My exactly and that is what i told my attorney that my daughter was not going to have a chance to be out on the streets when I have her. His response but it is a good program. Plus even at her moms she would not be out on the streets because they live in the country outside of town. It is just something for her to do while her mom is working on her Thursday and so stepdad will not have to mess with her.
Same thing with the volleyball, when I take her I stay and watch her practice. When it is there weekend he drops her off. Mom usually works on that Saturday so she is not there either. Again it is a way for her to have something to do so he does not have to entertain her.
He has a 12 year old that he can not have unless it is supervised and his child lives 2 states away. He left him behind voluntarily, I would not have left my daughter. There is something wrong with that. Even if it would of been ordered supervised visitation I would still be there.
I sometime wonder how he can sleep at nights knowing his child never gets to see him. But then he doesn't seem to have any problem sleeping knowing he is doing everything within his power to keep me from mine.
I use to feel sorry for him when my ex first met him and my daughter told me that he could not see his child, now I ask myself why would I? I wonder if he even tries.
You know its weird I am not the only one that has been affected by all of this where he is concerned. She no longer has anything to do with her side of the family except for her dad, mom and dad are divorced. Mom got excommuicated when she suggested something to her daughter and he found out. Heaven forbid anyone might influence her besides him.
My daughter use to have friends over to spend the night at her moms but not any more. She can not even speak to the little boy next door because step dad thinks their weird and consequently now so does she. For God sakes its just a little 6 year old who wants to play.
My daughter has a fit because we don't lock our doors and I said why. No one has ever taken anything from our home. We have good neighbors and they keep an eye out for everyone. Her reply, xxxxxx said there is no such thing as good neighbors or people, they are all out to get you.
So you see I had some problems with my ex in the past when she was with her husband's cousin after she left my home. But nothing like now. He doesn't even have anything to do with his brother who use to be friends with my ex.
He is very much a loner and he is teaching my daughter to be one too and to dislike people. At least anyone he doesn't like. She has denounced her grandmother because of him and her mother.
I know that I should of went to there house every time it was my time but after four or five times of driving there with no one home it got old. But I will say this, it was not that way until him and her got married. Then if I was to ask questions or want answers I was to one talk to him or only call when he was there. Which was kinda hard considering she work 7-7 days and he worked 7-7 nights on opposite shifts.
I guess maybe I just got tired of fighting with it all of the time. All of this crap has just about consumed me.
Regardless of wether I drove there or not. It is not her right to convince our daughter that she does not want to come here. I went at Christmas even though she told me I could not have her all week. I wasn't stupid though I told her a week before I was coming and then did not say anything about it after that. AT least not until I was on my way there and I knew they were home. I have her on tape lying about our paperwork. I have her saying to my daughter in the background, you are not a little baby anymore and you can decide unless you are going to let him treat you like one.
Now come on if that is not leading a child or brainwashing one what is. She does not have the right to tell her that and my daughter does not have the right to tell me no either. But wise up people who said life was fair. Who ever told you that things are always cut and dry. Maybe in the judges eyes if I did not drive there she did not refuse. But she is refusing me my rights to parent our child equally. She is telling our daughter it is her choice and that she should not be. Plus the whole time when she calls here on my weekends she is asking her if she is ready to come home and are we being good to her.
So even there is not a problem the minute my daughter gets off the phone there is. The funny thing is when she was here that week at Christmas each day it got better. There was less and less fighting and more of my child I remember at least until mom called at the end of the week and then out came the crap. It is as if my daughter remembers who I am and why she loves me and then mom calls and reminds her that she is not suppose to like us or our home.
