legal vs bio father

[hewatt]

Georgia

married girlfriend 14 yrs ago/unexpected pregnancy/she said that I was the father of her child/2 yrs later we divorce/ 8 yrs later she says that I am not the father; wants me to relinquish my rights etc; says she was raped; goes as far as telling the child that he is a "product of rape"

I continue to make child support payments/few months ago I meet the bio father who wants to take responsibility; denies accusations of rape....what happens now that he is in the picture?
Do I continue paying child support for a child that is obviously not mine? I was lied to from the beginning...isn't this fraud? How can women get away with this....

The best part is that now she refuses me visitation, of which there is a court order.....threatens a restraining order against me because I have spoken to the bio father........this woman is a real nut case and so far she is getting away with fraud....contempt....abuse(telling her son he's a product of rape)..WHERE IS THE JUSTICE.......someone please advise me on this.

hewatt

 

[Jenifa]

Legally...

you are the child's father - case closed.

you pay support and have rights to visitation. If she doesn't abide by the court order, she is in contempt, just as you are if you abruptly stop paying support, so at least petition the court to enforce visitation.

PS - morally, you have been the child's father since birth, correct? have you exercised your visitation? do you love him as yours?

If you answered yes to these questions, then the biological facts (although she is wrong for doing it) doesn't change the fact that you are a father to this child. Sure, you can be pissed at her and hate her, but think of the poor kid (someone who is not at all equipped in the first place to handle trauma like that) being told that the person known as "dad" is not and he's a product of rape. The tormenting feelings that result from that would tear MY world apart and I'm 29. I can't imagine what it is doing to that poor kid.

Good luck to you.

Jenifa