Mother has legal custody; we keep child

[SandieTN]

update

Just to clarify, the BM is losing her house because she has not worked in over 2 years. And during this time, we have had daughter more and more of the time. We believe she is wanting the children more time now so she can file for more support. She has even stated her bankruptcy attorney told her that if she lost the kids, she has no income, no government subsidies, no food stamps, etc. The father of her other child isn't paying his support, because he has the child the most of the time. We warned him that this will lead to trouble. We have continued to pay her support every month, and early a lot of times if she asked for it.

The grandmother called my husband last night just to talk. He said she was very civil; she told him the part about the dog poop was not right. But our daughter volunteered this information to my husband's sister, so she got it from somewhere. We sure didn't know anything or ask her about it. That's just what he told the grandmother last night. He told her I have had my daughter the most of the time for the last 3 years, and I don't want to only have her every other weekend now. Maybe she will talk to her daughter; maybe she was just blowing smoke. Only time will tell.

Thanks for all your advice and suggestions. Keep 'em coming.

 

[SandieTN]

called daughter

Daughter went back to her Mom's yesterday, and back to school today. Her Dad called her after school; she was crying because she didn't want to do her homework. She has to write sentences with her spelling words; I told her she had been doing this, and she could do it. I also told her if she got stuck to call me back and I would give her a little hint. Then, BM called back to tell husband that "she" could help with homework, and they didn't need my help. She was listening on the phone the whole time!

Dad told Mom I was just trying to help daughter because she was upset and crying. He said he asked her if she would try to help someone who was upset; that's all I was trying to do.

This is not gonna' work very long; Mom is getting very antsy. I think she knows the end is near.

 

[SandieTN]

We received a surprise phone call last night from BM's other ex, the father of her other child. He ready to go fight now; hubby told him we were still trying to work it out, but don't how much more we can take. Hubby asked other father if he would be willing to talk to our attorney. He said he would. BTW, he says the grandmother's house they are moving in is still nasty; and BM has told him they are moving to other grandparents house.

We know from his own admission that he behind on his child support; do we really want him involved in our case, or does he spell trouble?

We have forwarded copies of our journal to our attorney; she was out of town, and hasn't gotten back with us yet. Also, hubby called his daughter yesterday afternoon, and she was upset and didn't want to do her homework. I talked to her on the phone and told her to settle down, she could do it ok. I also told her to call me back if she got stuck, and I would give her a hint. BM then called hubby back and told him to tell me they didn't need my help. So, I guess I am out of BM's good graces. LOL

 

[SandieTN]

Also, BM admitted she was "monitoring" our conversation with daughter yesterday on the phone. It that an "unimpeded" telephone call? Just asking.

 

[BL]

And what's all this writting doing for you to this forum ??

Venting ??

If I were to write , and keep writting the court proceedings and journals i've been involved with on this forum, gollyyyyy ......

You got a lawyer tell it to him/her .

 

[SandieTN]

Sorry I ticked you off, but I had tried to start another thread, and was told to copy and paste it here. So I finally got around to doing that today.

Don't worry, I won't be "venting" here any longer!

 

[mikesonlyangel]

First they say, we can't help you cause you don't give enough info then say your venting cause you keep it going with any info you have. I just don't get it. I personally didn't think you were venting but making sure that all details were told. You would figure if they didn't want to read they would hit the back button. Jmo

 

[SandieTN]

Thanks, you renewed my faith that people do care!