My ex moved to another country without telling me. Advice?

[PotreroHill]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California

I went to drop off our son, "John", at his dad's this morning. There was no answer when I knocked at the door. I called his cell and it went to voicemail. I grew suspicious and I looked in the window. Everything was moved out of the apartment.

I ended up taking John to work with me. I called my former inlaws on the way to school. They told me that ex moved to Costa Rica over the weekend!?! He got a job offer last week and took it. Ex never said anything about it to me when I picked John up on Thursday. I don't understand it. We went to mediation a month ago and worked out custody arrangements. We have joint physical and legal custody and a set schedule. We have/had a child support hearing next week.

What is the best course of action for me to take? Should I go back to court? Do I have any hope of child support?

 

[ecmst12]

Stop starting new threads! Post this in one of your existing threads and keep all your new developments and questions THERE!

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California

I went to drop off our son, "John", at his dad's this morning. There was no answer when I knocked at the door. I called his cell and it went to voicemail. I grew suspicious and I looked in the window. Everything was moved out of the apartment.

I ended up taking John to work with me. I called my former inlaws on the way to school. They told me that ex moved to Costa Rica over the weekend!?! He got a job offer last week and took it. Ex never said anything about it to me when I picked John up on Thursday. I don't understand it. We went to mediation a month ago and worked out custody arrangements. We have joint physical and legal custody and a set schedule. We have/had a child support hearing next week.

What is the best course of action for me to take? Should I go back to court? Do I have any hope of child support?

Unless dad is an honorable guy who is going to voluntarily pay child support you are going to have a tough row to hoe to try to collect child support from him.

I would definitely take custody back to court on the basis that dad just up and moved to Costa Rica without any word to you at all.

 

[PotreroHill]

Stop starting new threads! Post this in one of your existing threads and keep all your new developments and questions THERE!

Sorry, I didn't realize I shouldn't start a new thread.

 

[LdiJ]

Sorry, I didn't realize I shouldn't start a new thread.

Honestly, in my opinion it wasn't necessary to use a previous thread to handle this issue.

I have reviewed your previous threads and the information there basically becomes totally irrelevant based on the fact that your ex has moved to Costa Rica...particularly since he moved to Costa Rica with court dates pending.

Your first thread addressed the fact that you need to move a fairly short distance in a year or so...well, that is no longer a problem.

Your second thread addressed the fact that he is driving a car that has a high payment that you cannot afford...well, that's kind of irrelevant at this point because if he moved to Costa Rica without making arrangements for the car its going to be repo'd and your credit is going to be dinged...there is no way around that. You may also have a problem replating the car you are driving since its in his name.

Your third thread addressed the baby's last name, and that was the thread where everyone gave you a hard time, and that is hardly relevant any longer since dad moved to Costa Rica in the middle of your proceedings.

Your fourth thread was a technical question which was answered and isn't relevant any longer.

Bottom line...dad ran away. He left the country. He ran away in the middle of court proceedings. In some ways you are going to get what you want out of this divorce, and in other ways you are basically screwed. You won't be sharing custody with dad because dad won't be here. The baby's last name isn't going to be changed because dad fled the country. You are going to be stuck with a repo'd car on your credit and you likely won't be able to collect any child support.

Dad ran away...that's reality.