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About 1 1/2 yrs ago my hubby allowed his kids to go live with their mom (their request). We had a good relationship with children. We have more rules than mom and if I was a teen I'd want to live at her house too (not many rules and behavior is tolerated).
Since then, by no fault of dad, mom has lied and manipulated the kids and they don't even want to see their dad anymore. Mom is evil and hates dad and even has admitted that she wants to make him hurt.
Last court date she told him that it's all about the money, she want's as much as she can get and that their daughter is 18 in 2 years and she'll make sure that she won't talk to him. Mom was shocked when dad said that daughter just e-mailed him and it doesn't sound like that's the case.
Via the kids we have heard for years that mom hates dad and tells them all sorts of stuff. Once they made up a song that dad's an a-hole and then went to their computer and wrote a fake letter to Websters Dictionary to change the meaning of a-hole to dad's name. Daughter used to come home crying about it and told us that if she says anything that mom calls her a traitor. Son has told us recently that he watches porn on the internet with mom's boyfriend. Son says Mom puts son in "time out" outside with no shoes or jacket (30F weather). Son told neighbor & step sister that mom's boyfriend hits him. Both kids have for years told us that they know their mother is a liar & steals from others in the house (son has taken on these traits). Son has said that he hates living there and has asked to come back but mom said no. Then he changes his mind and says that he'll just stay at his moms. It's hard to believe son on some of the stuff because he lies so much but some things she's done before (all things above are known and/or admitted by mom).
We feel that she'll continue with the same behavior and that the children won't come to see dad at all.
Support is based on 20% (kids are both teens and it's "shared parenting" allowing the kids to come & go as they please) but as soon as it goes down and she can file, I'm sure she will to get more money. Dad doesn't have a problem with support but it's not his fault that she is poisening the kids to hate him, thus getting her more money.
What can we do to stop her? Is there anything we can do to help our situation? We can't force the kids to visit but is it fair that we get financially killed because she is making them hate us not to mention what this is doing to the kids. We've been told that she is just on the line of abuse but we can't do anything because she stays just under the mark.
About 1 1/2 yrs ago my hubby allowed his kids to go live with their mom (their request). We had a good relationship with children. We have more rules than mom and if I was a teen I'd want to live at her house too (not many rules and behavior is tolerated).
Since then, by no fault of dad, mom has lied and manipulated the kids and they don't even want to see their dad anymore. Mom is evil and hates dad and even has admitted that she wants to make him hurt.
Last court date she told him that it's all about the money, she want's as much as she can get and that their daughter is 18 in 2 years and she'll make sure that she won't talk to him. Mom was shocked when dad said that daughter just e-mailed him and it doesn't sound like that's the case.
Via the kids we have heard for years that mom hates dad and tells them all sorts of stuff. Once they made up a song that dad's an a-hole and then went to their computer and wrote a fake letter to Websters Dictionary to change the meaning of a-hole to dad's name. Daughter used to come home crying about it and told us that if she says anything that mom calls her a traitor. Son has told us recently that he watches porn on the internet with mom's boyfriend. Son says Mom puts son in "time out" outside with no shoes or jacket (30F weather). Son told neighbor & step sister that mom's boyfriend hits him. Both kids have for years told us that they know their mother is a liar & steals from others in the house (son has taken on these traits). Son has said that he hates living there and has asked to come back but mom said no. Then he changes his mind and says that he'll just stay at his moms. It's hard to believe son on some of the stuff because he lies so much but some things she's done before (all things above are known and/or admitted by mom).
We feel that she'll continue with the same behavior and that the children won't come to see dad at all.
Support is based on 20% (kids are both teens and it's "shared parenting" allowing the kids to come & go as they please) but as soon as it goes down and she can file, I'm sure she will to get more money. Dad doesn't have a problem with support but it's not his fault that she is poisening the kids to hate him, thus getting her more money.
What can we do to stop her? Is there anything we can do to help our situation? We can't force the kids to visit but is it fair that we get financially killed because she is making them hate us not to mention what this is doing to the kids. We've been told that she is just on the line of abuse but we can't do anything because she stays just under the mark.