just wondering

[tigger22472]

Maybe this will help:

OP possibly wants to terminate bio-dad's rights so that her child isn't upset by bio-dad's sudden desire to develop a relationship, and she's concerned that if she dies, the kid will be sent to live with someone he doesn't know.

schmittner posted stating that she understood that position, and while she 'lets' the bio-dad see the kid, in the event of her death, the kid will go to live with the grandparents. I posted O/T and asked how she planned to make sure that happened, because I hate to see OP take that as a fact and attempt something similar when it would do no good at all.

K.. thanks

 

[tigger22472]

Thanks for the replies. I am in no way trying to discourage thier relationship,I think I have been very patient and understanding considering.. I was just really interested in finding out why in the eyes of the law, does a sp have no rights in these kinds of situations. Having bio drop of the face of the earth, Leave his child knowing that another man is filling in for him emotionally,finacially and molding him with the values he has been brought up with.
I do encourage this new relationship although it was very hard not to be bitter in the begining, I have put my son first and do understand a child can never have to many people love him.. I only brought this up here on this site not to my child or the bio. I really just wanted to here it from you all. I have and I thank you..
Shari

The problem is the time to have had his rights terminated was when he was absent. Now that he's back around there's little you can do but try to deal with the situation and help your son deal with it.

 

[shari36]

re

Maybe this will help:

OP possibly wants to terminate bio-dad's rights so that her child isn't upset by bio-dad's sudden desire to develop a relationship, and she's concerned that if she dies, the kid will be sent to live with someone he doesn't know.

schmittner posted stating that she understood that position, and while she 'lets' the bio-dad see the kid, in the event of her death, the kid will go to live with the grandparents. I posted O/T and asked how she planned to make sure that happened, because I hate to see OP take that as a fact and attempt something similar when it would do no good at all.

I did not say I want to tpr so my child wouldnt be upset by all this. I asked if my husband had any rights to the child since he has been raising him for seven years while the bio played whodini for nine years..
Shari

 

[stealth2]

I did not say I want to tpr so my child wouldnt be upset by all this. I asked if my husband had any rights to the child since he has been raising him for seven years while the bio played whodini for nine years..
Shari

Nope. The time to have done something was while Dad was off playing. He'd either have agreed, or (hopefully) become more involved in his son's life. But a stepparent has no legal rights to a child outside of adoption. Just as grandparents have no legal rights (beyond, in some states, having the right to file for visitation under specific circumstances). Or other blood relatives - even siblings. It is the BIOLOGICAL PARENTS who have the rights, and they are difficult to terminate.

 

[shari36]

tigger

Thanks Iam doing whats right now that he has come into my sons life.. I know now that I could of tpr his rights after no contact or cs for x amount of years..I did not know this then. This is now and that time has passed so I will make the best of it for my son.
Shari

 

[CJane]

Sorry, I inferred that you might want to terminate his rights based on this...

How do you involuntary terminate his rights?
Shari

To which LDi posted and said that he'd have to be really dangerous, etc. and you replied...

No he is not a danger to the child and did abandon child for years on end, But is taking an interest now. Things will be fine it just bothers me that if I die, the child would be ripped away from who he knows as his dad and his little brother.
Thank you for the info
Shari

 

[shari36]

re-CJane

I wanted to know what involuntarily terminating his rights meant thats all. So im sorry if I snapped.. I do not know much about the law not for a lack of researching Thats why I come to you all with questions Im sure you guys have answered over and over..
Thanks for settin me straight everyone
Shari