Modifying court order problems with ex's girlfriend

[Serenity2009]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY

I have joint legal custody with my children's father. We have two children together however he only wants to see our son and wants nothing to do with our daughter. He has tried to cancel our son's surgery for ear tubes, stop evaluations for early intervention, he has tried to say our son's PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) was caused by me and that the cure is a dog. Basically he fights everything that the doctors say is in his best interest even as far as antibiotics. I have a restraining order against my ex for a incident that took place last summer, we are just going to court about it tho. So he is not allowed to talk with me any more. I do not see how joint custody is possible at this point and I don't see how it is in our son's best interest with my ex's actions.

I had talked to our son's law guardian about modifying custody, he stated he is on the fathers side and accuses me of being jealous of his girlfriend, despite the documentation of the medical issues and the restraining order. (doctors statements, not my own) The law guardian attended a meeting for my son's therapy and the therapists (3) noticed his advocacy for my son's father vs my son's best interest in their professional opinion.

The girl friend has posted many articles (for lack of a better description) where she attacks me (just stating her boyfriend's son's mother.) She has also emailed me insulting me, attacking me etc I ignore them but they are getting rather old) My son is still young, 3 years old and I worry if she is saying these things online, what is she saying in front of him?

I don't know if there is legally anything I can do in this situation,

 

[jules2]

The girl friend has posted many articles (for lack of a better description) where she attacks me (just stating her boyfriend's son's mother.) She has also emailed me insulting me, attacking me etc I ignore them but they are getting rather old) My son is still young, 3 years old and I worry if she is saying these things online, what is she saying in front of him?

I don't know if there is legally anything I can do in this situation,

A lot of stepmoms blog (I'm assuming that is what she is doing?) to vent frustrations where the kid won't hear. I get frustrated with my husband's* daughter's mother and may talk to people online about it but I would NEVER say anything bad about her mother to her.

If she isn't naming you or your son than I don't think there is much you can do. Why are you reading it? Why do you care what she says?

You could start a blog and vent about her lol...

If she is emailing you and you don't want her to than block her email.

*edited

 

[Serenity2009]

A lot of stepmoms blog (I'm assuming that is what she is doing?) to vent frustrations where the kid won't hear. I get frustrated with my daughter's mother and may talk to people online about it but I would NEVER say anything bad about her mother to her.

If she isn't naming you or your son than I don't think there is much you can do. Why are you reading it? Why do you care what she says?

You could start a blog and vent about her lol...

If she is emailing you and you don't want her to than block her email.

The reason I care at this point is because a friend of mine actually emailed me links to her posts they are on article writing websites which I have been a member of for a few years and she joined recently. My friends.... They know it's all lies but still it's gone far enough. She had joined a mother's website which I am an active member of as I help breastfeeding mothers daily. She was banned from the site due to her actions. I don't post a blog about her because other then her influence on my son I really don't care what she does and I won't sink to her level... Any one can see that stuff including eventually my son.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY

I have joint legal custody with my children's father. We have two children together however he only wants to see our son and wants nothing to do with our daughter. He has tried to cancel our son's surgery for ear tubes, stop evaluations for early intervention, he has tried to say our son's PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) was caused by me and that the cure is a dog. Basically he fights everything that the doctors say is in his best interest even as far as antibiotics. I have a restraining order against my ex for a incident that took place last summer, we are just going to court about it tho. So he is not allowed to talk with me any more. I do not see how joint custody is possible at this point and I don't see how it is in our son's best interest with my ex's actions.

I had talked to our son's law guardian about modifying custody, he stated he is on the fathers side and accuses me of being jealous of his girlfriend, despite the documentation of the medical issues and the restraining order. (doctors statements, not my own) The law guardian attended a meeting for my son's therapy and the therapists (3) noticed his advocacy for my son's father vs my son's best interest in their professional opinion.

The girl friend has posted many articles (for lack of a better description) where she attacks me (just stating her boyfriend's son's mother.) She has also emailed me insulting me, attacking me etc I ignore them but they are getting rather old) My son is still young, 3 years old and I worry if she is saying these things online, what is she saying in front of him?

I don't know if there is legally anything I can do in this situation,

If the therapists felt that the LG was biased, then I definitely would be consulting with an attorney about the possibility of getting the LG removed from the case and/or replaced.

 

[jules2]

The reason I care at this point is because a friend of mine actually emailed me links to her posts they are on article writing websites which I have been a member of for a few years and she joined recently. My friends.... They know it's all lies but still it's gone far enough. She had joined a mother's website which I am an active member of as I help breastfeeding mothers daily. She was banned from the site due to her actions. I don't post a blog about her because other then her influence on my son I really don't care what she does and I won't sink to her level... Any one can see that stuff including eventually my son.

So...if she is banned from the site than what is the problem?

 

[BL]

My son is still young, 3 years old

Children have ear aches .They have ear infections .Sometimes Drs. will not treat them with antibiotics.

Some children are slow learners .

Why is the child at 3 in therapy ?

Courts will consider the GAL's report and the therapist report .

Ultimately it's up to the court .

 

[Antigone*]

A lot of stepmoms blog (I'm assuming that is what she is doing?) to vent frustrations where the kid won't hear. I get frustrated with my daughter's mother and may talk to people online about it but I would NEVER say anything bad about her mother to her.
If she isn't naming you or your son than I don't think there is much you can do. Why are you reading it? Why do you care what she says?

You could start a blog and vent about her lol...

If she is emailing you and you don't want her to than block her email.

You are quite wishy washing in your postings. In some posts you state that you know your place as a legal stranger, and yet in this post she is "my daughter."

Consistent aren't we

 

[jules2]

You are quite wishy washing in your postings. In some posts you state that you know your place as a legal stranger, and yet in this post she is "my daughter."

consistent aren't we

Oops...it should have said "my husband's" daughter. Way to jump right on that.

Sorry I don't spend the time editing my posts on a forum to make them as typo-free as yours!

And it should be "my daughter" with the period after the quotations.

 

[Antigone*]

Oops...it should have said "my husband's" daughter. Way to jump right on that.

Sorry I don't spend the time editing my posts on a forum to make them as typo-free as yours!

And it should be "my daughter" with the period after the quotations.

Wrong again grammar whiz. I'll just to make it simple for you:

Quotation Marks | Punctuation Rules

Maybe you should spend more time editing your posts. Correct/Incorrect posts, both grammatically and otherwise can add/detract from your credibility.

So far, you're lacking on both

 

[jules2]

Wrong again grammar whiz. I'll just to make it simple for you:

Quotation Marks | Punctuation Rules

Maybe you should spend more time editing your posts. Correct/Incorrect posts, both grammatically and otherwise can add/detract from your credibility.

So far, you're lacking on both

I learned that if you are quoting a phrase from within a sentence than there is no punctuation to follow it. Because the phrase "my daughter" was not a complete sentence, than the period would not be within the quotes. However, I have no issue with stating that I could be wrong and I do not feel it necessary to go look up my wrong or right-ness on grammar websites so this one goes to you.

And believe me, I will make sure to edit thoroughly from now on.

Honestly, I had been trying to be very careful with my word choice, as I always do concerning my stepdaughter. Thank you for being so quick to point out my failure.

 

[Antigone*]

I learned that if you are quoting a phrase from within a sentence than there is no punctuation to follow it. Because the phrase "my daughter" was not a complete sentence, than the period would not be within the quotes. However, I have no issue with stating that I could be wrong and I do not feel it necessary to go look up my wrong or right-ness on grammar websites so this one goes to you.

And believe me, I will make sure to edit thoroughly from now on.

Honestly, I had been trying to be very careful with my word choice, as I always do concerning my stepdaughter. Thank you for being so quick to point out my failure.

I didn't go there with the grammar or the typos ~ you did. Just one more item to note about your grammar, since you opened that door ~ You did learn in second grade that periods go at the end of the sentence, right.

My issue was with your inconsistency in your postings about your step daughter. As steps we all need to know our place and lead by example when giving advice to other steps ~ that is my point.

Now, to the OP. I do apologize for the hijack. It was initially for your benefit and the benefit of future OPs.

 

[Serenity2009]

Children have ear aches .They have ear infections .Sometimes Drs. will not treat them with antibiotics.

Some children are slow learners .

Why is the child at 3 in therapy ?

Courts will consider the GAL's report and the therapist report .

Ultimately it's up to the court .

umm if you look at my post I said my son has PDD, Pervasive Developmental Disorder. He requires speech, ot/pt, sensory and behavioral therapies. Our son has a 24 month delay in multiple areas due to the PDD.

The antibiotics were for bronchitis, he had told me not to give them to our son, along with the nebulizer medications (to help with his breathing) I talked with the doctors I gave him the medications.

 

[BL]

For what period of time is the restraining order ?

What was the incident ?

 

[Serenity2009]

For what period of time is the restraining order ?

What was the incident ?

It is a temp until we complete trial. The DA said he is trying to draw it out in hopes that I will let it go. (which he has emailed me threatening me and trying to get me to drop charges) I called the police, he said his girl friend must have sent the email. I know third party, the police officer said he could only warn him. I ended up changing my email address to get them to leave me alone.

He showed up to my house drunk, (police officer noted the smell of alcohol on his breath when he went to his house) to pick up our son for a visit, (was not a scheduled visit any ways) attacked me, (while I was pregnant with our daughter) left a bruised hand print on my arm and broke my front door so badly it had to be replaced. He's fighting it saying I lied about everything. IDK what will happen with that, the DA is hopeful.

 

[BL]

It is a temp until we complete trial. The DA said he is trying to draw it out in hopes that I will let it go. (which he has emailed me threatening me and trying to get me to drop charges) I called the police, he said his girl friend must have sent the email. I know third party, the police officer said he could only warn him. I ended up changing my email address to get them to leave me alone.

He showed up to my house drunk, (police officer noted the smell of alcohol on his breath when he went to his house) to pick up our son for a visit, (was not a scheduled visit any ways) attacked me, (while I was pregnant with our daughter) left a bruised hand print on my arm and broke my front door so badly it had to be replaced. He's fighting it saying I lied about everything. IDK what will happen with that, the DA is hopeful.

Now tell us that the police were called ,seen your bruises ,and broken door ?