Moved in with the wrong guy

[lynne41]

What is the name of your state? Texas

I moved in with a man at the end of January. I was living at the same apartment complex just a one bedroom, now it is a two bedroom. He is on the lease with my name listed first. I found out the hard way that he is a heavy drinker. He scares me and is very jealous of everyone, including my family. After being out of town last weekend and him calling my cell phone over 41 times in one hour, I was scared to come home. When I did come back to town, I stayed in a motel until the end of the week. He told me he would leave because he could not afford the apartment. I however can. He took some of his clothes and told me he would get the rest today. Instead he called and told me that he was not going to get his things and since he owed me money he would just let me keep his things. I told him I did not want his things and he could have them, but I did need him to sign off the lease. He is now calling me after he has been drinking and telling me he has rights too. That he is not going to stay gone from the apartment. I can leave but do not have any family or friends to stay with. The electric,cable, and phone are all in my name. If I do leave will I still be liable for the apartment, if he won't sign me off too? I know he will not be able to stay here when rent is due, but right now everything is paid and he knows that. Please help me I need some advice on what to do. I am very afraid of him, he has split personalities.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Texas

I moved in with a man at the end of January. I was living at the same apartment complex just a one bedroom, now it is a two bedroom. He is on the lease with my name listed first. I found out the hard way that he is a heavy drinker. He scares me and is very jealous of everyone, including my family. After being out of town last weekend and him calling my cell phone over 41 times in one hour, I was scared to come home. When I did come back to town, I stayed in a motel until the end of the week. He told me he would leave because he could not afford the apartment. I however can. He took some of his clothes and told me he would get the rest today. Instead he called and told me that he was not going to get his things and since he owed me money he would just let me keep his things. I told him I did not want his things and he could have them, but I did need him to sign off the lease. He is now calling me after he has been drinking and telling me he has rights too. That he is not going to stay gone from the apartment. I can leave but do not have any family or friends to stay with. The electric,cable, and phone are all in my name. If I do leave will I still be liable for the apartment, if he won't sign me off too? I know he will not be able to stay here when rent is due, but right now everything is paid and he knows that. Please help me I need some advice on what to do. I am very afraid of him, he has split personalities.

If you are truly afraid of him then you might try a restraining order. You may be able to keep him out of the apartment that way.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Get a Domestic Violence restraining order, as a part of the order, have the court order and schedule a time for him to come with the police and pick up his belongings, to remove his name form the lease, and repay what is owed, you may have to take him to small claims court as well for the latter but it doesn't hurt to ask. Make an inventory of the items. Have the court order what you are to do if he fails to collect his belongings.

 

[TexasBlues]

Hope this helps

You can sign off on the lease. Just tell the landlord that you are moving and will not be responsible for the apartment any longer. His name will stay on the lease, but it will be up to the landlord to go after him for the rent. If he doesn't respond and doesn't pay the rent it will not be reflected on your credit history in any way. In other words, the monkey will be on his back.

If you are truly worried, move! Contact the utility companies that you have accounts with associated with the apartment and close those services. If he wants to live there and have light, cable, or what ever else, it will be up to him to get those services turned on in his name. Again, not your problem.

Don't answer his calls. Let him talk to your recorder. Tape all of his messages and save them. Begin a log of all the telephone calls showing the date, time, and if a message was left. Take that evidence and file a report with the police. Taped messages are legal in Texas. Ask for a restraining order. With taped evidence and the caller ID log the DA's in Texas will file charges against him and a judge will issue a restraining order. When you get a new telephone number, don't have the number listed. Block him out and stop his nonsense now.

 

[CuckoosNest]

Amen, TexasBlues!

Sweetie, get away from this loser and don't look back. It sounds like you're a kind, decent soul, and this guy will exploit that to the nth degree.

Follow the advice above and distance yourself from this guy. I have a younger sister who was in a similar situation... she "hung in there" for far too long because, whether she wanted to admit it or not, she still had feelings for the guy. Until she was truly ready to sever ALL ties, the situation was not going to improve.

Don't waste anymore time with LoserBoy. Act now, have no regrets and move on.