moving out of town

[Jodi0826]

Tigger... as I stated earlier the reason I said I don't mind dropping the support is that fact that he never works and is so far in arrears as it is i dont count on money from him anyway.... i already took it upon myself to start a pre paid college and room and board in the state of florida, to me the money doesnt matter.

 

[tigger22472]

Tigger... as I stated earlier the reason I said I don't mind dropping the support is that fact that he never works and is so far in arrears as it is i dont count on money from him anyway.... i already took it upon myself to start a pre paid college and room and board in the state of florida, to me the money doesnt matter.

the point just went over your head or through your ears I'm not sure which. Maybe Obi will be back and explain it to ya

 

[TLWE]

To the original poster...

Okay...I still haven't figured out why the bio dad is no good because he is willing to let you pay him to take the child out of the country...but the current husband is such a good man...when he has to get a pardon from a crime he committed?

 

[Jsteven]

You missed the point

He wants to stop paying support for his child if she leaves. It's not about him being a bad person because he wants money.

Shouldn't a father want to pay support for his child because that's the right thing to do. It make no sense. He only feels his child should be suported if it's convienent.

I've paid for this childs home, clothing, private schooling and medical insurance not the biological father. In my estimation he shouldn't even have her and he should be thrown in jail for not paying support. Yet Jodi does not wish to do this in fear that it might upset her daughter. Many times in your country i hear stories of men put in prison for not paying support. Why should this be any different.

As for me needing a pardon. There was a time in my life when i was younger that I didn't make the right decision and handled a situation very badly. It was a mistake. We all make them. I make no excuses for what i have do I have paid the price and restitution. All i can do is never do the same thing again. Which I won't.

 

[TLWE]

And let's not even discuss the matter of you telling your new wife about your past, and that it MAY cause problems in the future. Remember that? You marry and take on the responsibilities of another child in a country where you KNEW you could have been deported, denied a permanent visa or any number of other outcomes---by Oberauerdorf

***And he was 100% correct. You married a woman who had a child, then had a child with her...with this huge legal matter hanging over you like a black cloud.

You say: As for me needing a pardon. There was a time in my life when i was younger that I didn't make the right decision and handled a situation very badly. It was a mistake. We all make them. I make no excuses for what i have do I have paid the price and restitution. All i can do is never do the same thing again. Which I won't.

***Why continue creating problems for yourself and your new family? Clear up your legal problems, then come back to your family and be a husband and father. Stop compounding your problems.

***If the bio dad isn't paying CS...then your wife needs to take him to court, contact CSE....but she doesn't have the right to move the child out of the country.

EDIT: You said: I've paid for this childs home, clothing, private schooling and medical insurance not the biological father.

***Welcome to the world of stepparenting...it is often a thankless job.

 

[stealth2]

You need to read some canadian law

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And a very well educated Immigration Lawyer has informed me that when my pardon is granted I will be allowed under BCIS guidlines entrance in to the country.

No, actually I don't, because (a) the pardon is moot to the point and (b) I don't really give a hoot about Canadian law.

The point being, while the pardon will make you eligible under BCIS guidelines, it does NOT require BCIS to grant you legal permission to return to the US to live, work, or anything else. The only thing your pardon guarantees is that you won't be automatically excluded from getting a visa. Why do you think there are so many eligible people around the world jumping through hoops and twiddling their thumbs waiting for visas to the US? You're no different than the rest of them. Once your pardon is granted.

 

[stealth2]

Do I just go down to the court house and file a request to see a judge?

You likely have to file a motion to modify your current order, your ex will have to be served and given an opportunity to respond, and then a hearing will be held. Depending on how crowded your courts are, it could take a few months to get a hearing date.

 

[tigger22472]

Re: You missed the point

He wants to stop paying support for his child if she leaves. It's not about him being a bad person because he wants money.

Shouldn't a father want to pay support for his child because that's the right thing to do. It make no sense. He only feels his child should be suported if it's convienent.

Yes I agree on one hand that he should still support the child for he helped make the child but then on the other hand what kind of relationship can dad have with his daughter when she lives so far away?

Secondly Stealth was right... your pardon has NOTHING to do with this. You aren't even IN this equation. THis is between the bio parents and their child who they have chose to put in the middle of this situation.

Also I agree with TLWE... welcome to step-parenting. That's what we do!!

 

[oberauerdorf]

I will be more than happy to return to this thread and not only explain my answers (or suggestions) to the poster as soon as her hubby stays the hell out of this.

As you have been told, your issues with canada, in fact, your issues with the INS are not germain to the issue of momma bear leaving the country with a child who has a father holding a visitation agreement from a court in Florida.

In fact, you have no legal standing at all in this matter.

Therefore, should you continue sticking your nose in this matter you can also advice your wife on the legal ramifications of her actions.

 

[Jodi0826]

If my ex signs and notarizes an agreement to let me take my daughter to Canada for a certain length of time can he void that document in any way and try to get me in trouble once I am away?

 

[tigger22472]

If my ex signs and notarizes an agreement to let me take my daughter to Canada for a certain length of time can he void that document in any way and try to get me in trouble once I am away?

Yep... a paper noterized still does not over ride a court order and means nothing in a court of law.

 

[stealth2]

As tigger said, a notarized letter does not override a court order - all notarization does is verify that the person signing the letter is the person they claim they are. What you would need to do is file the letter with the court as a modification. Once it's accepted AND signed by a judge, then you're clear. Until then...