my boyfriends in trouble please help

[babyfairy]

What is the name of your state? Missouri
ok well here is the deal me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months and his parents are refusing to let him any where he hasnt been out of his house for like 4 months hes told me before hes afraid of his dad because he thinks his dad is going to hit him and i know his dad hes not a very nice person and his mom used to be really nice but ever since she got with this guy she has became very different and very cruel he cant even call his friends hes so deppressed that he wants to kill him self and his parents say all these negative things about him he thinks very low of him self because of his parents verbal abuse i try my best but that wont take back the words they have said to him what do i do? he wants to run away and on the other hand he wants to live with me but i know that would be harboring a run away what should i do? he really needs help but living with his parents isnt doing so good for him

 

[babyfairy]

they tell him things like your stupid youll never amount to any thing and they are always accusing him of using drugs and he hasnt they get him tested for drugs every week and it always comes up negative what can i do to help him im afraid something bad will happen to him

 

[OhBullship]

1) How old are you?

2) How old is he?

3) If his parents have not let him out of their home in four months how are you seeing each other?

 

[Happy Trails]

What is the name of your state? Missouri
ok well here is the deal me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months and his parents are refusing to let him any where he hasnt been out of his house for like 4 months hes told me before hes afraid of his dad because he thinks his dad is going to hit him and i know his dad hes not a very nice person and his mom used to be really nice but ever since she got with this guy she has became very different and very cruel he cant even call his friends hes so deppressed that he wants to kill him self and his parents say all these negative things about him he thinks very low of him self because of his parents verbal abuse i try my best but that wont take back the words they have said to him what do i do? he wants to run away and on the other hand he wants to live with me but i know that would be harboring a run away what should i do? he really needs help but living with his parents isnt doing so good for him

Does he attend school? What do you mean he hasn't been out of the house in 4-months?

 

[babyfairy]

hes 16 and so am i hes been going to school but thats the only place i can see him the only way we do see each other is if we sneak around i feel so bad for him i mean all they ever do to him is verbally abuse him and say words that arent true at all i just dont know what to do and his parents if i ever call to talk to me they harrass me on the phone calling me a bitch and stuff i just want to talk to him i dont care what they think of me but i dont know what to do

 

[OhBullship]

hes 16 and so am i hes been going to school but thats the only place i can see him the only way we do see each other is if we sneak around i feel so bad for him i mean all they ever do to him is verbally abuse him and say words that arent true at all i just dont know what to do and his parents if i ever call to talk to me they harrass me on the phone calling me a bitch and stuff i just want to talk to him i dont care what they think of me but i dont know what to do

I can understand why you feel badly for him but there isn't a lot that you can do except to step out of the situation to protect yourself from the way they are treating you. While it isn't good to call a child names it is very seldom illegal.

If he has been experiencing physical abuse he should be urged to talk with someone at the school or to call CPS.

 

[Happy Trails]

hes 16 and so am i hes been going to school but thats the only place i can see him the only way we do see each other is if we sneak around i feel so bad for him i mean all they ever do to him is verbally abuse him and say words that arent true at all i just dont know what to do and his parents if i ever call to talk to me they harrass me on the phone calling me a bitch and stuff i just want to talk to him i dont care what they think of me but i dont know what to do

Really there is not much you can do. I would suggest he could talk to the school counselor if he needs to. There are also suicide hotlines.
1-800-SUICIDE
1-800-784-2433

If his mom and dad are determined to keep the two of you apart there isn't much you can do about it.

Info. link: http://suicidehotlines.com/missouri.html

 

[babyfairy]

i mean isnt what they are doing wrong?
can they treat him that way and get away with it?
i mean his dad verbally abuses him every day thats why he thinks so badly of himself isnt that wrong?
i mean hes even afraid to go home now what about that?
i mean its got to a very serious point to where they are keeping him locked up and its causeing him to get sick i mean mentally sick isnt that against the law?

 

[OhBullship]

i mean isnt what they are doing wrong?
can they treat him that way and get away with it?
i mean his dad verbally abuses him every day thats why he thinks so badly of himself isnt that wrong?
i mean hes even afraid to go home now what about that?
i mean its got to a very serious point to where they are keeping him locked up and its causeing him to get sick i mean mentally sick isnt that against the law?

You said that they are locking him up, can you be more specific? Are you talking about locking him in a closet or just not allowing him to run the streets?

Teenagers are not known for accurate perception. It's impossible to say if they are doing anything that would be considered abuse from your posts. He needs to talk with an adult. Schools are mandatory reporters of child abuse, if he talks with a teacher or a counselor at school they might be able to help him.

Is there something more to this story? Why do his parents think you are a bitc*?

 

[babyfairy]

where do you want me to begin there is alot of things that have went on they think im the reason he is doing the things he is but im not and they blame every one else for his problems and it isnt its all because of all the mean things theyve said to him i remember the day after christmas he snuck out of his aunt house to see me because they wouldnt let him see me and he stayed here for like 12 hours and when his mom got here she was mad i remember seeing her pushing him up the stairs of my room because i live in the base ment she shoved him into the stairs and he hit the stairs and his head started bleeding and she grabed his shirt and shoved him all the way out of the house and threw him in the car the following weeks they locked him in his room only allowing him out when he needed to use the bath room its got so bad that they shut their phone line off so he cant talk to any one at all and now they are having him confined in their house just because they think the world is a bad place i think they are really sick people i dont see where they are coming from at all he hasnt done any thing wrong but im so afraid he is going to get hurt

 

[OhBullship]

where do you want me to begin there is alot of things that have went on they think im the reason he is doing the things he is but im not and they blame every one else for his problems and it isnt its all because of all the mean things theyve said to him i remember the day after christmas he snuck out of his aunt house to see me because they wouldnt let him see me and he stayed here for like 12 hours and when his mom got here she was mad i remember seeing her pushing him up the stairs of my room because i live in the base ment she shoved him into the stairs and he hit the stairs and his head started bleeding and she grabed his shirt and shoved him all the way out of the house and threw him in the car the following weeks they locked him in his room only allowing him out when he needed to use the bath room its got so bad that they shut their phone line off so he cant talk to any one at all and now they are having him confined in their house just because they think the world is a bad place i think they are really sick people i dont see where they are coming from at all he hasnt done any thing wrong but im so afraid he is going to get hurt

Babayfairy, someone suggested to me that I google your username and I did. I'm sure that you know what I found and I'm very sorry for the situation that you're in.

Right now it appears you should be concentrating on yourself and not this relationship. I can see why it is important for you but you have too much on your own plate right now.

It might not seem fair to you but his parents might be trying to do what they feel is best for him, even if the two of you do not. Maybe you can take a step in the right direction for yourself and back off a little. I know that at 16 this feels like love but there will be plenty more chances for you down the road.

 

[OhBullship]

Babyfairy, I was hoping that you would come back and respond. If you would like someone to talk with you can send me a PM.