NCP takes kids on job

[LdiJ]

Just gonna add my two cents here.

My ex lives at his job (on a ranch) and I thoroughly expect him to take our son out on the ranch to see the animals and go hunting (when he's old enough).

He would take me out in the truck during his work to go look at sites, fix pumps, feed animals, etc.

If I (or my son) were injured in said "work truck" you don't think I would be suing this ranch owner?

It is just bad business practice to take a child or any other significant other (or anybody who isn't an employee) in a work vehicle. LIABILITY out the ying-yang.

IMO.

Yep...that is absolutely the truth.

 

[Silverplum]

Just checking: you ARE prepared, aren't you, for having a CS reduction??

Because if you cut his hours -- and he's working weekends to make ends meet -- you should be staring down a motion to reduce pretty soon afterward.

And if I were in charge, he'd win it. You can't have everything YOUR way.

 

[bononos again]

Just checking: you ARE prepared, aren't you, for having a CS reduction??

Because if you cut his hours -- and he's working weekends to make ends meet -- you should be staring down a motion to reduce pretty soon afterward.

And if I were in charge, he'd win it. You can't have everything YOUR way.

If I had to take a wild and crazy guess, I bet OP was looking to cut down Dad's time.
OP probably didn't think of your angle.
He could also get a reduction based on child care being necessary during his work hours, just like all us 9 to 5 people.

 

[Silverplum]

If I had to take a wild and crazy guess, I bet OP was looking to cut down Dad's time.
OP probably didn't think of your angle.
He could also get a reduction based on child care being necessary during his work hours, just like all us 9 to 5 people.

Golly, I do believe your wild and crazy guess is the right one!

I don't think there was any thought involved, whatsoever. Just stompityness.

 

[delta32]

Not sure how we came to talk about CS, but his order was based on his 9-5 job that he had at the time. As a contractor he makes a lot more (judging from new trucks, new house, etc.). CS isn't an issue with us - he's already mentioned that he's dreading when NY makes the automatic 2-year review of CS because he knows he'll have to pay more.

He has a wife that the children could stay with. I do not know her, so I don't know why he won't leave the children with her if he gets a service call. That, of course would solve the problem.

 

[Silverplum]

Not sure how we came to talk about CS, but his order was based on his 9-5 job that he had at the time. As a contractor he makes a lot more (judging from new trucks, new house, etc.). CS isn't an issue with us - he's already mentioned that he's dreading when NY makes the automatic 2-year review of CS because he knows he'll have to pay more.

He has a wife that the children could stay with. I do not know her, so I don't know why he won't leave the children with her if he gets a service call. That, of course would solve the problem.

Because they are HIS children??

Because he, ya know, LOVES them and WANTS to be with them??

Call me crazy.

 

[delta32]

Golly, I do believe your wild and crazy guess is the right one!

I don't think there was any thought involved, whatsoever. Just stompityness.

Now I'm really confused. Is this directed towards me?

 

[delta32]

Because they are HIS children??

Because he, ya know, LOVES them and WANTS to be with them??

Call me crazy.

If he, ya know, LOVES them, then why would he leave them in a vehicle parked on the streets of NYC alone?

 

[bononos again]

Benefit of the doubt here:

Since his job has changed and he is working during his visitation, would it not be better to modify his visits to other days to reflect this? That way he can actually spend quality time with the kids instead of lugging them to work.

I do not know the distance between you nor anything else on the CO to know if this would work, but, it's a suggestion.

 

[Silverplum]

If he, ya know, LOVES them, then why would he leave them in a vehicle parked on the streets of NYC alone?

Because he isn't a freaked-out parent. LOTS of parents trust their kids to handle less-than-ideal situations. LOTS of parents aren't scared of everyday living.

I'm one of those non-freaked parents. You'd cry for days if you knew what I and my H have *done to* the kids.

 

[delta32]

Benefit of the doubt here:

Since his job has changed and he is working during his visitation, would it not be better to modify his visits to other days to reflect this? That way he can actually spend quality time with the kids instead of lugging them to work.

I do not know the distance between you nor anything else on the CO to know if this would work, but, it's a suggestion.

Finally, actual advice! I about left this forum. I don't want to modify his visits/days because he is pretty much "on call", so he doesn't know when he'll need to go out on a job.

More advice, please?

 

[bononos again]

Finally, actual advice! I about left this forum. I don't want to modify his visits/days because he is pretty much "on call", so he doesn't know when he'll need to go out on a job.

More advice, please?

Well, IMO I think you just may be SOL.
Dad needs to work, but wants to see his kids on the minimal EOW weekend visits he has.

At least he's working and supporting his kids.

You did receive advice prior to this also. I am only offering some suggestions, I am not legally advising you.

 

[delta32]

Well, IMO I think you just may be SOL.
Dad needs to work, but wants to see his kids on the minimal EOW weekend visits he has.

At least he's working and supporting his kids.

You did receive advice prior to this also. I am only offering some suggestions, I am not legally advising you.

Hmm, kind of used to the "SOL". Thanks to all!

 

[LdiJ]

Because he isn't a freaked-out parent. LOTS of parents trust their kids to handle less-than-ideal situations. LOTS of parents aren't scared of everyday living.

I'm one of those non-freaked parents. You'd cry for days if you knew what I and my H have *done to* the kids.

Its against the law to leave your kids in the car, unsupervised, in my state. I thought that was fairly common across the country. Is that not the case? The police will call CPS here and they will take the kids.

 

[Silverplum]

Its against the law to leave your kids in the car, unsupervised, in my state. I thought that was fairly common across the country. Is that not the case? The police will call CPS here and they will take the kids.

Read again what I wrote, and this time, have your eyes open.