joint custody

[ann123]

What is the name of your state?Massachusetts
Question:
i have been living with my partner for 6 years now. he has a 7 year old daughter who i know since she was 2 years old. I am close or i say his daughter and i get along well. My partner has joint custody with his daughter. Now, the mother want's me out from the school list to pick up my partner's daughter. Does she have the right to do that?

 

[king sol]

Mom would have to go to court and prove that there is a good reason why and have the judge add such an order to the custody/visitation order.

 

[LdiJ]

Mom would have to go to court and prove that there is a good reason why and have the judge add such an order to the custody/visitation order.

Actually I don't believe that is correct. This is the father's "partner" not the father's wife. There is no law compelling mom to put the father's partner on the pickup list. I think it would have to be the other way around. I think that dad would have to take it to court to ask a judge to compel her to put his partner on the pickup list.

 

[king sol]

Mom wouldn't have to put name on pick-up list. Dad could, joint custody.

 

[LdiJ]

Mom wouldn't have to put name on pick-up list. Dad could, joint custody.

Ok...if the school lets him without mom's agreement. Remember, its joint. They are supposed to agree.

 

[king sol]

Parents under a joint custody agreement are to "agree" on the major issues. Joint custody does not suggest that parents will agree on all points.

Dad has equal protection under the law, if he stipulates to the children's school that his new gal can pick up kids on his court ordered time, just as is it were a child care provider or relative, the school has to abide by parent's order.

 

[haiku]

In Ma. all dad has to do is go down to the school with divorce papers (or fax or mail them, in cases of distance) ma. law says that the school must then contact mom, (or parent with physical custody) to see if she disputes our claim with her own paperwork.

if there is no dispute, both parents are treated equally, and dad can designate whomever he wants for pick ups during his visitation times.

And ANY parent, even one without any sort of custody, can be privy to school and medical information about thier child. how much info depends on the order. (example-parents with restraining orders would recieve such info with home location info removed)

 

[king sol]

Thank you!

 

[BelizeBreeze]

What is the name of your state?Massachusetts
Question:
i have been living with my partner for 6 years now. he has a 7 year old daughter who i know since she was 2 years old. I am close or i say his daughter and i get along well. My partner has joint custody with his daughter. Now, the mother want's me out from the school list to pick up my partner's daughter. Does she have the right to do that?

Now that we've run the gamut of immaterial answers, let's get back to the SPECIFIC question asked. "Can mom, in a joint custody situation in MASSACHUSETTS, have the 'domestic partner' deleted from the school pickup list.?"
And the answer is, it depends entirely on the exact wording of the custody order.

 

[haiku]

immaterial? darn...I am insulted..... and i have an interest,having been through this with 4 different ma. school districts, I was writing under the assumption that this posters custody time was during school hours, and also reminding them they do have a right to school records.......

so all right, I will bite, can the poster write his joint custody agreement, to better clarify?

edit to add wink-so you know I am not really upset lOl

 

[BelizeBreeze]

so all right, I will bite, can the poster write his joint custody agreement, to better clarify?

What a concept!

 

[haiku]

What a concept!

oh stop.......

 

[ann123]

In Ma. all dad has to do is go down to the school with divorce papers (or fax or mail them, in cases of distance) ma. law says that the school must then contact mom, (or parent with physical custody) to see if she disputes our claim with her own paperwork.

if there is no dispute, both parents are treated equally, and dad can designate whomever he wants for pick ups during his visitation times.

And ANY parent, even one without any sort of custody, can be privy to school and medical information about thier child. how much info depends on the order. (example-parents with restraining orders would recieve such info with home location info removed)

Yes, the father went to school to show the court order that he has joint custody with his child. The school called the mother but the mother did not want me to pick up the child because I am not in the court order.
So, the school told the father that he has to meet the school attorney.Would the situation change if i am married to the father?

Would the situation not be so confusing or a problem if I am married to the father?
I have been in this child's life since she was two. now, she is 7 yrs.old. And she said that she doesn't mind me picking her up or dropp her off to the school. She basically known me as her stepmother.

 

[haiku]

Yes, the father went to school to show the court order that he has joint custody with his child. The school called the mother but the mother did not want me to pick up the child because I am not in the court order.
So, the school told the father that he has to meet the school attorney.Would the situation change if i am married to the father?

Would the situation not be so confusing or a problem if I am married to the father?
I have been in this child's life since she was two. now, she is 7 yrs.old. And she said that she doesn't mind me picking her up or dropp her off to the school. She basically known me as her stepmother.

Ahh! this is what Belize Breeze is alludding to....

At this point I will bump this for you. and add a little bit of my own step mom advice to take or leave.....

please do not discuss this stuff with the step daughter, all she should know is one day you were doing the p/u at school and now dad does, that is all. that she does not mind, is NOT the issue here. its not her choice to make or worry over.She should be completely unaware of any conflict coming from your side of things. If she wants to know why, a simple shrug of "mom and dad decided this would be easier, if you have any questions just ask THEM, hon" and they too, should say the same thing.

 

[ann123]

mom said

Ahh! this is what Belize Breeze is alludding to....

At this point I will bump this for you. and add a little bit of my own step mom advice to take or leave.....

please do not discuss this stuff with the step daughter, all she should know is one day you were doing the p/u at school and now dad does, that is all. that she does not mind, is NOT the issue here. its not her choice to make or worry over.She should be completely unaware of any conflict coming from your side of things. If she wants to know why, a simple shrug of "mom and dad decided this would be easier, if you have any questions just ask THEM, hon" and they too, should say the same thing.

the mother does not have any precaution to hurt her daughter's feeling. she told the child that the father is a little behind with his child support ( the father got laid off) so the child said to the father, "dad you are behind with your child support" (this is what the mother said to the chil.) This was happen in the store.
Also, the mother said to the father infront of the child, "you better pick up your daughter so there will be no trouble" in this situation i felt like i kept building something good but someone kept on destroying them.