medical bills and immancipation

[Silverplum]

Yeah, see, your husband could probably have quit paying in April. Check with an atty (most will give free consultations) about if it needs to be filed with the court. If so, file. If not, call up the son & the CP and let them both know he isnt paying any more medical expenses for the child. End of problem- let him pay his own $1300 ambulance bills

!!!!!!!!!! I would definitely WRITE them, return receipt requested (RRR), with a cc to the court!!! A phone call is not nearly as "provable."

 

[sbeeman]

Thank you MrsK, Silverplum. You've both been very helpful, and I appreciate it.

BTW, Moburkes, I say we because for the last nine years. My husband and I have been married. THAT makes us we. They are not HIS kids. When I have the middle one in MY car learning to drive, because he scares his dad, and his mother "just got that car", he's my son too. When I am dragging all three of them through walmart buying shoes and jeans because my husband is at work and their mother "doesn't get enough support to buy all this crap", they are certainly my children too. NO ONE stops me in wal mart check out and says "sorry lady, you can't buy them all that. They are HIS kids, and it is HIS right and responsibility to support his child". NO ONE. Not all of us "second families" are witches aching to see the children live in the gutter so we can live like the royal family, but truthfully, allow me to be selfish for a moment, I don't have a desire to live in the gutter so everyone else can live like the royal family either. WE don't mind doing what HE is legally obligated to do. WE don't even mind all the extra's above the legal obligations, but WE would at least like to be able to make OUR mortgage payment on OUR small modest house.

And Stealth2, yes, I am well aware that I misspelled imancipation. You and Mo both could have at least answered the original question while you were nit picking.

 

[moburkes]

Thank you MrsK, Silverplum. You've both been very helpful, and I appreciate it.

BTW, Moburkes, I say we because for the last nine years. My husband and I have been married. THAT makes us we. They are not HIS kids. When I have the middle one in MY car learning to drive, because he scares his dad, and his mother "just got that car", he's my son too. When I am dragging all three of them through walmart buying shoes and jeans because my husband is at work and their mother "doesn't get enough support to buy all this crap", they are certainly my children too. NO ONE stops me in wal mart check out and says "sorry lady, you can't buy them all that. They are HIS kids, and it is HIS right and responsibility to support his child". NO ONE. Not all of us "second families" are witches aching to see the children live in the gutter so we can live like the royal family, but truthfully, allow me to be selfish for a moment, I don't have a desire to live in the gutter so everyone else can live like the royal family either. WE don't mind doing what HE is legally obligated to do. WE don't even mind all the extra's above the legal obligations, but WE would at least like to be able to make OUR mortgage payment on OUR small modest house.

And Stealth2, yes, I am well aware that I misspelled imancipation. You and Mo both could have at least answered the original question while you were nit picking.

You don't understand my point at all. But, I'll give you a hint. Tell the JUDGE why this is your business.

 

[MrsK]

!!!!!!!!!! I would definitely WRITE them, return receipt requested (RRR), with a cc to the court!!! A phone call is not nearly as "provable."

Very, very true.

 

[sbeeman]

You don't understand my point at all. But, I'll give you a hint. Tell the JUDGE why this is your business.

Why? Is this court?

 

[moburkes]

Why? Is this court?

Did I say that it was court? Why would you assume that?

 

[ezmarelda]

The point that Mo is trying to make is that no matter how involved you are with the kiddos emotionaly or financialy you will never be "legaly" involved.

 

[LdiJ]

One thing that needs to be taken into consideration here....and I mentioned it before, but it kind of got overlooked, is that most 18-19 year olds have no concept of what is involved in medical expenses nor any idea that medical expenses can virtually bankrupt someone if they are not covered by insurance.

Someone needs to sit down with this young man and explain to him just how expensive medical insurance is, and explain to him that as of a certain point his parents will no longer be allowed to cover him under their policies. Its unfair to him not to explain things. He probably doesn't have a clue.

He needs to know that after a certain point that he either needs to have a job that helps him provide his own medical insurance, or that he is going to be sol and destroy his own credit rating if he doesn't provide his own insurance privately.

Personally, I will provide coverage for my daughter as long as I am able to do so.....but I have been making it clear to her that its "finite" and that she has to have a "plan"......and have been making it clear just how important that "plan" is.