My Girlfriends Parents wont let me see my daughter

[matteberly]

What is the name of your state? Ohio


Im 16 years old, And My girlfriend is 16 also.. We have a 7 month year old daughter.. Im in the Army Reserves (parents signed for me), I have my GED and im starting college and im a teenager WHO wants the resonsibilty of a daughter.. But My girlfriends (megan) mom wont let me over anymore. shes mad at megan because she wanted her to have an abortion but she didnt. so she thinks this is going to teach her a lesson.. WelL icant take this anymore. I really want to see her and my daughter.. which i know there isnt really anything to do by law to see Megan.. But i know there is for my daughter.. I once was told that.. Megan is the legal costodiing (cant spell that word) even though shes a minor and i can go pick up Alexia with her premission (which she would give me).. is this true??? But if it is i know her parents would try to do something when i came over. BEcayse they arready told me they will call the cops on me if i try?? i dont know what to do.. and i dont want to take them to court if i can just go pick her up when ever i want.. and im not waiting till im 18.. please somone help me?? i miss her.. she is my only reason of living

 

[stealth2]

Well, for starters - have you been legally proven to be the father? Do you have court orders giving you visitation rights? That's really what you need. Talk to your parents about helping you find a family law attorney and file for your rights. That will make it more difficult for her parents to butt in.

 

[Smarty Panties]

Court may be your only option. Technically you and your g/f are her parents and your g/f's mother has no say over the baby. But she has threatened you if you try to see the baby so I suggest going to court and setting up support and a visitation schedule.

 

[Whyte Noise]

If your g/f will allow you to see your daughter there isn't much her mom and dad can do about it. They aren't the baby's parents.

However, they ARE your g/f parents. I take it that she's still living at home. If they say don't come on their property, then you'd better not step one foot on it. Sure, you can see your daughter, but you can't go on their property to do it. They "can" call the cops on your for trespassing or anything else they could come up with. Your best bet would be to have your g/f meet you somewhere sometime, OFF her parent's property.

 

[matteberly]

No i didnt get a test saying im the real father but i know i am. BUt do i need to do that to get on the track of seeing my daughter???? if so . then how???.. and i dont want to hire a lawyer because i talked to my moms friends husband (hes one) and he said i can just go to a libary and tell them i want to file a visition paper thing.. and they wil help me file one and i send it to the family court right ????

 

[stealth2]

No, not right. The library isn't equipped to help you file a motion of paternity or visitation.

 

[matteberly]

Well what if my parents cant afford an lawyer.. isnt there some how i can do it my self with out a lawyer

 

[Smarty Panties]

No i didnt get a test saying im the real father but i know i am. BUt do i need to do that to get on the track of seeing my daughter???? if so . then how???.. and i dont want to hire a lawyer because i talked to my moms friends husband (hes one) and he said i can just go to a libary and tell them i want to file a visition paper thing.. and they wil help me file one and i send it to the family court right ????

Did he say law library? That would make more sense than the public library.

 

[stealth2]

The library *may* be able to help you find the appropriate forms, or they should be able to help you find what books they have on the shelves about custody/visitation in OH. Would Mom's friend's husband be willing to look over the papers before they're filed? Or help you out with it on a reduced fee? Might be worth asking.

 

[matteberly]

i was talking about the libary at the stark county family court in ohio.. can i some how get the papers and them help me do it???

 

[matteberly]

Yea i think my moms friend would waive the fees for me. because they been friends since they were kids.. but i dont think thats his speciality thing

 

[stealth2]

Oooooh, I missed that it was a legal library - sorry 'bout that. Generally, if they're not lawyers, they can't help you a great deal. But it would certainly be worth going there and getting all the info you can!

 

[matteberly]

ok, So tomorrow morning im going to the legal libary and going to talk to the preson there about doing the vistition papering my self and they will tell me how to get a court date and all that stuff right? because i know people that stil went to court with out a lawyer.. and then do i have to go see if im the real father to get visition rights(which i kno i am)?? and if so.. does the court get that ready or do i do it my self.. and what happens when i finally go to court and when i get visition rights.. does he make the times and days i see her.. or can me and megan do it ?? but i know her parents wil try to do something..is there anything they can do to stop me and megan doing the agrement plan?? and is there away to make the whole court process go faster if its ssomething to do with seeing there kids.. or does it still go slow??


Thanks alot for ur help!!

 

[matteberly]

and a other thing.. my girlfriend megan is still brest feeding alexia.. and if she says im allowed to take her.. is there any way the court will allow her to come with me and alexia..since she brest feeds.. and her parents will say no. but is there like a thing were.. the court will let her????

 

[wantmoretime]

Good luck to you. You can do all of the paperwork yourself- I did. BUT (and thats a big one) do your homework!!!- this is a great place to start. Find out what the laws are in your state and make sure that you are ready for a battle. Most of the information you can get online, go to your county court house and ask them for the paperwork they should be able to get you what you need. Also try to have your parents call and talk to Megans parents, sometimes that can work, If they want to see your daughter they can express that. Good luck!