Moving out of state?

[stepmomndad]

I don't want to modify my support order, I want her to see her dad, and I know about the contemp issues. But if my husband wants to go further in his career then we have to move some day. You can't just wait for some one to retire or die around here to move up. And yes the money would be much greater than he makes now. With the distance he created already and the distance we would add to that comes to a total of 452 mile-about 7 hours total so half way would be 3.5 for each, still 7 hours to get halfway and back home for each of us. So what I am asking I guess is that would it still be every other weekend. That just does not seem like a good idea when she is in school.
And please understand that I am not mad at anyone on here at all just my situation, my husband has worked very hard to get to where he is today and I don't want to be the reason that we cannot move.

For a child of 13, I highly doubt that the order would be an EOW order. I lived 8 hours previously from my daughter (she was in PA, I was in NC - it was a military move). I had one weekend a month, two weeks vacation per year, and all summer, minus one week. Mom had one weekend a month, plus two weeks vacation a year. I also had every spring break and every winter break. Holidays were split 50/50.

And, with changing custody, dad can (and will most likely) receive you being responsible for all the travel, making it a 14 hour round trip for you.

 

[Isis1]

there are other suggestions such as dad having ALL holidays, ALL summers, and you paying the full cost of transportation, possibly icing on the cake would be waiving child support or lowering it below guidlines. if dad doesn't want the move, you are going ot have a hard time leaving with your child. that's just the way it is.

depending on the costs, it just might make the promotion really not worth the move.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
Arkansas

My husband might be getting trasferred to a new job in an ajoing state. Can my ex keep me from letting my daughter move with us there? I have talked my attorney but he just made me upset, so has anyone else dealt with the same situation and how was your outcome?

Your X can fight the move.

If you take this to court, you must PROVE that this move will be in the best interest of the child AND yourself.

You must PROVE with a parenting plan that you will continue to facilitate a relationship with the child and the NCP.

The move must NOT be to thwart their parenting time.

Be prepared to bear the brunt of the transportation cost.

Be prepared for the NCP to have larger chunks of time together, such as most of the summer, winter breaks, spring breaks, etc.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

I highly suggest not getting into a pissing match with a senior. it tends to make good replies nonexistent.

 

[greatmom2008]

Thanks!

Your X can fight the move.

If you take this to court, you must PROVE that this move will be in the best interest of the child AND yourself.

You must PROVE with a parenting plan that you will continue to facilitate a relationship with the child and the NCP.

The move must NOT be to thwart their parenting time.

Be prepared to bear the brunt of the transportation cost.

Be prepared for the NCP to have larger chunks of time together, such as most of the summer, winter breaks, spring breaks, etc.

I am doing my homework on all of that. I have printed out al lot of information for my ex to look at already> I don't think that he will ask for cost of trans. though because when he moved I did not ask that of him. We (he and I) had talked about this once before and he was good with what we decided on as far as visitation and travel, but my attorney suggests to put it in writing before moving. Good advice though. I encourage the time that they have together, I have nothing against the man. He is a good dad and I want that. I am a stay at home mom, so I have a lot of time with her, so I understand his want to see her more when she would not be in school. Thanks for your reply.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

There are times when the moves really benefit MOST of the parties. The key is keeping the relationship going for the child and the NCP.

You will want to look at the school schedule and see if there are longer weekends that could be used instead of the two day weekends. Examples might be the Monday federal holidays.

 

[LdiJ]

There are times when the moves really benefit MOST of the parties. The key is keeping the relationship going for the child and the NCP.

You will want to look at the school schedule and see if there are longer weekends that could be used instead of the two day weekends. Examples might be the Monday federal holidays.

Webcams and high speed internet can be really good as well. Dad and the child can both see and talk to each other over the net, without the cost of long distance calls.

Also, when it comes to teens, and relocation, it has been my observation that their wishes tend to carry more weight with a judge than in other types of cases. It has been my observation that if they want to relocate with the current CP, they generally get to, and if they don't want to relocate, they generally get that too.

 

[Just Blue]

Webcams and high speed internet can be really good as well. Dad and the child can both see and talk to each other over the net, without the cost of long distance calls.

Also, when it comes to teens, and relocation, it has been my observation that their wishes tend to carry more weight with a judge than in other types of cases. It has been my observation that if they want to relocate with the current CP, they generally get to, and if they don't want to relocate, they generally get that too.

I agree...And teens that are allowed to make these decisions (like OP's child ) Tend to give the CP a very hard time about go to visitation. I predict that "great"mom will be back asking how she can modify her CO because her daughter doesn't want to visit her dad.

 

[LdiJ]

I agree...And teens that are allowed to make these decisions (like OP's child ) Tend to give the CP a very hard time about go to visitation. I predict that "great"mom will be back asking how she can modify her CO because her daughter doesn't want to visit her dad.

Yes, that could happen. However it doesn't happen with all teenagers.