What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ
It's that time, I have been lurking and learning for months- now it's my turn actually my husbands turn to ask some questions. You've been waiting huh?
Ok turning over to him.
This is Mr Sipa, my ex is planning a move out of state. ( Moving from here to North Carolina). My court documentation specifies nothing NOTHING. Not medical, not dental, not pick up not drop off, not first refusal not anything not holidays, Except insurance and court schedule (Me Wed at 6 to Saturday at 6). I have two girls ages 9 and 13.
I began having physical violence issues with my 13 year old alittle less then a year ago, we decided some time away from each other may do both of us some good in sorting out our feelings. Two weeks has turned into 10 months when I was informed by my daughter she was told she did not need to return to my home because her mother said so. I have not utilized my visitation of my oldest daughter on the court ordered schedule since( I have her randomly when she feels like it or her mother decides she needs time to herself) I know bad to let a child make a decision, but the physical violence against the other kids I could not have in this house. She needs counseling but her mother will not agree.
My youngest is still here on her court appointed schedule.I do not wish to fight their mother on her move I do however want it to go through the courts as my ex has a habit of hanging the phone up when I call, taking kids with out my permission or dumping them on me when unexpected. I could be mid sentance with one of the kids and click. This has gone on for years. I am also concerned that with out a court appointed visitation schedule I will never see my kids again, or I will get random calls telling me their arrival time at the air port with no warning. I asked her to put this through the court system. She subsiquently called and told me that she had some "financial information about what she expects me to pay in child support and some information regarding whose responsiblity it will be to cover insurance" asking if I could review and sign it notorized so it is a sealed deal and she can leave the state.
I know from my wife's knowledge from here that a notorized piece of paper means nothing. It was at that point that I sent the letter to her telling her that I do not approve of the move with out court approval and that this needs to go through the court system (certified and reg mail signed for on Friday). I also sent a copy of the NJ requirements for custodial parent to move out of state. That same weekend when I went to pick my youngest up at school on Friday she was gone my ex came and got her on my time. I got a call later that night from my daughter telling me Mom said she did not have to come back that weekend. And this is why I am fearful and want this court documented.
I do not wish to do this back and forth thing with this women. I do what I can to stay out of the line of fire because when ex is pissed at me, the kids get the brunt of it.
So now that I sent the letter if she is planning on leaving mid June how long before she leaves does she have to notify me, and if I do not have a notification by that time what is my next step?
It's that time, I have been lurking and learning for months- now it's my turn actually my husbands turn to ask some questions. You've been waiting huh?
Ok turning over to him.
This is Mr Sipa, my ex is planning a move out of state. ( Moving from here to North Carolina). My court documentation specifies nothing NOTHING. Not medical, not dental, not pick up not drop off, not first refusal not anything not holidays, Except insurance and court schedule (Me Wed at 6 to Saturday at 6). I have two girls ages 9 and 13.
I began having physical violence issues with my 13 year old alittle less then a year ago, we decided some time away from each other may do both of us some good in sorting out our feelings. Two weeks has turned into 10 months when I was informed by my daughter she was told she did not need to return to my home because her mother said so. I have not utilized my visitation of my oldest daughter on the court ordered schedule since( I have her randomly when she feels like it or her mother decides she needs time to herself) I know bad to let a child make a decision, but the physical violence against the other kids I could not have in this house. She needs counseling but her mother will not agree.
My youngest is still here on her court appointed schedule.I do not wish to fight their mother on her move I do however want it to go through the courts as my ex has a habit of hanging the phone up when I call, taking kids with out my permission or dumping them on me when unexpected. I could be mid sentance with one of the kids and click. This has gone on for years. I am also concerned that with out a court appointed visitation schedule I will never see my kids again, or I will get random calls telling me their arrival time at the air port with no warning. I asked her to put this through the court system. She subsiquently called and told me that she had some "financial information about what she expects me to pay in child support and some information regarding whose responsiblity it will be to cover insurance" asking if I could review and sign it notorized so it is a sealed deal and she can leave the state.
I know from my wife's knowledge from here that a notorized piece of paper means nothing. It was at that point that I sent the letter to her telling her that I do not approve of the move with out court approval and that this needs to go through the court system (certified and reg mail signed for on Friday). I also sent a copy of the NJ requirements for custodial parent to move out of state. That same weekend when I went to pick my youngest up at school on Friday she was gone my ex came and got her on my time. I got a call later that night from my daughter telling me Mom said she did not have to come back that weekend. And this is why I am fearful and want this court documented.
I do not wish to do this back and forth thing with this women. I do what I can to stay out of the line of fire because when ex is pissed at me, the kids get the brunt of it.
So now that I sent the letter if she is planning on leaving mid June how long before she leaves does she have to notify me, and if I do not have a notification by that time what is my next step?
