just venting

[CRYROSE1]

makes me wonder what my boyfriend son thinks and what he is told. He thaught of going to the school and haveing lunch with the his son but then when his mom finds out we are afraid she will pull him out of that school and move agian. Right now at least he gets school updates so he knows the child is still ok. How can a parent do this to a child?

 

[TNBSMommy]

Bugaboo, I hope you make the day after Christmas even more special for your girls. I know you will. My ex and I for a long time had shared Christmas, as in one of us would spend the night at the others house so the children would have both of us there. Well, 2 years ago, I let them stay in my house while I worked because they(he and his wife) had been kicked out of their house. I didn't want my kids to not have a place to go, or even their kids(See, I'm not heartless) well, this was Dec. 23. I wasn't going to be home, figured I would stay with my then boyfriend, and came home on Christmas eve. He and his wife had gone through everything I owned and found a notebook where I had been documenting certain things. Because of this, they decided not to let me have the kids, until later Christmas day. Because they were mad at me, I missed my first Christmas with them. He has not seen them on a Christmas eve/day since. Shortly after that he totally flaked out, I took him to court for modifying visitation, he didn't show up, and lost his visitation that year. Before all that, he wasn't the greatest man in the world, but he did love the kids, and saw them alot, I don't really know what happened. I know some people would argue that I took his visitation away, but personally, I think he did. HE chose to quit seeing the kids, and HE chose not to show up for court. ......
How did things go for Raddad today??? Did she decide to have a heart?

Lovingwife, that is so sad, I read things like that, and I really do want to go hug my children, and thank god, that in my opinion, they have a parent who wants their needs and wants to come before mine. And slap my ex around a bit, and ask him why he doesn't see what he is missing......


Cryrose, I wish I knew the answer to that million dollar question. It is so very very sad.

Ryry, I will be patiently awaiting my caramels.... checking my mailbox more than Santa checks his list!!!

 

[raddadthomas]

Holding back the tears

I'm at the office and just got word the visit isn't going to be allowed. I'm Sorry, I can't write more. I'm real emotional right now.

 

[CRYROSE1]

Rad
I will still keep you in my prayers that you will see them soon.

 

[velbing]

Rad

My heart goes out to you and your boys.

 

[TNBSMommy]

Rad, that is awful. I am so so very sorry to hear that. It was with people like you in my mind and in my heart when I started this thread. Keep your spirits up, and your hopes,and hang in there. One day you will get what you have fought for so long for.

 

[Lil Miss Smarty Panties]

She's hanging herself rad. No one is above the law. Her lawyer is a fool if she's not advising her against this contempt. You'll be able to tuck your boys into bed at night yourself very soon.

 

[karma1]

this too shall pass...

so I'm told and read in the Bible-
dont know what to say-

 

[CMSC]

You're right LMSP her lawyer is a fool, but why in the heck would someone risk this? He could be reported to the bar for telling a client not to abide by the law. I want to know the reasoning behind this!!! This lawyer needs to be reported and butternut needs to be sent to jail on contempt charges...will it ever happen, who knows?

Raddad, I will tell you my brother went through exactly what you are going through now...and I mean EXACTLY! Only he was lucky enough after years of battles to get a judge who upheld the law!!! You too will get that some day and even if for some illegal reason you don't get to see these boys until they are adults, you WILL get to see them and you WILL be able to show them all you have fought for! Just don't give up!!! EVER!!

 

[Whyte Noise]

*shakes head*

I really don't know what to say Rad.... and I'm sure that anything I DID say would most certainly get me banned from this board for use of profanity and innuendos above and beyond the call of duty. So I'll just say this....

You, Bug, and both your sons are in my thoughts and prayers (Yes girls, even I pray ) I will do anything I can to help you, all you or Bug have to do is say the word. I'll post more on the sister site.

 

[karma1]

maybe butterfree will....

read my story of the little guy in 1st grade? Not a story, really, just a life-happening------