really proud
I'm really proud of you peanut, because as has been mentioned elsewhere, you got upset and didn't 'take your toys' and go home.
you are getting the BEST guidance, all the way around, that a young woman can get to ensure she moves forward in life. Moreover, you seem to be following up on the tips and techniques you can use to maintain decent files and data banks so you will have that research at the ready for yourself...and others.
Well kept knowlege is spread around liberally.
In regards to public assistance. I have a number of nieces who have utilized it. We come from a non-educated family. I was the first female in my family to graduate from high school (from a court ordered placement that we do not discuss).
ALL of my nieces so far have graduated from HS. ALL of them are in college. I was told that there was NO WAY any of them was going to NOT go because they would have to tell me that they weren't. Their mom they weren't afraid of, but they were all VERY unwilling to let Aunt B know that they weren't going to go.
Of the three that are now in college, two have children. Both of them were unwed moms. Both of them learned what was available to them in the arena of finances and both of them burnt many midnight candles to work part time, school full time.
they watched each other's children and fought like cats and dogs but they didn't give up.
One got married. To her surprise a lot of money dried up because she no longer qualified for much of the aid that she was getting as an unwed mother. She and her husband now shift out with the kids. She works hospice (she is a year and a half from being a RN/Midwife at 23) and he is a fireman.
it's very hard. they make it work.
My other niece also knows the ins and outs of both public assistance and financial aid concerning college. She is getting enough to make ends meet if she is meager w/her pennies now. She understands there is a time limitation on how long she can utilize public assistance and she is pushing to make good USE of it.
The idea of public assistance is to ASSIST (like child support) a person while they are getting on their feet. it is not a way of life.
The unwed mother, many times, NO MATTER WHAT THE AGE (hint to my favorite lawyer to be) FREQUENTLY qualifies for MUCH MONEY!!! but it has to be researched out and the application process is nerve wracking.
My RN niece was actually a special ed child. she tells me i coached her out of that by the eighth grade. i am very proud of her.
The other nieces is studying what? pre law. imagine that. (and they are both in ohio!)
All that to say this: You CAN be a mom, work and go to school and there ARE programs that will encourage you and assist you.
i believe you will find them and utilize them.
