Need advice on ex-husband & kids!

[Jillian483]

Now the Cell Phone BF is saying (via e-mail) he won't pay for orthodontics for my youngest daughter as it's "a discretionary expense." This is in response to me not giving him my latest expense check for $488.11 until he returns the cell phones or reimburses me $200. She has been wearing headgear for over a year and is about to get braces. She needs her jaw re-aligned and may need surgery down the road. I am going through all my paperwork from the ortho and saving the Ex's e-mail about not paying. In addition, our oldest is smack dab in her third phase of orthodontics - I guess he can't refuse to pay for that as it is medically necessary - she was born with a cleft lip and palate. The oldest is about to get 100 cavities filled - dental insurance won't cover it all - the Ex has not yet refused to help pay that.

I have to go ahead and start her treatment - I guess I will just set up a payment plan and pay for now - but this can't go on - I may need to seek legal action.

What do you all think?

Cell Phone BM (Jan)

The ex to my hub to court for the same braces thing and he brought all of her dental records as well as subpoenaed her orthodontist. To make a long story short.... (skipping some crap) The courts ruled that the daughter is allowed to get braces. The thing here is that the courts are trying to maintain that the children are living the same lifestyles that they would have been living if the parents had not separated. If the children would have gotten braces if you were still married then they are entitled to get them even if you are not.

 

[ENASNI]

Ya know

Tis funny...
Sometimes I imagine the guys on this forum/board... whatever gathering in a corner with their cigars saying... The Chickens are at it again..

Its like that scene in Jerry Maguire you know the Tom Cruise film... all the divorced women in one room telling their sad stories..
Heck I know its not gonna stop here... we are women aren't we but Jeesh
we all have our sad stories..lets try to help with what we have learned legally... not opinionally if we can try... ( heck we are women... its hard)
I have been guilty of being opioionated and harsh and OMG cruel... but
JEESH...
Maybe I have no hand here to play... My ex and I ended amicably... no courts.. no child support .. no child custody.. mostly 50/50 sharing//
But I have friends who went and are going thru hell..

But ladies... why always a 43 to 50 post on something like this.
Lets just keep our harping to our friends... advise legal what we know and then
well go out and throw the kid to the doberman...(oops did I say that out loud ) I mean ask the kid to pick up after the doberman and then run and hide under the bed..
(Dr Spocks chapter of parenting that did not make it to cover...but is still quite smart!)

 

[mrsbrown]

Now the Cell Phone BF is saying (via e-mail) he won't pay for orthodontics for my youngest daughter as it's "a discretionary expense." This is in response to me not giving him my latest expense check for $488.11 until he returns the cell phones or reimburses me $200. She has been wearing headgear for over a year and is about to get braces. She needs her jaw re-aligned and may need surgery down the road. I am going through all my paperwork from the ortho and saving the Ex's e-mail about not paying. In addition, our oldest is smack dab in her third phase of orthodontics - I guess he can't refuse to pay for that as it is medically necessary - she was born with a cleft lip and palate. The oldest is about to get 100 cavities filled - dental insurance won't cover it all - the Ex has not yet refused to help pay that.

I have to go ahead and start her treatment - I guess I will just set up a payment plan and pay for now - but this can't go on - I may need to seek legal action.

What do you all think?

Cell Phone BM (Jan)

If you have reported them as stolen and have new phones on the way why are you still withholding payment of the 488? No matter what your reason is you are not handling this legally. Perhaps you will need to start going thru something in the middle to handle payments since neither one of you can let this go. My husband turns the kids medical bills over to the case manager at DHR and they handle it from there.

 

[Jillian483]

If you have reported them as stolen and have new phones on the way why are you still withholding payment of the 488? No matter what your reason is you are not handling this legally. Perhaps you will need to start going thru something in the middle to handle payments since neither one of you can let this go. My husband turns the kids medical bills over to the case manager at DHR and they handle it from there.

yes the money does need to be returned immediatly. If you don't you could be held in contempt.

 

[Jillian483]

It would still be nice to get the phones back though so that you can sell them and get the money for them.

 

[ENASNI]

Yeah, that is what I thought

keep going it is more fun than a tupperware party

 

[Jillian483]

keep going it is more fun than a tupperware party

Tupperware parties are fun?

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

I can't believe how long this thread has gone on.

The lady needs to call the police, they will knock on his door and say???????????????

You have cell phones you took from your children, but the problem is, they belong to Miss. So and So.

Do you think Daddy will not give up the phones at this point?

Court is stupid in this case.

And poster? Pay your expense thing, all you are doing is being vendictive and involving you teenage kids.

 

[Jillian483]

I can't believe how long this thread has gone on.

The lady needs to call the police, they will knock on his door and say???????????????

You have cell phones you took from your children, but the problem is, they belong to Miss. So and So.

Do you think Daddy will not give up the phones at this point?

Court is stupid in this case.

And poster? Pay your expense thing, all you are doing is being vendictive and involving you teenage kids.

Ahh paradice I think there are stupid people on the military site again.

 

[ENASNI]

hey now its a cat fight

Ahh paradice I think there are stupid people on the military site again.

Don't be dissing on the PARADISE... or if you do at least spell her name right..

Then I can think I am arguing with grey matter not ...oops gotta go my cell phone is ringing

 

[Jillian483]

Don't be dissing on the PARADISE... or if you do at least spell her name right..

Then I can think I am arguing with grey matter not ...oops gotta go my cell phone is ringing

I wasn't dissing on her

 

[stealth2]

Don't be dissing on the PARADISE... or if you do at least spell her name right..

psssst.... might want to check that yourself.