Unfair4Kids
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA
My son is 10, first year playing football, second game. He slammed the ball down after getting tackled, got yelled at by coaches, got mad and sat down refusing to slap hands of the other team. Terrible sportsmanship!! He got suspended by the coach for the following week of practice, and 1 game because those are the rules according to the league "Code of Conduct." The next night, coach calls and says a board member (who is also Super Mom) saw his misbehavior, took it before the board, they voted, and my son can't come back. I attended the next board meeting, just to let them know that little kids that are treated like garbage enough times, grow up to be just that. There are ways of teaching them at this age, and there are ways of damaging them beyond repair. They said it takes too much of the coaches time away from <their kids> and if <their kids> see him acting this way, they'll think it's ok for them to do. Pathetic. And they are totally free from any governing policies, rules, codes, or anything that says they can't do as they please in these kids lives. If only I had known! The Code of Conduct only mentions suspension, it doesn't say for how long, is the reference I recieved at the meeting. I really looked forward to the benefits my son would get from playing and being a part of something. I never expected it to be such a huge set back. The financial hardship, I'll be recovering from for a few months, which is much easier to endure when it's for a good reason. I'm a single mom, his father died 6 years ago, and I'm aware that I've been guilty of the typical overcompensation spoiling of my child. In my attempt to undo, I have litterally paid people to screw over my kid.
The whole intention was to be my way of giving him some very tough life lessons. He wanted to quit, he can be a spoiled brat. He didn't make first string, wanted to quit, thought he wouldn't be a running back, wanted to quit. I told him no. You wanted to play, we paid a lot of money for you to play, you are part of a team now, your team needs you, you start something you are going to finish it, quitting is not the answer, etc. All the things I wanted to come from this experience were ripped out from under him and me.
I compare this to a kid in a juvenile correction facility being kicked out (or set free) because he had a bad day and broke two of the house rules. He would only learn from that, that the worse he acts, the better the chances are of him getting his way.
If he had to stay, and FACE some consequences, there would be a lesson in it. If he were suspended, as the contract says, and had to go back and catch up with the rest of the team, he might feel that, but tossed out is providing him with nothing beneficial, and a lot that is detrimental.
My son is 10, first year playing football, second game. He slammed the ball down after getting tackled, got yelled at by coaches, got mad and sat down refusing to slap hands of the other team. Terrible sportsmanship!! He got suspended by the coach for the following week of practice, and 1 game because those are the rules according to the league "Code of Conduct." The next night, coach calls and says a board member (who is also Super Mom) saw his misbehavior, took it before the board, they voted, and my son can't come back. I attended the next board meeting, just to let them know that little kids that are treated like garbage enough times, grow up to be just that. There are ways of teaching them at this age, and there are ways of damaging them beyond repair. They said it takes too much of the coaches time away from <their kids> and if <their kids> see him acting this way, they'll think it's ok for them to do. Pathetic. And they are totally free from any governing policies, rules, codes, or anything that says they can't do as they please in these kids lives. If only I had known! The Code of Conduct only mentions suspension, it doesn't say for how long, is the reference I recieved at the meeting. I really looked forward to the benefits my son would get from playing and being a part of something. I never expected it to be such a huge set back. The financial hardship, I'll be recovering from for a few months, which is much easier to endure when it's for a good reason. I'm a single mom, his father died 6 years ago, and I'm aware that I've been guilty of the typical overcompensation spoiling of my child. In my attempt to undo, I have litterally paid people to screw over my kid.
The whole intention was to be my way of giving him some very tough life lessons. He wanted to quit, he can be a spoiled brat. He didn't make first string, wanted to quit, thought he wouldn't be a running back, wanted to quit. I told him no. You wanted to play, we paid a lot of money for you to play, you are part of a team now, your team needs you, you start something you are going to finish it, quitting is not the answer, etc. All the things I wanted to come from this experience were ripped out from under him and me.
I compare this to a kid in a juvenile correction facility being kicked out (or set free) because he had a bad day and broke two of the house rules. He would only learn from that, that the worse he acts, the better the chances are of him getting his way.
If he had to stay, and FACE some consequences, there would be a lesson in it. If he were suspended, as the contract says, and had to go back and catch up with the rest of the team, he might feel that, but tossed out is providing him with nothing beneficial, and a lot that is detrimental.
