right or wrong" thoughts happening in their little minds, just selfish thoughts of what they want regardless of legality.
My kids are sure a hell going to be raised to not be selfish, irresponsible idiots that have sex left right and center with whoever they come across.

I don't think it always really matter's how their raised. Even the good kids, fall every once in a while. I've known plenty of kids that were raised the right way and they fall, perhaps even harder then the ones that didn't have parents or anyone that cared about them.

Anyone can raise their kids the best of their ability, the problem is sometimes things don't go the way everyone wants them to. People of all ages make mistakes, all anyone can hope for is they will learn from their mistakes. There is no perfict way to raising teenagers. I feel my parents raised me the best they could, including my sisters and brother, but not all of us are perfict, we all make mistakes, big and small.

 

[Rushia]

It's not surprising. Kids aren't being raised right nowadays, so they have no "right or wrong" thoughts happening in their little minds, just selfish thoughts of what they want regardless of legality.
My kids are sure a hell going to be raised to not be selfish, irresponsible idiots that have sex left right and center with whoever they come across.

So true, kids nowadays are mostly little brats. I know that if I ever did half of what I see the kids doing now, my mom would have killed me. Did I get spanked, you're darned tooting I did. Kids now can call all of these abuse lines, just cause mom and dad won't give them what they want. We need those smacks on the bottom once in a while. Hell, I am almost 30 and my mom STILL puts me in the corner or will pop my rear. And as embarrassing as that is to admit, yeah I let her. She is my mom and there is no room for an argument.

 

[stealth2]

There are too many parents who are unwilling/unable to be parents rather than friends to their kids from an early age - 13/14/15 is way too old to suddenly realize the need some sort of parent.

Too many parents who are too focussed on work rather than parenting (and I don't fault those who HAVE to work long hours just to put food on the table - I mean the ones who figure that advancing in their careers and tossing money at kids is parenting).

Too many parents who don't understand that time is what kids need. And REAL good role models. Not the athletes and "singers" with all the bling - but honest to goodness role models to show kids that self respect and honor are more important and valuable than money and chicks.

Too many parents who do not teach their daughters that they have greater value than simply their body. That they have potential in the world that does not include just putting out. Too many parents who don't teach their sons to respect women, and cool isn't counting up how many chicks they've nailed.

Too many parents who are unwilling/unable to talk to their kids frankly and honestly about sex and the potential ramifications.

Too many parents who feel like hypocrites telling their kids not to do what they did as teens.

What goes around, comes around.

 

[Wolflmg]

There are too many parents who are unwilling/unable to be parents rather than friends to their kids from an early age - 13/14/15 is way too old to suddenly realize the need some sort of parent.

Too many parents who are too focussed on work rather than parenting (and I don't fault those who HAVE to work long hours just to put food on the table - I mean the ones who figure that advancing in their careers and tossing money at kids is parenting).

Too many parents who don't understand that time is what kids need. And REAL good role models. Not the athletes and "singers" with all the bling - but honest to goodness role models to show kids that self respect and honor are more important and valuable than money and chicks.

Too many parents who do not teach their daughters that they have greater value than simply their body. That they have potential in the world that does not include just putting out. Too many parents who don't teach their sons to respect women, and cool isn't counting up how many chicks they've nailed.

Too many parents who are unwilling/unable to talk to their kids frankly and honestly about sex and the potential ramifications.

Too many parents who feel like hypocrites telling their kids not to do what they did as teens.

What goes around, comes around.

Some teachers can be a fault too. I remember the kids in my classes, talking about drugs, sex and what not. I heard every word, and I find it hard to believe that none of the teachers didn't here it to. Heck my art teacher my junior year, a kid brought in a video of himself and a couple of friends, all of them drinking beer and the teacher didn't even seem to care, she thought it was funny.

 

[ldkirby]

"Too many parents who are too focussed on work rather than parenting (and I don't fault those who HAVE to work long hours just to put food on the table - I mean the ones who figure that advancing in their careers and tossing money at kids is parenting). "

Stealth, thanks so much for that. I had been struggling with the thought of going back to work lately, after spending 4 years at home with my 3 and 4 year olds. I felt like my husband working late and on Saturdays wasn't fair to him and I should put the kids in day care and get my butt to work to help.

Reading your post reminds me that I am here to be their parent, not their bank.
Thanks again

 

[stealth2]

Well, your husband is ALSO there to be their parent, and it isn't fair to him OR them that he have to work long hours to allow you to be home. Why can't you take a p/t job to pick up the slack so he doesn't have to work late and weekends and can also parent the kids?

 

[pty]

More than half of the threads in this topic refer to age limit questions regarding sex.

On another board I visited about underage marriage one of the most common comments was, “Well, I’m just going to get pregnant because I heard that I’ll be able to go to XXX state and get married, and there isn’t sh*t my parents can do about it”. What a selfish reason to bring a child into the world. And then you could hop over to the teenage pregnancy thread and read all about ‘what the state *has* to do to help a teenage mother’. Some of these kids offering advice on there were teenagers with multiple children. No sense of gratitude for the assistance they were receiving. The attitude was basically that they ‘deserved’ this assistance, d*mn it! Now, I’m all for helping people when they make a mistake and giving others a second chance, but I have a real problem with kids intentionally bringing children into the world that they know they can’t afford to support and then depending on the taxpayers to take care of them.