More Child support needed

[upset_wisconsin]

What is the name of your state? Texas


I live in texas and my ex husband lives in Wisconsin we have two kids toghetther he is court ordered to pay child support on the oldest he only pays 200 a month wich is taken directly out of his check. He has no bills except 100 dollars rent a month ( he lives with his dad) and a cell phone he makes at least 500 a week and that was before his raise. He recently told me he got a raise at work i need more child support because his daughter is growing and her needs are changing was his work required to report the raise since it goes through them or do i need to file on him in court

 

[dannysmyboy]

What is the name of your state? Texas


I live in texas and my ex husband lives in Wisconsin we have two kids toghetther he is court ordered to pay child support on the oldest he only pays 200 a month wich is taken directly out of his check. He has no bills except 100 dollars rent a month ( he lives with his dad) and a cell phone he makes at least 500 a week and that was before his raise. He recently told me he got a raise at work i need more child support because his daughter is growing and her needs are changing was his work required to report the raise since it goes through them or do i need to file on him in court

You need to file a modification in court. Regardless of whether the daughter is growning and her needs are changing is irrelevant. You BOTH need to support your daughter. Good luck in court and I hope you are doing your share of the support.

 

[absconder]

Youve got 2 kids by this man and hes only paying support for 1? What am I missing here?

 

[upset_wisconsin]

He is only paying child support on one because he will not claim the other and i can not get a judge that will order him to take a paternity test. As for us both supporting our daughter well i do most of the supporting. She lives with me and well he only sends his child support because it is taken out of his check if it was not i would never see it. He did not send her Christmas presents bday presents or any other holidays not even a card his 200 month barely covers day care for two weeks so trust me he is a dead beat dad

 

[Silverplum]

He is only paying child support on one because he will not claim the other and i can not get a judge that will order him to take a paternity test. As for us both supporting our daughter well i do most of the supporting. She lives with me and well he only sends his child support because it is taken out of his check if it was not i would never see it. He did not send her Christmas presents bday presents or any other holidays not even a card his 200 month barely covers day care for two weeks so trust me he is a dead beat dad

(bolding mine)
I'm thinking 2 things:
1. Punctuation is your friend. Your writing is hard to read without it.
2. You are wrong to call him a "dead beat dad." This wrongful characterization will carry through into your attitude toward him and will cause harm to your kid/s.

 

[dannysmyboy]

He is only paying child support on one because he will not claim the other and i can not get a judge that will order him to take a paternity test. As for us both supporting our daughter well i do most of the supporting. She lives with me and well he only sends his child support because it is taken out of his check if it was not i would never see it. He did not send her Christmas presents bday presents or any other holidays not even a card his 200 month barely covers day care for two weeks so trust me he is a dead beat dad

And how are you supporting your daughter, exactly? Seems "suspicious" that you can't find a judge that will order him to take a paternity test. Unless Wisconson does things differently, if CS is in question, wouldn't it be necessary for the father to take the test???? Is he the dad????

 

[amiegaines654]

He is only paying child support on one because he will not claim the other and i can not get a judge that will order him to take a paternity test. As for us both supporting our daughter well i do most of the supporting. She lives with me and well he only sends his child support because it is taken out of his check if it was not i would never see it. He did not send her Christmas presents bday presents or any other holidays not even a card his 200 month barely covers day care for two weeks so trust me he is a dead beat dad

Why will a judge not order a paternity test???? That is pretty common. You can get the support raised, but you will have to go to court. While you are there, I recomend that you request a paternity test for your other child. You seem pretty concerned about getting more support for one child, and not nearly concerned about him supporting the other. I do understand where you are coming from. My ex has never sent my daughter a birthday or christmas present. He NEVER calls her. He doesn't even know what grade she is in or how her grades are. It was so hard for me to swallow this pill. The older she gets, the more she is seeing. She sees now that he doesn't do anything for her. She considers her step-dad to be her father. It will get better, keep your head up, and get to court as soon as you can if you want to make it right financially. You will never be able to make him be a dad, but a judge can make him be a financial part of both your
kids lives.

 

[upset_wisconsin]

i support my duahter with a steady job and yes he is the father trust me i never cheated on him and i am sorry if i have a an attitude that is poor torwards him but he beat me and my daughter and tried to kill him so sorry if i can not seem thrilled he is around

 

[absconder]

Its easy talk to the AGs office in your state and get a woman. Wisconsin isnt TX, they will point you in the right direction. Plus theres a thousand websites on the net for people in your position. Child enforcement might even handle it all who knows?

 

[dannysmyboy]

Why will a judge not order a paternity test???? That is pretty common. You can get the support raised, but you will have to go to court. While you are there, I recomend that you request a paternity test for your other child. You seem pretty concerned about getting more support for one child, and not nearly concerned about him supporting the other. I do understand where you are coming from. My ex has never sent my daughter a birthday or christmas present. He NEVER calls her. He doesn't even know what grade she is in or how her grades are. It was so hard for me to swallow this pill. The older she gets, the more she is seeing. She sees now that he doesn't do anything for her. She considers her step-dad to be her father. It will get better, keep your head up, and get to court as soon as you can if you want to make it right financially. You will never be able to make him be a dad, but a judge can make him be a financial part of both your
kids lives.

amiegaines654 is correct. You can't make him participate in the child's life, as sad as that sounds, but financially he is responsible. Have you tried your county's child support office for assistance in paternity issues and collecting child support?? They have a lot of good resources and help there.